Hello! I am a boy of 24. It so happened that a flirtation began between me and a person in a high position in the company where I work. It came to intimacy, after which I realized that he was married, but had no children yet. I decided to end the relationship between us because I do not want to be the reason for the breakdown of someone's marriage, moreover, it turned out that they have been married for almost 10 years. Lately, however, he has become very insistent and told me that if we play again, he will hit me on the shoulder to a higher position in the company. Excluding the moral point of view, nothing prevents me from doing it - I like sex with him a lot, and as a person who has already graduated from university, the position he offers me would shoot me far ahead in my career and would open many doors in the future. But from a moral point of view, he's still married, hence my confusion about what to do. How would you act in my place?
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It is not immoral, only that you have a family, and also that you will rise with your ass. This is living prostitution. If you have no problem being a prostitute, his family is the smaller problem. After all, you didn't promise anything to his wife. And whether it will hit you on the shoulder or you will be left with tashas is another question.
Do not do it! This is living prostitution, then you will not respect yourself. Leaving aside this, there is a risk: 1. not to fulfill the promise 2. to get a name you know what 3. to arrange to be thrown out after you are full 4. to appear and other blackmailers with similar requests 5. not to be respected by the colleagues, due to the doubtfully fast rise and the lack of experience and competence, etc.
I slept with a woman for the same reason. She was older, 4 years younger than my mother, married. I was not married, I did it quite consciously, but she hinted to me what was expected of me. And I got a higher position. The problem was that she didn't want us to end, and even our contacts became more frequent. I couldn't pull myself away from her. I couldn't have a relationship because of her. I had to leave.
Were you a pedal?
The bed career is as old as the world, so ...
As I read you, I understand that you have started a gay relationship. These people are very jealous and mean. Then watch how you end this relationship. He will not leave you alone. He will constantly want more and more. Your social contacts will also suffer. If he sees you communicating with a man, a fierce jealousy arises in them. They think any man you talk to can take you away from him. You will not have a problem with women. I think run away and change jobs
Well, obviously your boss lives with a man, so they don't have children and he just decided to try his fertility on you, too. It works out more often. He goes to a consultation more often, you may have made him happy.
Abe, have you fucked with this one yet? (in the text you write in m.r.), what do you care if you repeat it or triple it, and even more you like sex.
I recently read a sentence somewhere, behind every successful woman stands either a strong mother or a basket of dirty laundry. You have to decide what you want.
The topic should be called the torments of a future male homosexual prostitute.
His family is his concern. You can't care more about his family than you do about your own growth and development. Think about the money you're giving up now because of a family that's already broken. If it's not you, it will be different. As soon as the boys drag him ...
Up to you. If you can live with that thought, go ahead. If not - don't. Also, keep in mind that you may hear how you acted on this position, and no one will respect you.
What are you asking us, you have already sold yourself ... You are looking for confirmation from us. Aren't you aware that everyone around you understands what's going on, and that your reputation is gone? Tomorrow, if this man falls, as often happens, all this will turn against you ... In ancient Rome there was a special term - "career vagina" - I'm sorry to read that there are such men already, women I know many "succeeded" in this way. But since at the age of 24 you define yourself as a boy, how can it be otherwise? Men manage life on their own, not blowing on bosses.
It will not remain hidden from your colleagues. In a closed society of a limited number of people, such things are no secret. You will not make a career there, at most you will get the name of a man. Eventually you will leave alone or he will lose you. You better do it now and look for a single partner, preferably abroad.
Come on man, what are you wondering. If you know how many people we dream of rising, but no :)
I am a woman. Given that you've already had intimate contact, I don't see why you shouldn't do it again if you like it. I wondered if he would blackmail you with it later, but I realized that you were actually holding the big trump card. He still plays him heterosexual in front of people, he even has a wife. What if this wife finds out what her husband is doing, m? What if you rattle in front of colleagues? Even if you have to leave in a scandal, your position will remain in your gray, but the boss in question will fall from quite a height. That is, he would not dare to blackmail you. My advice is to accept the offer.
For pedals can. Fuck him.
18, typical advice from whores.
18, I'm sick of you.
