Hello! Sometimes, when I have time, I read the stories on the site, some are funny, others have a lot of truth in them .. I never imagined that I would write here, but I want to share, because there is a big mess in my head ... It's a little strange, but I'll try ... So, the thing is, I fell terribly in love with a man. Just to say I'm not a teenager, I considered myself a sensible young woman. I don't know what happened to me, I just saw in his gestures and words all the signs that he wants us to have a common future together, that he is very serious and so on. The truth is that he is my ideal man both in appearance and social status. Maybe that's why it happened ... I interpreted everything very wrong, just the opposite of the real thing. I realize that with his behavior he wanted to tell me that he was looking for a dump and sex, and I almost heard wedding bells ... Even now I'm burning with shame, that I was so deluded must be thinking of me as the most naive girl in the world. It was very strange, I was like in a fairy tale, I don't know how and why ... And today I just thought and put myself in his place, but really in his, as if a curtain literally fell before my eyes and I understood everything. So many misinterpretations of every word or gesture, isn't it true, was I blind or what? ... However, he seemed to be conscientious, because we didn't get to bed, and when I thought about it, he stayed a little ... He obviously understood that I took everything very seriously and inwardly, and he stopped so as not to hurt me, because if we were having sex could get more involved - if at all possible. That's fine, but I've got other problems with this hobby of mine. I hope they are not very serious, but I think they will be ... I wanted to share with you, really a very unfamiliar situation for me, maybe because I don't have much, let alone any experience with men, that's why it happened. I think I fell in love with one of my fictional ideals, it just wasn't me, I wasn't here. I longed for such love and obviously I created it in my head. Now it's funny and I'm ashamed of myself at the same time. I don't think I can look him in the eye, I'm so naive ... However, when I understood things, the good thing is that I'm no longer attracted to him like that, just the illusion and everything disappeared. Oh, I know it became like a novel, just my thoughts are very confused, there are many more details. I want to advise girls to love themselves first and then think about men! And be very careful not to fall in love as much as I do with some image you have invented! It's good that things ended on time for me, but you may not be so lucky. Doubt, look for other opinions. I didn't do it and I lived in incredible delusion for 2 months. And if it's to fall in love, it's a really great feeling - your world becomes different, you shine, you don't think about anything but the rosy future ... it's just a pity it wasn't true ... But there is something else: people think of me for a positive and beautiful girl, I have suitors.
Some of them are honest women, I cut them without thinking about it ... But there are also good, decent, nice, educated boys, to whom I simply did not give a chance. And not out of any arrogance or anything, but because I'm not attracted to anything, nothing trembles in me. I say to myself: come on now, give him a chance, try, but I can't. I always tried to be kind, not to hurt them as much as possible. However, if they also experience what I experienced the moment I realized, it would be very bad - something broke in me, my world collapsed, I had no strength for anything, I even wanted to die for a moment. Then, as I was thinking, I corrected myself, I even found it ridiculous of my stupidity ... I think I have remorse, you will probably say: you found the master ... Maybe my judgment is very wrong, I don't know anymore. But I hope others are not as sensitive and dedicated in their feelings as I am. And lastly, let me ask the girls: do you believe in true, great love? I firmly believed, but now I'm very hesitant, I'm starting to think that 90% of men just want to have fun and run away, right?
But I hope others are not as sensitive and dedicated in their feelings as I am. And lastly, let me ask the girls: do you believe in true, great love? I firmly believed, but now I'm very hesitant, I'm starting to think that 90% of men just want to have fun and run away, right? But I hope others are not as sensitive and dedicated in their feelings as I am. And lastly, let me ask the girls: do you believe in true, great love? I firmly believed, but now I'm very hesitant, I'm starting to think that 90% of men just want to have fun and run away, right?
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Do not expose the percentages are at least 95. There is true love, but it is difficult to find, unfortunately ... LK
From the Author: This is really sad ... Maybe I should change, not to be such an idealist, because in this way I will only suffer. But somehow I want to believe in the good in people, in the fact that they are sincere, honest ...
What can I tell you, I am 25 years old, I have recently been married to a person with whom we have been together for more than 10 years. As much sex is waiting for me as much as I wanted (to note that it is two years older), things just happened by themselves, we did not think so. So, if you ask me, true great love exists, you just have to be in the right place at the right time. Don't despair, I know other cases like mine, so head up :)
This seems to be normal for all women. No matter how firmly we are on the ground, from within we come to see the ideal in every man who is more likeable to us. I have experienced men, but I have been in the same situation several times. Even now it is quite similar. It's just that I'm not lucky that my "ideal man" lets me go - he keeps me on his bait without telling me anything specific about our relationship. So you are really lucky :) I hope this does not stop you from falling in love in the future. I don't think there is a better feeling than that. Yes, it hurts a lot when love is unrequited, but the thought that I may miss the chance to experience something wonderful worries me more than the shame of self-delusion. ШФЩ
From the Author: Girls, I came to a certain truth in a difficult way, so I want to share with you to be careful: when a man is not sure if you like him and pretend to be inaccessible, he starts asking you even more. However, if you reveal your feelings, the interest evaporates in a flash. I think it applies to most men.
Yes, unfortunately it is true. It's like with the forbidden fruit - tell someone that you can't be there and you are already becoming their target. It is more interesting that way. But it is a pity that you have to hide your feelings so as not to lose someone's attention. ШФЩ
From the Car Park: Girls, you know, at one point I was in a bad mood, some thoughts that I was defective and that I would be left alone. But now I realized, I want to inspire you too: do not waste your time with people who do not deserve it, appreciate yourself, sooner or later you will find the happiness you deserve! If something happens, then there is a reason, if two people are not together, then they are not on the same wave and there is no reason to be together!
