I write because I want to share and if someone experiences the same, tell me if it makes sense in the whole thing :) There is a boy we have known for many years, and he liked me very much. But it so happened that he first had a girlfriend and then moved to another city, and I did not respond in any way to his feelings. Years later, the wheel turned so that now I am the one who likes him very much, I feel very strong feelings, but the problem is that we rarely see each other and he somehow changed his attitude towards me.
A few months ago we went out as friends and acquaintances and ended up in bed. For the first few weeks, everything was fine, as if we were boyfriends, but gradually he stopped calling me. Now we see each other very rarely - our relationship is very strange. We have sex and everything is wonderful, but then nothing again - until next time. Every time I swear we don't get to bed, but he's the only one I have sex with and I'm just fine with him and when I see him I don't hold back, but the next day I know he's in town and he doesn't call me, even if he hears me how I am and I feel very sick. I don't know what to do. I don't have enough will to stop seeing him, but I realize that the work is not good and that I'm just hurting myself. Someone give me some advice, please!
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Have sex with him if you are well, you may soon find someone with whom you can not only have sex but also share your daily life, and with the other you can just remain friends ... Good luck!
I had like your story. But I was very much in love and I couldn't do without him, but after a while I became indifferent to him and forgot about him. Try to do it yourself, then you will not feel this pain that now. SUCCESS!
if it hurts you run away little by little you will forget it I experienced it and you will succeed
In a relationship, you have to experience everything before you decide to end it. Otherwise you could hurt someone next. Try to understand how he feels, apply various love techniques that will make you very desirable. Talk openly with him about what you expect - there is nothing to lose / show him the answers to this question of yours?!? /. If he looks at you lightly - TORN, it may hurt, but it will pass. He doesn't know what he's losing. Love is a choice and he must make his own. And don't forget - THERE ARE SIX BILLION SOULS IN THE WORLD, HALF OF THEM ARE MEN. THE TRUE HE IS SOMEWHERE THERE. DO NOT WASTE YOUR TIME WITH PALE SIMILARITIES! And write what happened in the end ...
I want to tell you something. I know I'm very direct but ... He doesn't care about you at all. He must then brag to others. By having sex with him you betray yourself. He uses them as a handkerchief. He just wants to have fun and if there is a way he won't see you later ....... I'm sorry to tell you but I had other girlfriends who were in the same situation and I'm angry. If you respect yourself another time you will cut it. I feel like you're a call girl. He makes you like that. If he can hurt you like that, then he doesn't deserve anything. You must be the biggest fool to sleep with him again. Success!
Just answer me. Are you looking for him after that? It's better not to look for him in any case, and when he wants you to go out to see him, tell him that you have an appointment and if he wants to call you another time. Avoid it for a while, stay cold, as if you have already cooled down. Play with him a little, and if he doesn't follow you, leave him. You have to respect yourself !!! If you didn't care after that, well, you sleep with him and that's it, but if you care, don't give up, darling !!!! Write what is happening and success :))
Thanks for the advice, we haven't had sex for four months, we talk on the phone, we text each other and that's how we drive it, I know that at any moment of need, I can count on it. We are behaving like friends now, although the boy is very good and I want to be together in the future. But I will not force things, whatever is written to happen between us will happen. Thank you!
What's wrong with your case with this boy?
You are a victim of a special kind of friendship. it's a kind of love affair without complications. Apparently this suits him. I don't know about you. If you want a serious relationship, you have to ask him for it, even if it means destroying your current relationship. Love either happens or it doesn't. If he's not in love with you, don't expect him to give you a serious relationship. And your existing sexual - most men would enjoy such a non-committal and free relationship.
Babe, my story at the moment is the same, I see a boy just for sex from one city and he and I do not have a boyfriend and so we drive it but it has become rude I say we have not seen each other for a month because I cut it ... I'm fine with it, but it doesn't make sense in the whole thing, I want to do it every day, not from the rain in the wind / he doesn't fuck with it and I'm invited to see you in the middle of the night, I go 2-3 hours, the story is over / And the whole thing i lose because i fantasize :)
I know what it is! And I have such a PSE (Friend With Extras) and it's not good at all, :( after we scratch our scabies and who's where! It's not love, but a temporary filling of the void and the need for sex! I personally know how to I keep cold and refrain from looking for further contact, but I am internally indignant and I am terribly sick that only at one time I felt pale feelings for him, but I quickly realized hahaha! I wish everyone NOT to have to fill the lack of love and a person next to you in this low and painful way !! Good luck :)
I am in a similar situation, we do not reach the stage with sex because for me this will be the first famous time, but we have talked about it ... he sometimes expresses a desire, sometimes he advises me to find a truly worthy "prince". He knew me, I told him I couldn't risk being insecure, and he felt bad that I was hurt, but he said, '' I can't force my feelings. I'm a free electron, attachment scares me. '' Something like that. What should I do? What can I do? Now we are friends, but the cold is felt, even the "extras" are gone .. The nasty thing is that you can neither give up nor take any step .. Whatever is written will happen, I think that's all I have left - to wait for his next move .. or the course of destiny.