If you're okay with getting to the top with your ass, go for it. But do not expect respect from others, a high position is unlikely to cover up the lack of qualities.
From the author Thank you all for the comments. As for the accusations that I have already sold out and become a male prostitute, I want to clarify that at the beginning I did not know that he was married and there was no offer with the promotion - she appeared after I broke off the relationship and found out that he was married. I especially want to thank 18 who understood the problem. I really have nothing to lose, I liked sex, but I'm more inclined to refuse him because I had serious intentions for him, I hoped that he too, and it turned out that he was playing games for the diversity of his family life. If accepted, I would feel like an object of fun. There is indeed a temptation for the position, but I will be more satisfied if I achieve my goal in another way.
I loathe those who can't prove with qualities that they are good at their job, but look for the easy one, the second way. I have a similar case in my family and that's why I accept it personally. you pay it you will understand me. Absolutely.
Hitler and Stalin started well as 18, but whores are like cockroaches, unfortunately - there are many and they are everywhere.
I am 18. I was bad, right? And why hasn't anyone mentioned a word about the boss in question so far? Huh? Is it moral to set such conditions for a young person who wants to develop professionally? Is it moral to use your official position to manage people's destinies at the cost of their conscience? Is it moral not to show your wife your real face? To an evil dog, an evil rod - said the people. These must be put in their place. If the author had said that sex with this individual was disgusting to him, of course I would have advised him not to sacrifice his dignity. But in this case, that creature is just asking for it. Yes, I will repeat my advice: use it, author, it is safe, you hold the aces.
26, for the subject is not of his boss, but of his choice. Elementary. As they fed and shifted the subject to his boss. Yes, his boss is the same whore, but that's not the subject.
№ 26 - Will you and your children one day advise how to sell more successfully? You disgusting ego, you only know this time for ascension, right? The boss is a pig, he is a pig, but should this young man get married and become the same k..and like him? Ace was holding? Thorns. Hold on to that pergish undersigned, that holds. When he's full, he'll kick him, make his life black, and this fool will leave on his own. A separate question is, how right is it for a person without experience, without having proven himself at work, to occupy a high position, since there are probably more deserving than him? Just because he did with Firki and pushed the boss.
to 26 - No aces. Rather, he dropped the deck of cards from his hand. You speak from a typically female position, you obviously have experience on the subject. His boss is either known or not known. If it is the first - the author was not with a knife in his throat, he could have refused, they will tell him that he was pressed for a career. If it is not known - who will be trusted - the one who leads the process and people and therefore has enemies, or someone who is already known for sleeping with batkovtsi? This confuses me too much, but remember that this is the Balkans, not the West, and every employer is looking at who benefits from it, not social justice. Not to mention that the higher you are, the stronger your friends are. I recommend to the 24-year-old "young man" to just turn his back on everything and look after his work conscientiously, because that's why he went there, explaining to the one above / or behind? :) / that he wants their relationship to be strictly professional in the future. If the pressure becomes great from the boss, look for another job.
Abe 18, what kind of morality are you talking about, given the amount of women who are lurking for such a thing all the time? Recently, I challenged an ambitious girl with the question of whether she would sleep with her boss, and she replied that the problem was not whether, but how, because he had a few more aspirations for a career in the service and everyone is looking for an opportunity ...
№18, what aces is he holding, Penke? For naked poker? Who will they believe - the new cutie who tells how his boss put it on that night (and there is a direct benefit from such a blackmail scandal) or the senior in the company who has been married for 10 years to a woman (and has manipulated people on -long)? He doesn't hold any aces, he keeps Black Peter and a white pawn playing Texas poker. You have a lot of experience in giving a dirnik, it is obvious, but at least read the nonsense you pour.
Until now, we knew that women slept with their bosses in order to rise in their work, and now men have started to do the same. When I read the story from the beginning, I always think that the author is a woman and she missed a letter: instead of "boy" I think she should have written "girl". Unfortunately, the mistake is true and it is about sex between a man and a man for promotion. Unfortunately, job promotions are done this way, by greasing or everyone settling in on relatives. Then we wonder why there are so many incompetent bosses in our work.