Hello! I'm 30 years old. I recently started something like an affair with a childhood friend. We pushed each other, I gave him blowjobs a few times. But that did not affect our relationship. At other times, everything is pure friendship, just by the way, we tease. We have no feelings, we do not want a relationship, etc. Soon, however, I think we will have real sex. But I worry a little for the following reasons: 1. I have worries about my body. I'm big, I have stretch marks, there are scars from operations. He hasn't seen me completely naked until now, I'm worried that I won't attract him anymore if I see this, but we're having fun and I don't want to stop. 2. I'm also worried that real sex is somehow more intimate, and while pushing and whistling used to come somehow by the way, after we sleep together, we may no longer look at each other in exactly the same way, that we can no longer be as friendly as before. Have any of you been in a similar situation? Any tips?
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Define "I'm big" and I'll tell you if you have any worries. Brother.
Hi. M at 32 years old. I am and I will tell you that I think most men like fluffy women, still tell me how many kg. its how tall you are and describe yourself a bit so we have an idea of what you look like
It has never happened to me to have an acquaintance or a friend who gives me blowjobs 5-6 times without sex. Where are you from?
My advice is about your body - if you don't like it, do it in a very light light, and stretch marks can be covered with good makeup no matter where they are.
Look now, men don't notice these imperfections, which we women notice to tell you honestly. First, you with clothes and without clothes, you are still big, he does not see you as 40 kilograms at the moment as you are with clothes, he is aware that you are big under them. About stretch marks, I also have stretch marks and have had sex with men and after a while I asked them if they were sick that I had stretch marks and they asked me what I was talking about they didn't even notice because they were aroused and my stretch marks they are on the buttocks and thighs and are visible, but the men do not look when the excitement comes to them. My advice is not to look at your imperfections. Rather, put on sexy thongs, a nice bra, high heels and be confident. If he tells you something about the scars and stretch marks, tell him it's just skin, not a defect in the body itself, but I doubt he'll ask you. Look confident.
Yes, with a classmate, but not at 30, but at 26. But we have always shared. She had broken up with a boyfriend and was going crazy without sex. I was alone for the moment. We did it several times. I had my first anal sex with her, on her initiative. She had experience. And according to her, even a lover should drive a woman crazy with pleasure in both places. Now we are both married and visiting. Our halves do not know about that period. Only once did my wife, after a visit to them, slightly drunk, tell me on the way home that Diana was a very strong babe, and I had to fuck her in my bachelor years. I also replied that she was talking nonsense, that she didn't attract me as a woman, and that we had always been friends with her.
If the whistles have not changed your relationship and there is no sex. It's not a big difference from blowjob to sex, except that you will have fun too.
The author: by large I mean that I am quite full. Not just nicely rounded. I've been like this since my school years. But in fact he was the first to kiss me, let go of my hand, and so on. I also wonder a lot about the change in attitudes. Meaning, we're fine now. We grin, we drink, we somehow 'have fun' by the way, and everything else is old. And at least for me this is the best option - I do not want a relationship, I do not want to live as a nun. So far there are no problems with pressing and whistling. But in most cases, I think sex is more intimate. I wonder if there is a chance to keep the current dynamics if we sleep together. I would be happy for someone who has been in a similar situation to share experiences.
Author, don't worry. I'm relatively thin, but the last few girls I've had sex with were full. I was not bothered by stretch marks or bellies, there are no perfect bodies. Nor did we limit ourselves to anything because there was sexual energy between us. Perhaps only rarely were they on top