Hello, I apologize in advance if I have spelling mistakes, but I write from the phone and it's a little difficult for me. So starting with the topic, I made a huge mistake, which has been eating me from the inside for three days now, and as I guess you can guess from the title that I slept with a married man who has two children and that killed me. In principle, I have nothing to do with this man, we know each other recently, it was just one sex for me, one night of fun, I had nothing more and the idea that he is married, I'm 21, and he's 30, anyway, we both came out with a clear idea what are we going to do and he took me to a hotel, which surprised me a lot, but I decided that he wanted to be calmer, whatever happened, I went home and went out with friends, and I shared with one that I had a great evening. and bam she tells me the news. and the problem is that I was having fun for one night I don't have a family, I don't have a friend, but I felt like complete rubbish that this woman was waiting for him to come home for 2 hours and he probably lied to her that he was going out with friends that instead to sit and look after his children he went after other women and I'm not such a person my conscience bites me super much and 3 days after this incident I can't find a place and that's all in my head and he keeps looking for me and keeps he comes where I work because that's where we met.
On the one hand I want to tell his wife because we are a small town I know her, but I know that this will ruin a family and two children will live with separated parents on the other hand if I keep quiet he will continue to do these things whether with me or another will go on and I don't really know how to escape this guilt .... I don't have a friend, but I felt like complete rubbish, that this woman was waiting for him to come home for 2 hours and he probably lied to her that he was going out with friends, that instead of sitting to look after his children he went after other women and I didn't such a person's conscience bites me very much and 3 days after this incident I can't find a place and that's all in my head, and he keeps looking for me and keeps coming to where I work because that's where we met. On the one hand I want to tell his wife because we are a small town I know her, but I know that this will ruin a family and two children will live with separated parents on the other hand if I keep quiet he will continue to do these things whether with me or another will go on and I don't really know how to escape this guilt .... I don't have a friend, but I felt like complete rubbish, that this woman was waiting for him to come home for 2 hours and he probably lied to her that he was going out with friends, that instead of sitting to look after his children he went after other women and I didn't such a person's conscience bites me very much and 3 days after this incident I can't find a place and that's all in my head, and he keeps looking for me and keeps coming to where I work because that's where we met.
On the one hand I want to tell his wife because we are a small town I know her, but I know that this will ruin a family and two children will live with separated parents on the other hand if I keep quiet he will continue to do these things whether with me or another will go on and I don't really know how to escape this guilt .... that this woman was waiting for him to come home for 2 hours and most likely he lied to her that he was going out with friends, that instead of sitting to look after his children he went after other women and I'm not such a person my conscience bites me super many and 3 days after this incident I can't find a place and that's all in my head, and he keeps looking for me and keeps coming to where I work because that's where we met. On the one hand I want to tell his wife because we are a small town I know her, but I know that this will ruin a family and two children will live with separated parents on the other hand if I keep quiet he will continue to do these things whether with me or another will go on and I don't really know how to escape this guilt .... that this woman was waiting for him to come home for 2 hours and most likely he lied to her that he was going out with friends, that instead of sitting and looking after his children he went after other women and I'm not such a person my conscience bites me super many and 3 days after this incident I can't find a place and that's all in my head, and he keeps looking for me and keeps coming to where I work because that's where we met.
On the one hand I want to tell his wife because we are a small town I know her, but I know that this will ruin a family and two children will live with separated parents on the other hand if I keep quiet he will continue to do these things whether with me or another will go on and I don't really know how to escape this guilt .... that instead of sitting looking after his children, he went after other women and I'm not such a person, my conscience bites me very much and 3 days after this incident I can't find a place and that's all in my head, and he keeps looking for me and he keeps coming to where I work because that's where we met. On the one hand I want to tell his wife because we are a small town I know her, but I know that this will ruin a family and two children will live with separated parents on the other hand if I keep quiet he will continue to do these things whether with me or another will go on and I don't really know how to escape this guilt .... that instead of sitting looking after his children, he went after other women and I'm not such a person, my conscience bites me very much and 3 days after this incident I can't find a place and that's all in my head, and he keeps looking for me and he keeps coming to where I work because that's where we met. On the one hand I want to tell his wife because we are a small town I know her, but I know that this will ruin a family and two children will live with separated parents on the other hand if I keep quiet he will continue to do these things whether with me or another will go on and I don't really know how to escape this guilt ....
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For me, there is nothing fairer than telling his wife, of course she will not believe you, but your conscience will be clear. He lied to her, he lied to you, what did you think about his family and children, wasn't it right for him to think before he invited you to a hotel. It is this sense of guilt and shame that the rapists rely on - he raped you not in the literal sense, but he lied to you and the police (his wife) must know about it, otherwise his "rapes" will continue. How do you think your girlfriend knows about him, it is very likely that she also sipped his potpourri, but was silent on the same motives as you. You have not committed a crime and you have nothing to be ashamed of, but the pezeveng deserves neither his family, nor his wife, nor his children - what will you spare him, and maybe you are afraid ???
You're a track and don't put a hedgehog in your pants. Guilt, he must have, not you. Stop communicating with him and continue your life. Think of his children and do not interfere in their family.
He has abused you and your trust, you have to tell his wife!
"... which has been eating me inside for three days now ..." - I was expecting to read something like "which has been eating for three years now ...". Yes, I have your problems! Eat, drink, run! ...
I think you should talk to his wife. Tell us honestly what happened, that you didn't know he was married and that's why you had sex with him. She needs to know what kind of snake she is holding in her bosom. If she is a literate woman, she will appreciate that you have opened her eyes. If she's a fool - it's all at her expense, to put up with her as she is. There's only one thing I can't understand in the whole story - you write that you live in a small town, and usually everyone there knows each other. I don't care about that, but I don't care about your story at all.
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Girl, cut off contact with this man. Don't tell his wife, you're not the one to judge and pass sentences. And the next time, before you start having fun for one night, do a little research. After all, you sleep with an almost stranger.
Abe, are you crazy? !! To tell his wife - to burden her conscience with another guilt! Girl, you can be seen to be sensitive and conscientious, just don't meet this person, don't think so much of him, you have no guilt, if he starts bothering you, then you can threaten him, you have trump cards.
What happened, be very careful in the future. It is not a good idea to search and comment with his wife on anything !!! No way! Calm down, you will experience it, everything passes ...
And it wasn't, not to say. That woman because she deserved to waste her youth with such a man.
It is most sensible to present the information in a roundabout way. Make a fake fb and write to his wife that you have information about her husband. Be distant and do not speak for yourself. She explained that her husband used other girls for sex, omitting the fact that he was married. She also writes that her husband will most likely deny it, but still, if he decides, keep the information in mind.
Don't get involved. His wife can make your life a living hell because he'll think you've had a long relationship and you want to separate. Try to forget. You're not the only victim of a married whore. His wife will catch him with another sooner or later
That's a big deal. Don't bother his wife if you don't know what her character is, in the sense that 2 children shouldn't live with separated parents. There's no way to know if she's not refreshed somewhere from time to time. Yes, there will probably be another one in this hotel tomorrow, it won't be you. And? It is normal for either partner to seek some refreshment at some point that is beneficial to the relationship. If he's been hooking before, and she knows what kind of person she's engaged to, then the problem is hers, not yours.
You are not well, how will he tell his wife. By no means does he do anything. Keep going, looking for you, ignore him.