Hello, I'm a girl of 16 and in the summer I met a boy by chance, he is 25. One day I had to take something from him and he invited me to go for a walk with his car, I hesitated because I didn't know him at all, but I went up, so from that day we are constantly walking around together, but he told me that he was in love with me shortly after our acquaintance. I had no sympathy for him, but after meeting him I can say that I am very attached to him, we constantly talk and share everything, but there is one problem he is a Roma and we always have to hide when we go out, because all my friends and older people know him and I guess they'll mind me going out with him. And sometimes I get tired of all this hiding and lying to my parents who I'm dating, what should I do? The boy is really very conscientious, he made mistakes and he told me that he was sorry for them. He also has a unique attitude towards me, he is polite, he thinks very maturely, which really makes me happy. What can I do, he is exactly my type and we really understand each other a lot, but sometimes I like everything to be secret and to hide all the time?
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Do not care! It doesn't matter what it is, as long as you feel good about it. The important thing is to be happy and loved, and people ... they will always be angry and comment. Good luck .. I wish you a lot of love :)
Abe, you arrive with these Roma and I don't know what. He's human, he's good, you know. Don't be a Martian by accident. Tell yourself who you want and that's it. Great drama. If you and the people around you are not rubbish - everything will be okay.
Do not hide. Go to them. See how they live, see his family and friends. Do you want to have such a life? Gypsy does not change. Get away while you can.
If you live like a Roma woman (you look after children and live in a ghetto), continue to "see" the "in love" brazier.
there is something Roma in my girlfriend and I am worried about that. I have been with her for 9 months now, they know her and like her a lot, but they don't know because she is very white. I'm worried about their reaction, and I'm 28, I'm not 16 like you. For now, keep it a secret, you are smaller and experience the moments.
Not at all, but you have no idea what you're up to! I'm not a racist, but as far as I know the tribe in question, this "boy" may soon hear grandchildren as he fishes with you and pretends to be holy water ... No wonder his seduced experience is as old as your age. And even if that's not the case, the probability of writing a tearful topic in the style of "seduced and abandoned" here in just a few months is 99%! Judge for yourself if it's worth the risks. P.S. And one more thing - there is no word in the Bulgarian language that in the feminine, plural ends in "her"! Focus on your education - now is the time.
As number 6 noted, this guy is married and has at least three children. I am not a racist either, but I know the customs of the Roma up close (I have gypsy friends). A twenty-five-year-old, if he's physically and mentally healthy, he just can't be free unless he's abandoned his family. Note the age of the author, dear numbers 1 and 2, then give her inadequate advice. If she was 25, able to judge and make decisions - yes, but she is a deluded girl. Number 5, and you're ashamed that at 28 you sound and act like an eight-year-old.
You do not need to tell anyone if you think they will react negatively. It is possible that your parents are firmly against your relationship - not only because of his ethnicity, but also because of the age difference. Get to know him well. Be sure that he has no vile intentions towards you and that he is not the typical "rum" - willing to win without working; If you do not feel ready to be a mother in the coming years, but want to develop in another direction (education; work; hobbies) - share it openly, explain it, listen to his opinion, so that there are no unpleasant surprises. Being of Roma origin does not necessarily mean that he is an unsuitable partner. There are many cases of talented, hard-working and honest Roma - I read articles about students of such ethnicity, studying medicine. We have a negative attitude towards the Roma, as well as they towards us. If we manage to integrate them into our society and share ideas and experiences, we will be a much more developed and successful nation. That is, if they take from us perseverance, hard work and the desire to succeed, and we from them - carefree, love of art, openness - we will be not only more cohesive, but also happier. D.S.
I'm 16 and he's 25. I'm not saying that there is something inherently bad, but it is a situation in which VERY often the girl just sinks, as teenagers have a habit of doing - to turn their heads on batkovtsi, especially in a situation where that the Roma are very good manipulators. It will probably pass in a few months and if you have done anything you will regret it and feel used. I don't know him, it may be real, but probably not. So you didn't learn from the experience and tears of millions of 16-year-olds before you ... There's no way he can take you seriously at 25, especially from his tribe, where 16-year-olds are seen as pieces of meat to fuck and an ideal starting point. career as an incubator ... Understand that he is 25 and at this age he is having sex at any moment and simply has no sense of morality compared to the fact that you are small. I say this just to realize what he is looking for ... Do you think that he will wait for you to grow up until he turns 28-30, so that you can have a childhood and your own life and be able to choose? Don't let the hormones fuck you like many others before you ...
The Bulgarian woman is losing more and more self-esteem.
Don't be so dumb and naive as to lie to a gypsy. Years ago, two pretty girls (one was my classmate's cousin) were hanging out with a gypsy in the city. We look at them and wonder at their minds. Apparently he was spending money on them, though he didn't look like a mutt or a big paralytic. If they walked around the center naked, they wouldn't be exposed much more than that.
You have at least five reasons to worry here. 1. He is much bigger than you. 2. He is a rum. No matter how much we claim that "not all Roma are like that" (understand those who live by their own rules, refuse to work, breaking the law, etc.), you should know that about 90% of them are exactly like that. 3. He made mistakes, but he claims to be sorry ... well, you don't write exactly what mistakes he made, but it's very easy to say you're sorry, isn't it? In the end, when the killers catch them, they claim to be sorry, but that doesn't make them any less killers. 4. And you know that all your friends and relatives will be against your relationship. If absolutely everyone is against it, it's not bad to light the light that there is definitely something rotten. Because when a person is in love, he doesn't think with his head, but your friends see things from the side. 5. Behaving well is great, but how can you be sure that you don't play theater? After all, even the biggest freaks, when they set a goal, can behave great while their victim takes the bait and then shows their true face. Migar few women have fallen victim to such? That they even lied and married them. And then "Help! He changed! He beats me systematically!". I'm not saying that your friend will become a bully, but keep in mind that very good is not good and if he is too perfect, something is not quite right. Here I gave you at least 5 reasons to dump it. And if you tell us more about him, the 6th and 7th and 8th will certainly appear. So you better not get involved so as not to regret it. Yes, I know you're in love, but don't let your emotions drive you because you don't know if you're going to suffer in the end.
From the author: I know everything about him, and he has no children and no wife. He lives with his grandparents. We slept together several times, but did nothing. He once thought it would work, but I said I didn't want to. Then he apologized to me and said he would not do it again and he kept it. He even cried, apologized to me and said that nothing should have happened between us, and also that I was not for him, but I deserved something better. I told him I wanted him and asked him what he wanted, and he replied that he wanted the best for me. He is really very decent and does not want me to have problems, he always protects me and would do anything for me.