Hello friends. Like all confused people like me, I don't know where to start my story. I guess I will have to be a little more detailed in order to be understood as much as possible. I am a 23-year-old man, I live abroad, a successful graduate and a working person. I put my story in the "Love and Infidelity" section because my problem focuses mainly on my girlfriend. I'll start a little further. Before I went abroad, I had a relationship with another woman, which unfortunately began to become toxic very quickly. Anyway. I went abroad and the woman "X" and I had a long-distance relationship. I was coming back to Bulgaria, she came to me several times abroad as a guest, but in general the time spent together was extremely small and I constantly understood things about her from common acquaintances which things I did not like at all! The toxicity in our relationship began to get stronger and stronger, a year and a half of torment for both me and her, and finally I couldn't stand it and put an end to it. It wasn't long before I started writing to my current girlfriend, she was an acquaintance who lived in Bulgaria and I was abroad. Things developed extremely quickly between us and we decided to try a connection (despite the distance). Shortly after we started our relationship, I had to return for 10 days and I had the opportunity to get to know her a little better. The 10 days spent with her showed me that she is a wonderful person, very dedicated and loving. Then I went back abroad and the distance was between us again, but that was no problem for both of us. With each passing day, she impressed me more and more (especially mentally, and not visually) and I became more and more attached to her. 5 months later and I found a seasonal job with me (for about 2 months) so we could spend a little more time together and a few days before she left we decided to keep her with me permanently. This is what has happened to this day (we have been living together for 2 and a half years now). During this time, every day our relationship became more stable, more secure .. in short, everything "in" the right direction.
She showed me that I am the only person for her, we love each other very much, the harmony between us reigned constantly. And so until the moment came when my psyche became "sick". A year ago something happened to me and later it turned out that this "something" is called Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and this OCD led to depression. I went to psychotherapy, things calmed down, but I decided to end the sessions, unfortunately there was no time and OCD returned in full force, unfortunately this time completely focused on my girlfriend. I started to fantasize about her, jealousy started knocking on the door, but here I want to emphasize that my jealousy is based mainly on her past and not on the present, ie I am jealous of her past, I understood separately (after many attempts) on her part to cover up the truth, but I understood everything) that her sexual partners are relatively more than mine and this hurt my masculine dignity or if you want to call it ego. From there, a sexual-based complex was born. At the moment, obsessive thoughts (obsessions) do not give me peace, I feel constantly nervous, unfortunately we quarrel with my girlfriend.
She keeps convincing me that I already know everything about her past, but I can't believe her, because, as I mentioned, she was constantly trying to cover it up. But I can say about her that she is a wonderful and modest person who, because of her desire to be loved and her complexes (because of her weight), has allowed some people to take advantage of her sexually in one form or another. She was super naive, blind, stupid and overconfident. The point is that I would not allow myself to separate, but on the other hand, rotten thoughts do not leave me alone and everything reflects on our relationship. I'm starting to can't take it anymore. At the moment I have started therapy again with the same psychologist, as she is already familiar with my problem. I just want some opinion on how the situation I am in sounds to you ?? Who is wrong and who is right? Abe .. in a nutshell some opinion! Please no hate! Greetings !! because, as I have already mentioned, she was constantly trying to cover it up. But I can say about her that she is a wonderful and modest person who, because of her desire to be loved and her complexes (because of her weight), has allowed some people to take advantage of her sexually in one form or another. She was super naive, blind, stupid and overconfident. The point is that I would not allow myself to separate, but on the other hand, rotten thoughts do not leave me alone and everything reflects on our relationship. I'm starting to can't take it anymore. At the moment I have started therapy again with the same psychologist, as she is already familiar with my problem. I just want some opinion on how the situation I am in sounds to you ?? Who is wrong and who is right? Abe .. in a nutshell some opinion!
Please no hate! Greetings !! because, as I have already mentioned, she was constantly trying to cover it up. But I can say about her that she is a wonderful and modest person who, because of her desire to be loved and her complexes (because of her weight), has allowed some people to take advantage of her sexually in one form or another. She was super naive, blind, stupid and overconfident. The point is that I would not allow myself to separate, but on the other hand, rotten thoughts do not leave me alone and everything reflects on our relationship. I'm starting to can't take it anymore. At the moment I have started therapy again with the same psychologist, as she is already familiar with my problem. I just want some opinion on how the situation I am in sounds to you ?? Who is wrong and who is right? Abe .. in a nutshell some opinion! Please no hate! Greetings !! she kept trying to cover it up. But I can say about her that she is a wonderful and modest person who, because of her desire to be loved and her complexes (because of her weight), has allowed some people to take advantage of her sexually in one form or another. She was super naive, blind, stupid and overconfident.
The point is that I would not allow myself to separate, but on the other hand, rotten thoughts do not leave me alone and everything reflects on our relationship. I'm starting to can't take it anymore. At the moment I have started therapy again with the same psychologist, as she is already familiar with my problem. I just want some opinion on how the situation I am in sounds to you ?? Who is wrong and who is right? Abe .. in a nutshell some opinion! Please no hate! Greetings !! she kept trying to cover it up. But I can say about her that she is a wonderful and modest person who, because of her desire to be loved and her complexes (because of her weight), has allowed some people to take advantage of her sexually in one form or another. She was super naive, blind, stupid and overconfident. The point is that I would not allow myself to separate, but on the other hand, rotten thoughts do not leave me alone and everything reflects on our relationship. I'm starting to can't take it anymore. At the moment I have started therapy again with the same psychologist, as she is already familiar with my problem. I just want some opinion on how the situation I am in sounds to you ?? Who is wrong and who is right? Abe .. in a nutshell some opinion! Please no hate! Greetings !! that she is a wonderful and modest person who, because of her desire to be loved and her complexes (because of her weight), has allowed some people to take advantage of her sexually in one form or another. She was super naive, blind, stupid and overconfident. The point is that I would not allow myself to separate, but on the other hand, rotten thoughts do not leave me alone and everything reflects on our relationship. I'm starting to can't take it anymore. At the moment I have started therapy again with the same psychologist, as she is already familiar with my problem. I just want some opinion on how the situation I am in sounds to you ?? Who is wrong and who is right? Abe .. in a nutshell some opinion!
