Shame Or Insecurity?

   This is not normal, go to a doctor - a psychologist or a psychiatrist, I know.

   Hello! I don't think you have anything to worry about! Why don't you go to a psychologist? Maybe standing next to the child really made you insecure! Success!

   Emmy, I think you should apply foundation or powder, I'm not kidding you, just if you know that people don't see you, it will be a little more successful.

   I don't have time to go to a psychologist otherwise I would go!

   I'm number one, why don't you have time? You will find, girl, this is definitely not normal, find someone to look after your child for 2 hours. And I would take it to the office, if I knew you, don't leave it at that. I think the redness is not a cause, but a consequence, there is something in your brain, go to the doctor, I PLEASE YOU! Don't ruin your life !!!

   Adravey and I stay at home with a small child and I think that sometimes happens to me too. Somehow accustomed to being outside at home, I feel anxious and numb. But I try to be more confident. Think that you are beautiful, smart, good and you will see that it will help you in communicating with others. Good luck

   I'm not shy in general. On the contrary, it seems easier for me to communicate with men than with women.

   You must go to the doctor, this is treatable! If you leave, it will continue to be so, and you hardly want your child to have a mother who has problems. Do it for yourself and for the child. You will find time for your health!

   Aren't there any other tips?

   I had the same problem. I don't know what is due to you, but I was too insecure. I was constantly sitting in tension between people, I was ashamed, I had the feeling that they were constantly looking at me with disapproval and making fun of me. From there came the redness, I lost my friends, and so on. Now things have improved because I realized that people are too busy with themselves to look at my shortcomings under a magnifying glass. I myself catch their eye with this insecure behavior. You do not need a psychologist to fight the problem, realize that people are nothing more than you - on the contrary, you are much more than them. You need self-confidence and try to communicate more freely until it works !! You need a little practice to remember how it happened :)

   According to me, you need support from someone you don't care about, we can help each other if you agree and have Skype write and I will look for you.

   Hello, I have the same problem and today I will even go to a psychologist. I will write how it went.

   Hi, I have this problem too. I have decided for some time and I am ready to visit a psychologist, now only the organizational part remains, ie. to find a specialist when to trust, etc. I look forward to sharing # 13 how his meeting with the psychologist went.

   Hello, I'm number 13. I went to a psychologist, talked and underwent hypnosis. I can say that I got some improvement from the first meeting, but the psychologist explained to me that this is a social phobia and is treated for at least a few months. So far, it's good that the treatment is not cheap at all BGN 50 per hour of therapy, ie BGN 200 per month, which is not a small amount for me. I plan to visit a psychiatrist to see what he will say and he knows that this disease is treated with drugs. But I know I understood one thing to fight this problem we have to accept it we blush and what of it? I know it's terribly depressing from everywhere. The other thing we can do for ourselves to deal with the phobia is to do things we would never do before, such as skydiving, playing sports in which many people participate,

   The other name for this disease is called erythrophobia - fear of redness, I know that operations are performed (at least in Russia), but I do not know what exactly it is. The best treatment is psychotherapy and self-fighting. As number 15 said, do things you would never do before, it will restore your confidence, self-confidence and self-belief.

   And people .... you if you do not help yourself there is no one to help you ... whether he was a psychologist, psychiatrist or psychiatrist .... and I have this problem for 5-6 years ... sometimes I manage to I keep from blushing, but in most cases I fail ... and I realize where the damn problem is, but I just don't have the confidence to overcome it ... sometimes you just don't have to care so much and you manage to keep from blush, but rarely, yes! In general, my cheeks are red and sometimes you don't notice when you blush a little, but it sucks, and most of all the problem comes from the fact that this is in my head all the time - and he looks at me how red I am at the same time the man asks me a question and if it's more inappropriate I just flare up ... The nasty thing is that it's very difficult for me to lose the red color of my cheeks after that, and I noticed recently that when I go to hot places my cheeks turn red again, and before I didn't have this problem maybe I just made a movie like that ... basically everything is in your brain ... and if you try to don't think about it, at least from time to time you'll be fine ... you won't blush, although I'm still in this phase that I only hold back from time to time, and other times I can't just ... I hope I overcome the crap problem ... and yet we use 5% of our brain ... if we used at least 50, wouldn't we be able to control our body? !! It's all in OUR head! although I'm still in this phase that I only hold back from time to time, and other times I just can't ... I hope I overcome the damn problem ... and yet we use 5% of our brain ... if we used at least 50, would we not be able to control our body? !! It's all in OUR head! although I'm still in this phase that I only hold back from time to time, and other times I just can't ... I hope I overcome the damn problem ... and yet we use 5% of our brain ... if we used at least 50, would we not be able to control our body? !! It's all in OUR head!

   Thank you for the advice. I will follow them and hope for results. Or I can overcome the redness from puberty. Once again, thank you. :)

   Hello, I have the same problem, I am only 22 years old. In general, I am more anxious, and very shy just to see that someone is looking at me and I start to worry and blush, I FLAME and it is very unpleasant especially when others notice it. It's unpleasant !!! I don't know how to handle this! Issue ! .... I am very desperate and depressed, because it prevents me a lot to talk normally, especially with men. But at least I RED in seconds. It's not nice when they start COMMENTING, DISCUSSING ... Now I calmed down a bit when I read that there are others like me !!! PEOPLE, PLEASE SHOW A LITTLE UNDERSTANDING and do not be in a hurry to SMILE at us mockingly !!!

