Hello! Let me introduce myself first - I'm an 18-year-old girl. My friend is 19. We have been together for more than two years. Our first EXPERIENCE for sex was in February. Everything was very good in the beginning and we were both very excited, but when it came to penetration, things failed. Since I am a virgin (and he did not have another partner before me) he failed to penetrate me with his penis and we decided to do it with our fingers. Yes, but more than one finger failed to get into me. Anyway - by mutual consent we decided to postpone it a bit. The problem here was that I couldn't even feel when it penetrated. Except for a slight discomfort (and pain when he wanted to enlarge his fingers) - nothing. I didn't tell him because I thought that would change over time. Nearly a month later we decided to try again. Almost everything happened again. With this difference, that this time we were more insistent and he managed to insert half his cock into me. But I understand that from him, because my sensitivity is zero. He later told me the same thing - he felt absolutely nothing. And this time he failed. We are now on the threshold of the third attempt. By the time I thought I was the only one not feeling anything, I was ready to try 100 more times if I had to, but after he told me that he didn't feel anything the second time, I was so disillusioned and not at all deals, I have no desire anymore. I don't know what to do at all. I'm confused. I can't even formulate a precise question for you, but I guess any advice will be useful to me. Thanks! PS - We always use a condom! He later told me the same thing - he felt absolutely nothing. And this time he failed. We are now on the threshold of the third attempt. By the time I thought I was the only one not feeling anything, I was ready to try 100 more times if I had to, but after he told me that he didn't feel anything the second time, I was so disillusioned and not at all deals, I have no desire anymore. I don't know what to do at all. I'm confused. I can't even formulate a precise question for you, but I guess any advice will be useful to me. Thanks! PS - We always use a condom! He later told me the same thing - he felt absolutely nothing. And this time he failed. We are now on the threshold of the third attempt. By the time I thought I was the only one not feeling anything, I was ready to try 100 more times if I had to, but after he told me that he didn't feel anything the second time, I was so disillusioned and not at all deals, I have no desire anymore. I don't know what to do at all. I'm confused. I can't even formulate a precise question for you, but I guess any advice will be useful to me. Thanks! PS - We always use a condom! I'm so disillusioned and I don't care at all, I have no desire anymore. I don't know what to do at all. I'm confused. I can't even formulate a precise question for you, but I guess any advice will be useful to me. Thanks! PS - We always use a condom! I'm so disillusioned and I don't care at all, I have no desire anymore. I don't know what to do at all. I'm confused. I can't even formulate a precise question for you, but I guess any advice will be useful to me. Thanks! PS - We always use a condom!
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Well, that's right. It's not easy in the beginning. It's like walking ... And what is this condom for? Can't it be controlled at least until it opens you, and then beware already. So far you have not had other partners, therefore you do not have venereal diseases. What's the problem with adding a condom to the whole cacophony? How do you imagine sex? You shove one into the other and it becomes magic? You have the instruments, but you will still learn to make music with them ... In order to play a melody and put your soul into it, you have to rehearse so much that the instrument has become a part of you - not to think about it at all. , but only to express. It's the same with sex - from the first to the second time it can't happen. And from the 30s it will not happen, but this should not bother you - every time it will be better, with less restraint and thinking, and with more pleasure. Yes, you will make the 1st, 2nd, 50th attempt ... First remove the zipper. Then wait about a week for the wounds to heal well. Then put it back in - if there is anything left, tear it up and clean it up. If necessary, stop again for a few days. And then you start 2-3 times a week, with a lot of love, attention and dedication, and things will work out!
I kept thinking it was kind of normal. At first, I felt almost nothing but discomfort and slight pain. To be precise, I had no idea how many of its members were in me. I had an idea, he was saying something completely different. Anyway. Somewhere in the middle of the first time I already felt something that I thought was part of the pleasure, but after a while I realized that it wasn't. This, given that I quickly relaxed and abstracted from the unpleasant sensations. Penetration is something new for your body, give yourself some time. You can't feel anything from the first insertions. At least it's a whole new feeling for you. Bring an attempt to the end, and then we'll see. Accept that you can't help but feel no pain and no discomfort at all. After all, it's your first time, you have a virgin skin, your body is not used to such experiences, you are more or less nervous and full of certain expectations. I thought it was normal. At least for myself I can say that in the beginning I was the same way, and shortly after that everything returned to normal.
Do not give up. I don't understand, after penetrating halfway, what prevented him from penetrating completely. Don't believe him, he didn't feel anything.
From the author: Number one, thank you for the valuable advice. About condoms ... By no means do I want to convey that I recommend for the mother to be inactive. Whether it's our first time, the hundredth, whether it's in a minute or ten. He also agrees. Number two, we'll try to finish once. Thank you. The fact that other people have felt like me reassures me. Number three, we will not give up. :) I will find the strength to try again. In fact, I stopped it from penetrating completely. By then I was exhausted, desperate for the second failed attempt, and no longer excited enough. And why shouldn't I believe him that he didn't feel anything? Why would you lie to me about something like that?
Completely normal, darling. Over time, you will feel more, things will go more smoothly. But in my opinion, while it tears your skin (it penetrates completely into you), it is better to be without a condom, I think that because of the presence of such there is such a problem. We are talking only to penetrate, then of course beware. I am very glad that you are taking care of yourself, it means that you are fully mature. The most important thing is to be 100% relaxed. My first time was with a condom, the case is similar, and it was my friend's first time. Unlike you, however, I was in a lot of pain (I swear, bordering on childbirth), so let it penetrate and put on the tire. Come on, good luck, write to us in a new experience. .
From the author: Thank you, number six. :) I will write again.
Somehow you seem like a congested couple to me. at 18, 19 years old .. long-term relationship and make "attempts" for sex. That what attempts? Not a big philosophy. You get aroused, he puts on a condom, gently "pushes" it, it sounds rude, but I can't say another word to express myself, and then deeper, you will feel a slight pain, because your skin will be torn, then it starts to move. back and forth, deeper, he goes in and out, and here is your pleasure. Haven't you watched porn? What does it mean I have no desire for sex, so he can't even get it, how ridiculous. I don't want my comment to sound harsh, but your story sounds weird. Now it will turn out that he does not know where he is and the hole in which to put him. It's absurd, next time don't try, but have sex, it's a pretty cool pleasure, you've been missing a couple for two years.
Number eight first learn to write and then tell people how to have sex. There are much more important things than sexual intercourse. If life is sex for you, then there will hardly be anything left behind.
Make more attempts. Do not give up!
Lubricants are missing my dear, lubrication! And the condom in this situation only makes things worse. Buy a gel and everything will be fine. As for him - I do not believe he felt anything, but the fact is that for me at least the sensations with a condom are at least 3 times weaker than natural.