Please no hate! Greetings !! that she is a wonderful and modest person who, because of her desire to be loved and her complexes (because of her weight), has allowed some people to take advantage of her sexually in one form or another. She was super naive, blind, stupid and overconfident. The point is that I would not allow myself to separate, but on the other hand, rotten thoughts do not leave me alone and everything reflects on our relationship. I'm starting to can't take it anymore. At the moment I have started therapy again with the same psychologist, as she is already familiar with my problem. I just want some opinion on how the situation I am in sounds to you ?? Who is wrong and who is right? Abe .. in a nutshell some opinion! Please no hate! Greetings !! who, because of her desire to be loved and her complexes (because of her weight), allowed some of her la * narcotics to take advantage of her sexually in one form or another. She was super naive, blind, stupid and overconfident. The point is that I would not allow myself to separate, but on the other hand, rotten thoughts do not leave me alone and everything reflects on our relationship. I'm starting to can't take it anymore. At the moment I have started therapy again with the same psychologist, as she is already familiar with my problem. I just want some opinion on how the situation I am in sounds to you ?? Who is wrong and who is right? Abe .. in a nutshell some opinion!
Please no hate! Greetings !! who, because of her desire to be loved and her complexes (because of her weight), allowed some la * narcotics to take advantage of her sexually in one form or another. She was super naive, blind, stupid and overconfident. The point is that I would not allow myself to separate, but on the other hand, rotten thoughts do not leave me alone and everything reflects on our relationship. I'm starting to can't take it anymore. At the moment I have started therapy again with the same psychologist, as she is already familiar with my problem. I just want some opinion on how the situation I am in sounds to you ?? Who is wrong and who is right? Abe .. in a nutshell some opinion! Please no hate! Greetings !! that I would not allow myself to separate, but on the other hand the rotten thoughts do not leave me alone and everything reflects on our relationship. I'm starting to can't take it anymore. At the moment I have started therapy again with the same psychologist, as she is already familiar with my problem. I just want some opinion on how the situation I am in sounds to you ?? Who is wrong and who is right? Abe .. in a nutshell some opinion!
Please no hate! Greetings !! that I would not allow myself to separate, but on the other hand the rotten thoughts do not leave me alone and everything reflects on our relationship. I'm starting to can't take it anymore. At the moment I have started therapy again with the same psychologist, as she is already familiar with my problem. I just want some opinion on how the situation I am in sounds to you ?? Who is wrong and who is right? Abe .. in a nutshell some opinion! Please no hate! Greetings !! in a nutshell some opinion! Please no hate! Greetings !! in a nutshell some opinion! Please no hate! Greetings !!
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There is no right and no wrong, everything is in your head. Your girlfriend is the same person she was before you found out about her past. In reality, no current factor has emerged that has changed anything between you or anything in it specifically. You understood something that happened a long time ago, it was a fact when you met. She probably didn't tell you right away because she was ashamed and didn't want to make a bad impression on you. She has been with you for two years, you live together, you have no doubt that she is cheating on you at the moment. What more do you want? Don't dig into the past. Continue with the therapy.
You are neither sick nor anything. Nor is jealousy a disease. People don't change just like that, and if you think there's something suspicious, or just the fact that he's trying to hide his past from you is doubtful ... then you have every right to doubt it.
Equality is a disease state jealousy when you think you own the person and not so to go into detail is unnecessary. My world is to continue with the treatment I wish you success
Try to keep your brain busy with other things - books, crossword puzzles and sudoku, travel plans and routes, learn new words from the language spoken there. So I hope you banish thoughts of the past that everyone has but that doesn't matter if it doesn't interfere. of the present.
Hi, it's like reading about myself. We have a similar destiny in terms of thoughts. It took me 1 year and 6 months to stop these thoughts. How - through positive thinking. First I blamed her for being with others before me, then I defended her - she didn't know what they were. Subsequently, I made a summary of our relationship, which is more than wonderful and this prevails - the good moments with it are more important than the past, because it has value NOW. Stay with her and think positively. Success!
You realize it's not right, you're still working on it. She sounds like a beautiful girl.
Continue to visit your psychotherapist regularly, and if possible it is better to visit her and your girlfriend together.
Positive thinking and psychology will temporarily blur things, anyway such relationships end in separation. Modern men often even marry girls who are not virgins, the Lord has not stopped warning men when they are married, what is good for them, so that following His instructions to have healthy families and avoid the curse of disobedience. you are. Let's start telling the truth and be more careful at the beginning of relationships so as not to lead to such dramas.
From the author to number 6 Can we exchange any contact definitely grabbed my attention ?? PP Thank you all so far for the answers!
I wonder what unlocked the OCD. Something happened a year or more ago and was the cause of OCD. Think, it may help.