Hello. I am a man of 42. My wife and I have been talking about diversity in sex for a long time. We both want it, but only when we are very hot and especially when we are slightly warmed with alcohol. There are no secrets in sex between us and everything is allowed, but virtually. We have not yet taken real action. But over the years, I feel that my desire for sexual antics decreases. And with her it seems to increase. And that scares me a little - not because of her, but because I became more passive. I used to be sexier and I was the "spark" for nonsense. Now it seems to be the other way around. I explain everything to myself with the fact that I have not drunk any alcohol for 1 year. She also drinks very rarely. I lost many of my vices. And that made me more pragmatic, logical and a little boring. But I feel better - more energetic and lively. My wife doesn't complain about my new self. For now. But the madness in sex has disappeared. I'm afraid this may become a problem at some point. I will be glad to hear your advice.
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* If your "pranks" come only with the amount of alcohol, then you are not sexual !!! * You are 42 years old, you should have relaxed a long time ago. Have sex without stimulants, even though alcohol is not. If you don't open up to new things now, then when? * I think you should go to a sexologist. The tips on the sexual enrichment site will not help, because you yourself have barriers. - Mary
Calmly, he appetite comes with eating
Don't worry, it's obviously the age, the hormones and the fact that you've been together for a long time. I am 40, my wife is also in a similar situation. And we went through the phase of "pranks" - swing, threesomes, all kinds of sex between us, but obviously it's time and it gets tired. It's not about appearance - we both look good ... we're just obviously bored. The interesting thing is that I have a great desire to have sex with foreign women, and although I have not cheated, I constantly look at foreign women :) Nature, what to do.
Why don't you hint at a threesome with a woman or a man, watch what porn she watches and offer to go for a massage together and get to know the masseuse in advance and make sure you are not in your city at least in an unknown place. My husband and I do it all the time and the thrill every time is unique and incomparable with the previous times, try to play sex games while doing it, sex toys, I play him once a prostitute another time a little schoolgirl or a strict teacher and whatever you like it as long as it makes you happy and very excited. throw the restraints aside.