Hello! I am a 16 year old girl. I will ask you for some advice ... And as I wrote above at the age of 16. I am. I have family, good friends and people I can count on, but I just don't want to bother them with my complexes anymore and what not. They are certainly fed up with me. Even some don't believe me sometimes. In principle, something is almost always wrong with me. Yes, I'm healthy, I try to live fully because I'm just in the beginning, but something bad always happens around me or with me. I'm doing almost nothing. I have very little self-confidence, I'm really confused, I worry a lot, I have problems with hair, weight and I'm not one of the best girls. Some get scared and tell me they like me because of my character. There's nothing wrong with that, I'm even happy, but sometimes I just wish there was more to it than that. I want to be liked in appearance as well. All the complexes that I have listed are constantly in my head. I'm very self-critical and sometimes I don't know how to deal with a moment. Even now, everything seems to be going the other way around. Quite nasty things happen to my relatives, and nasty things happen to me. (I've also thought about suicide ... I'm ashamed sometimes) I just really don't know what to do. I am a super indecisive person and I always take offense and criticize. If anyone can help me with some advice I will be very grateful! I'm ashamed sometimes) I just really don't know what to do. I am a super indecisive person and I always take offense and criticize. If anyone can help me with some advice I will be very grateful! I'm ashamed sometimes) I just really don't know what to do. I am a super indecisive person and I always take offense and criticize. If anyone can help me with some advice I will be very grateful!
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You focus too much on problems instead of possible solutions. For hair, the solution is simple - a razor, wax mask, etc. All women go through the same procedures. Talk to your mother if you need practical help with this. When you become independent, if these things seem annoying to you, you can go through a laser hair removal procedure, etc. The weight requires a little more effort - exercise and diet, but must be prepared especially for you by a nutritionist. The results will not come all at once, but they will work out over time. Once you have a good character and even they like boys because of that, when they see that you start making an effort for your appearance, they will start paying more attention to you, even without achieving the end result. I wish you success. P.P. Suicide is the greatest nonsense a person can do. Don't think about it at all, I've been through similar ideas and they don't bring anything good.
Complexes are normal in adolescence. Start playing sports or dancing. this way you will lose weight and feel much better. Go to a hair beautician. And the other ... Have fun and enjoy your youth. Everything will be fine sooner or later.
Can you do something about these appearance problems? If you can - do it. If you can't - accept them. If you can, but you don't - then it's your fault and you have to see why you don't. If there is nothing you can do, you accept your physical nature and develop in other directions. I personally assume (judging by myself) that you can do things for your appearance, but you don't do them out of laziness and lack of ambition and drive, as well as out of fear (fear that if you change radically your parents or friends can you do not accept). You may not be able to fix everything, but you can fix enough to feel better in front of other people. You decide and you do it, slowly but gloriously. It is.