I am a man and from what has been written it is still not clear why it did not work out? Did he tell you he only wanted sex or did he want something more serious? From what has been written, it seems that you assume that he only wanted sex or a temporary adventure, and probably his motives were completely different? It is true that women imagine various things about the experience of love, but they also draw their own conclusions about the desires of men. Have you tried to talk honestly with this man or made your conclusion on the advice of others and following the common belief that all men are like that, for this or that. I say this not by chance, because if you have the habit of putting all people under one denominator, there will come a time when the man who really loves you will appear, and you will send him to those who only want a dump and fast sex.
From the Author: I always try to understand people, not to judge them in advance. I wanted to talk, to clarify, but maybe I became too insistent and he was even scared of me. It's hard to explain, now that you think about it, the story is really confusing. But overall, I think we're both pretty weird. Judging by his behavior, he liked me, but at the same time he didn't take the initiative for anything more, I was very active, he seemed to draw the wrong conclusions ... Anyway, this is in the past, I'm trying to learn my lessons and not to remember this story badly. I want to accept that this was a lesson from which I must draw the appropriate conclusions.
Your author's problem is cardinal. First you ask for advice, wondering what is going on, saying that this is self-delusion, and after 4 days you decide that you have found yourself, that you can even give advice. This is also the problem of a large part of the youth at the moment. They pass quickly from state to state, underestimate what has happened and at the first shocks start to swear at this or that. Of course, they want to get what happened out of their minds in the quickest way possible, without realizing that they may first have to make sense of what happened and accept the grief as a teacher who must always remember it. Even if you have a lot of grief, you still prefer to catch someone with a straw. Then it turns out that it is inappropriate and that there are a lot of shortcomings, or you come to the conclusion that he did not want you. You want the man next to you to be on the cover of a fashion magazine, to give you security and money, and to be by your side when you want to. On top of that, there must be a thrill, that is, sex should be good, not to bother excessively, but also to run excessively to keep your thrill to him. At the same time, if there is someone next to them not so beautiful, not so rich, but quite dedicated, you immediately decide that this is not the person next to you, because your requirements are greater, you accept your relationships as a professional career and development. The consequence of everything I wrote you wrote it in the topic. Out of so many desires and contradictions, you meet the most inappropriate ones, the ones who will drink the most, beat you or lie to you. The forest. On top of that, there must be a thrill, that is, sex should be good, not to bother excessively, but also to run excessively to keep your thrill to him. At the same time, if there is someone next to them not so handsome, not so rich, but quite dedicated, you immediately decide that this is not the person next to you, because your requirements are greater, you accept your relationships as a professional career and development. The consequence of everything I wrote you wrote it in the topic. Out of so many desires and contradictions, you meet the most inappropriate ones, the ones who will drink the most, beat you or lie to you. The forest. On top of that, there must be a thrill, that is, sex should be good, not to bother excessively, but also to run excessively to keep your thrill to him. At the same time, if there is someone next to them not so handsome, not so rich, but quite dedicated, you immediately decide that this is not the person next to you, because your requirements are greater, you accept your relationships as a professional career and development. The consequence of everything I wrote you wrote it in the topic. Out of so many desires and contradictions, you meet the most inappropriate ones, the ones who will drink the most, beat you or lie to you. The forest. you immediately decide that this is not the person next to you, because your requirements are greater, you accept your relationships as a professional career and development. The consequence of everything I wrote you wrote it in the topic. Out of so many desires and contradictions, you meet the most inappropriate ones, the ones who will drink the most, beat you or lie to you. The forest. you immediately decide that this is not the person next to you, because your requirements are greater, you accept your relationships as a professional career and development. The consequence of everything I wrote you wrote it in the topic. Out of so many desires and contradictions, you meet the most inappropriate ones, the ones who will drink the most, beat you or lie to you. The forest.
Yes, maybe you're right about a lot of things ... Sometimes women don't really know what they want. But I don't hate it, I accept that it should have happened. Did I make a mistake, did he, did I not understand, was there a misunderstanding, did someone lack courage ..., it is in the past. He will find a more suitable one, I a more suitable one. It's only a matter of time. We've already parted ways with him.
This mistake is made by too many men and women. They do not want to accept that they have merit in their own relationship, that it got there and for their own sake, and that if no lesson is learned and if they do not dig deep to understand everything, the next relationship will be much more painful, because there will be new hopes, new expectations and new responsibilities. You can't run away from yourself all your life, Miss Author, no one can. Better realize it now, go back in time, find out what happened to you, why it was necessary to get here, but do not blame only him, be objective and for yourself, not for him. It will hurt, it will be hard and difficult, but if you manage, the future will be far better for you. A person who avoids the past and does not learn from it, but says that he does not know why it happened or that it does not matter, is lost in the future and is doomed to the same mistakes. Think about it, a person only needs shelter, food and a little more humanity, the rest is vanity. I think that with you, as with many other people, vanity is in large quantities. One cannot simply say "What is written has happened" or "everyone will find a man". This is irresponsible! That's what you're going to say to everyone else, as long as something's wrong. Think about it, you chose to be with this person, you probably enjoyed some common moments, you were probably happy with him when you post a topic here, it was probably nothing. Probably you made a mistake somewhere along the way, it is not said that you have to get together, but just that you have to understand why it came to this. I bet that you, like most people with such thinking and problems, have stumbled at the moment with the transfer of responsibilities, when you did not want to take yours, but you justified it with his actions. If you still do not understand my words, I wish you success with the following. The forest.