I have a problem that has plagued me for years. By nature, I'm more anxious in communicating with people, more cowardly, I'm not someone open to the heavens with confidence. I am almost 17 years old now. and I am still tormented by the event in the past. I haven't shared it with absolutely anyone and now I decided to share it here. So the incident happened when I was 10 years old. (4th grade) in the school yard, a peer had annoyed me and I hit him roughly on the ground. Then the director came, and he grabbed me roughly and pulled me aside and started arguing with me about what I had done. At that moment, obviously the fear of the director's appearance in me strongly prevailed and I dropped out of my pants (I peed). A lot of children saw me and started laughing at me. I was very uncomfortable - and then I ran away. And so even though 7 years have already passed. I'm still ashamed of what happened. Even when I passed people on the street, when they were there, I don't dare to look at them, and one of them is my cousin and we haven't talked since then, and it wasn't like that before (like strangers). I wonder what would happen if someone hinted to me about it, even though I was small, but not who knows how much, I'm still ashamed. So my requests are, if someone can help me overcome this nasty incident, someone to share if something like this has happened to him, how to overcome such shame. I know it's nice to share, so one gets rid of the tension. If there are people with such incidents PLEASE write THANK YOU IN ADVANCE !!! I wonder what would happen if someone hinted to me about it, even though I was small, but not who knows how much, I'm still ashamed. So my requests are, if someone can help me to overcome this nasty incident, someone to share if something like this has happened to him, how to overcome such shame. I know it's nice to share, so one gets rid of the tension. If there are people with such incidents PLEASE write THANK YOU IN ADVANCE !!! I wonder what would happen if someone hinted to me about it, even though I was small, but not who knows how much, I'm still ashamed. So my requests are, if someone can help me overcome this nasty incident, someone to share if something like this has happened to him, how to overcome such shame. I know it's nice to share, so one gets rid of the tension. If there are people with such incidents PLEASE write THANK YOU IN ADVANCE !!!
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Hello, when I was little I had peed in an hour. I think I was in 1st or 2nd grade. Everyone laughed at me, and the lady changed my clothes. It was awful, I was all sweaty, but now I'm 15 and I even forgot, you were so small that you walk with your head held high and you don't care what they say about you. I hope you listen to what I told you. SUCCESS! :)
Relax! It has happened to every person at least once in their life to find themselves in a humiliating situation. There is nothing shameful and you were 10 years old, now you are 17 :)) you are already big, this is the past! You can't ruin your future for something that has passed;). It's long over, don't think about it anymore. Live your future :))
Look, it's been 7 years since then and you're still ashamed. You were small then, you were ashamed. But now you're big, tighten up, calm down and try not to care so much. I know it will stay in your head as a memory for a long time, but you can't pretend you don't see your friends forever because you're ashamed of what they will think or maybe say. Come head on! Don't care ... accept it as something past in your growing up period and if someone hints at something about what happened just show a little sense of humor, show the others that a past case has already passed and is forgotten.
When I was in 1st grade, I peed during class, I was ridiculed until 4th grade. I roared and was silent, the more I spoke to the lady, the more they gritted their teeth and pointed at me. I went to 5th grade, the same kids, the same school, but it was as if they had forgotten about the "trouble" or they liked to make fun of me for my height. I was the tallest girl in my class and they called me an ostrich. When they saw me through the window and it started with the shouts "the ostrich is coming" it made me very happy, "ostrich" sounded much better than "that pickle". In time they forgot and I forgot, it is you who must forget, they have long forgotten. Even if someone hints to you, smile, you were a child - their children are forgiven
I will share another story, I was already a high school student, I was in love with a classmate of mine. In a painting class, I walked past him, and I was so focused on the idea of looking perfectly seductive, walking so close to him that I didn't see the window open. With my peripheral vision I could see the boy, and in front of me a beam. The window slammed right on my forehead, and the blow was not light at all hahaha and I even think that some saliva came out of my mouth, because you know, when a person is excited, salivation increases. It wasn't a bit humiliating at all, nooo it's overcoming, look at the funny side of things, we all pee, poop, drop, poke, burp, and people are so self-absorbed, don't think they point fingers and condemn you , I even think
Hahaha at 17 was big already! It will be great when he starts to support himself!
LIVE IN THE PRESENT FORGET THE PAST
Here is what Peter Deunov said: "There are three types of people: stupid, smart and wise. The fool is constantly concerned with the past, the wise seek to read the future, and the wise live with the present. "
Don't worry! I assure you that in years to come you will laugh at this. This is not such a shame! There are worse things you can be ashamed of.
It happened to me too. In the first grade, when I was on a playground, some children pushed me and then I pushed them and they cried. Their mother came and started arguing with me and then I peed: D However, because I am as shy as the author and I could not tell my mother what actually happened and I came home wet. Now that I remember, it becomes funny and I laugh at myself ... You were in the fourth grade, nobody remembers
I have many humiliating and shameful events in all aspects. However, I do not hide in the closet all day, but I live - it is normal for such things to happen. However, I look at these memories with a smile, I have learned a lesson from some, just emotions from others. Except I like to tell some. It's a big laugh. :) Self-irony is my best friend and I have even greater social success with its help. Many people I've told have told me that far worse things have happened to them. So you are not alone. :) But this does not apply so much to such moments from my childhood (As I wrote this there was a slight earthquake; e) - well, I was a child. Children do this - pee, poop, laugh, get dirty, make fun of each other, play, fight and fall into such situations. And this applies to everyone. And this is not a shame. This is normal. Damn it,
Hey author, don't live with the past! I was a woman when I was 12 I hid clean sanitary napkins from the boys at the waist under my belt. Then the boys would rummage through the girls' bags and make fun of them if they had bandages ready, waving them like flags shouting "Mary bit her cock" in the school hallway. I happened to be in a long queue for snacks at the shop in the break. When I picked up my jacket to show a friend how short my jacket I liked, all the bandages fell to the ground, all the kids started laughing, I gathered them and ran away, for weeks I was ashamed to go to school. But this does not mean that life is over. Forget it! as if it hadn't happened, as if you had seen it in some stupid series. I forgot but your story reminded me haha. Now I have a son who might be doing the same nonsense at school.
You were very young then ... don't be ashamed. If they laugh at you. And you laugh with them and tell them that you were small then and it happened without wanting to, because if they notice that you are ashamed, they will continue to make fun of you .. :)
Up to 14 - the author is a boy, not a girl! Don't insult him!
I smiled! But not mockingly, but out of understanding. I had laughed a lot once and at the end of the day, at another thing that made me laugh, I got rid of it. I asked two girls to leave the room and told the other two (who were closer to me) what I had done. We covered up the blunder and I went home with a girl, laughing at what had happened on the way. Recently I even told this to some classmates, I accept it with a sense of humor. But it's different - they didn't laugh or make fun of me. I don't think you need to worry about that, get it out of your head, because an embarrassing incident 7 years ago can prevent a lot of positive things from happening to you! Don't let him! F17