I have had a serious friend for about two and a half years. During that time I had a hesitation between him and another man, the other was passionate and drove me crazy, my current boyfriend is serious, but there is no passion between us. I still long for that man. Which do you think is more valuable than security or passion? I want to find the other one, will it be worth it? I don't know, but the thought of him has haunted me for a long time.
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If there is no passion between you, all is lost. There will always be someone who will drive you crazy or you will succumb to temptation (then you will lie to your husband) or you will resist and remain "faithful" to your husband (faithful and unloved ....). In either case, you will suffer. If it's not too late, let your husband know that you don't have a passion for him, maybe you love him as a friend, a friend, someone you care about, but - believe me, passion is very important in a relationship - at least in the beginning it should be there.
Well, I think you have to answer the question of whether you are ready to lose what you have now, because it is unlikely to be the same after that. Then everything will become clear to you.
CHOOSE THE SERIOUS ONE. THERE IS NO PASSION THAT DOES NOT PASS.
HELLO! I think choose passion! EXPERIENCE THIS BEAUTIFUL FEELING THAT YOU WILL SORRY LATER! SUCCESS!
Number 1: when you say that in time everything passes, then it means that with this madman, things will end in time. Then will it be serious? And should passion be sought after him again? If so, then again, after the cooled lover, another will have to come, followed by someone else and someone else! And then by your logic, if it is such that you have to look for the passion that cools down and then you look for it again, then you are women ... Do I have to say it and is it so?
After 5 months of acquaintance we decided on a wedding. The organization lasted 4 months. At that time, he began another relationship with a colleague. Still, he chose the younger one, the more challenging one, and dumped me 6 weeks before the wedding without suspecting her and without a valid explanation. They got engaged, but now he's not with her. There is no passion that lasts forever - everything is fleeting.
Hello! Do you know that I am in the same situation, and I have a friend for two years and the passion I had before is gone, and there is another man who is still driving me crazy, but I can't just dump my boyfriend! I just don't know what to do, but I think I'm thinking of staying with the boy I love, not making a mistake if I leave him and give in to passion! My advice is to stay with your boyfriend, as I think I will do! SUCCESS!
I answer number 5 - You didn't understand me correctly. Or maybe I didn't clarify ..... I know that passion always passes and I don't think it's the only important thing. But it's important to have it - for a little, for a lot, it doesn't matter. But if there has never been a passion between two people, then what are we talking about. I don't think such a relationship is healthy - I have one. Maybe it is normal after 10-15 years of marriage and one or two children to sleep separately and make love once every 3 months for 2 minutes ..... But with us it is so from the beginning. And the reason, I think, is that there has never been passion between us. I respect him a lot, I care about him, but - is that enough to make me happy?
YOU CAN'T BE SURE WHETHER IT'S WORTH IT IF YOU DON'T MEET AGAIN, BUT FOR ME BOTH THINGS ARE IMPORTANT. YOU HAVE TO CONSCIOUS WHO YOU LIKE MORE, OF COURSE, IF YOU MEET A SECOND AND CONTINUE YOUR LIFE WITH HIM, IF HE WANTS, BUT IF HE DOESN'T WANT, I WON'T GET RID. GOOD LUCK!!!
Answer to №8: I think that with this explanation you should draw your own conclusions.
I chose security and now sometimes I'm sorry, I can go back to passion, he still wants me, but I'm ugly, just how ugly I dumped him, and I couldn't count on him for anything, and security creeps on me every day nerves and we just fight, but I know - it's always there when needed. That is why it is best to have both security and passion, but I have never met such a man.