What is the right sequence for you? Did you have to have sex with a man to grow into love? And then comes love? Why, when in time one refuses to be intimate, the other asks himself the question: You don't love me anymore, do you? Is there a direct connection or is it just a passion?
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It depends on the people and luck. Personally, I think it's love first, then sex. Love is at the latest stage. I distinguish between love and sex. I can have sex if I'm not in love and I won't fall in love. If I have sex with a person I'm in love with, I'll be even more attached to him. Sometimes, even very often people confuse these concepts of sex and love. I have a girlfriend who thinks that if she hasn't slept with a man, he can't fall in love with her. In my opinion, this is not right, because by this logic you can't let go of this one, let go of that one, hoping that someone will still love you. I say again - I'm a woman, but if I have sex with a man I don't love before, I won't love him. If I already have feelings - they will become even stronger.
It depends on what kind of love we are talking about. According to the ancient Greeks, there are 8 types of love. Eros The first kind of love expresses the idea of sexual passion and desire. Filia The second kind of love is deep friendship. Ludus The playful love that is born with flirtation and the first moments in a relationship. Agape Agape is selfless love. It is the love you give to all people, whether they are your close or distant strangers. Agape is the gift of love, the highest form. Storge This is the love of affection, especially for parents and children. This is a common or natural empathy that parents feel for their children. Pragma This love appears only in long-term couples, in whom pragma passes into deep understanding. Pragma is to compromise, to be patient and to be tolerant. Ksenia This is love for the stranger, the true hospitality, generosity and attention we give to those who are far from home. Philavtia The last is the love of yourself. But it has two varieties - selfish and unhealthy narcissism and the power to love yourself so as to increase the love you give to others. If you love yourself, there will be much to give to others. If we talk about love between a man and a woman, then obviously it all starts with passion and sexual desire - eros. We can't want things to start from the back, for example, with pragma, as is the case with long-term couples. there will be much to give to others. If we talk about love between a man and a woman, then obviously it all starts with passion and sexual desire - eros. We can't want things to start from the back, for example, with pragma, as is the case with long-term couples. there will be much to give to others. If we talk about love between a man and a woman, then obviously it all starts with passion and sexual desire - eros. We can't want things to start from the back, for example, with pragma, as is the case with long-term couples.
In my opinion, and speaking from personal experience, the sequence is the same as you mention: sex-love-love. I can't fall in love with someone without having sex with them. Or I can have sex and not fall in love. Depends on the person. For me, sex is a very important part of a relationship, just as important as a person's character, interests and aspirations. I can't love a man without having sex with him, even if he seems great as a person and meets my ideas. And I also can't love a man I've had super sex with, but we have serious differences in other ways. It is important to note that in order to truly love, you must know a person well. The rest are pure and simple fantasies, not love but illusion. True love comes after you know a person well and accept him as he is, with everything good and bad. And passion evaporates sooner or later. But love is much more lasting, and if one takes care of it, it can be for life.
Love-Love and possibly sex. Men don't like it, but that's the way I am.
To 4 - Men do not care how you are arranged, if they decide to move their finger at all, they expect to get what they want, if not - bye and no more attention. From a man.
The "correct" sequence, as you say, is Attraction -> Sex -> Love -> Love. Some commenters call attraction love because they were raised to have sex only "for love."
These are 3 totally different things and none of them leads to anything else ... It is a human illusion that they have or should have some connection. But this is a thick topic ... In the best case, in my opinion, 2 of the 3 can be arranged, but in today's century, even this is not tried by most. Basically, of the 3, "love" is the most imaginary. Psychologically, the real name is "transference". You see an image on which you transfer and "fall in love". But you don't even know the person you're falling in love with, and that's not always a person you can have sexual intimacy with, and even less often, love. Sex is the most pragmatic and easy, so most people focus on it, and according to it, some transfer, ie "love", can be obtained later. Love is the most unpragmatic and rare because it requires selflessness, and man is a selfish being. Many people are mistaken that a person in love becomes selfless, which is very far from reality. Yes, he tends to do many things for the other, but only because he transfers to him, ie he is a continuation of your own selfishness. A very small% of sexual / love relationships end in love. Nowadays, I think it tends to 0.