   Wow, I'm 28 years old and in the interest of truth, this redness has intensified over the years. When I was younger, it wasn't like that. It was as if I was more confident. I don't know where this uncertainty comes from. I experienced a lot of personal trouble. I was abandoned by everyone I felt close to. Girlfriends, boyfriends, abortion, infected me with a disease. Then, for example, they became close to people who knew they had hurt me a lot. At least I define myself as making me unhappy and insecure, as if I don't find real friends and they aren't interesting enough with me. I read the characteristics of social phobia and one by one correspond to my condition and feelings. I also notice that when I exercise regularly, the incidence of insecurity decreases. Hey, I don't know how I planted this ... it sucks a lot people ...

   I agree with number 20 that insecurity and redness increase with age. My problem with redness started almost 1 year ago ... When I was little I didn't have such a problem, I talked calmly with people and I was great. I don't know, but maybe my case is due to the fact that I put on a few rings and that I was in a class full of boys (we were only 5 girls out of 20 people) and there weren't many people to talk to. And at one point I started to feel burning on my cheeks when someone asked me something, anything ... Now I have learned to control it a little, to such an extent that I only blush in awkward situations for me. Maybe it's because I've found a few real friends with whom I can be myself ... However, now that they've moved to another school, the problem will probably come up again: '(I intended to visit a psychologist, but when I read that it was BGN 200 per month, I immediately gave up. That's too much for my budget ... And when people tell me "you're too shy" or something, I get very angry because I know I'm not, but there's just nothing I can do to regain my confidence. .. I tried not to pay attention to what people think of me, but it just doesn't work ... Maybe when it gets bigger the problem will disappear, and maybe I will stay like that for the rest of my life. At least I hope you can overcome the damn blush :) I tried not to pay attention to what people think of me, but it just doesn't work ... Maybe when it gets bigger the problem will disappear, and maybe it will stay that way for the rest of my life. At least I hope you can overcome the damn blush :) I tried not to pay attention to what people think of me, but it just doesn't work ... Maybe when it gets bigger the problem will disappear, and maybe it will stay that way for the rest of my life. At least I hope you can overcome the damn blush :)

   Hello people ! I have the same problem and honestly I don't know what to do. It's very unpleasant when you talk to someone and blush and they tell you "why did you blush like a tomato"? It's just unbearable. I tried to breathe deeply, but not every time. So if anyone can help .... write. Thanks!!

   Hi, I am 18 and have had the same problem for 5-6 years. This happened after I went to a new class. I admit that I am quite shy and find it difficult to get used to new people. At first the redness was not so noticeable, but gradually it intensified and became almost constant, I mean when I'm at school. It makes me feel awful afterwards, especially when teachers and classmates tell me how red I am. I try to control myself, but it's hard. However, I hope that in time it will somehow pass or at least will not be so obvious.

   Hora, unfortunately, I will complain to you too, and I have not found salvation yet. I'm already 31 years old, this miracle started when I was about 20 and I still can't explain why. I was always pale when I was younger and I even pinched my cheeks to make them blush, now you know, it's fast. and I'm a merrymaker, I communicate, I like to be the center of attention, but it's awful that at a certain moment the tomato always shines, and on top of everything I feel hot ...! thanks for the attention ... from men, from women, especially if you see someone you know, or if you are in a more static situation where there is no movement is the worst, the stupid thing is that I have redness from the simplest gestures of attention - someone to wave at me or ask me something quite banal, but the interesting thing is, as someone wrote above, that my face is much calmer when I can't sleep, but somehow I don't want to stay in that state forever. And the interesting thing is that I've always been good friends with men, I have a longtime friend, you can't say I'm worried about them, but what? while I was sick at one time I discovered that cough syrup has a beneficial effect, haha. Anyway, it's awful, depressing, disturbing, it's a dream for me to have an even complexion again, I've been trying for a long time to ignore this problem and hope it disappears on its own, but obviously it won't happen. please, you who have gone to specialists - tell me how you feel in the long run, do you believe in their methods, I am willing to give the money, if there really is salvation, I have decided to try to fight this miracle !!! You can't say I'm worried about them, but where? while I was sick at one time I discovered that cough syrup has a beneficial effect, haha. anyway, it's awful, depressing, disturbing, it's a dream for me to be even again, I've been trying for a long time to ignore this problem and hope it disappears on its own, but obviously it won't happen. please, you who have gone to specialists - tell me how you feel in the long run, do you believe in their methods, I am willing to give the money, if there really is salvation, I have decided to try to fight this miracle !!! You can't say I'm worried about them, but where? while I was sick at one time I discovered that cough syrup has a beneficial effect, haha. Anyway, it's awful, depressing, disturbing, it's a dream for me to have an even complexion again, I've been trying for a long time to ignore this problem and hope it disappears on its own, but obviously it won't happen. please, you who have gone to specialists - tell me how you feel in the long run, do you believe in their methods, I am willing to give the money, if there really is salvation, I have decided to try to fight this miracle !!! I've been trying for a long time to ignore this problem and hope it disappears on its own, but obviously it won't. please, you who have gone to specialists - tell me how you feel in the long run, do you believe in their methods, I am willing to give the money, if there really is salvation, I have decided to try to fight this miracle !!! I've been trying for a long time to ignore this problem and hope it disappears on its own, but obviously it won't. please, you who have gone to specialists - tell me how you feel in the long run, do you believe in their methods, I am willing to give the money, if there really is salvation, I have decided to try to fight this miracle !!!

   Hello! Unfortunately, I will not help you, but when I read that there are other people with my problem, I was relieved ..! I'm 17 blushing for about 7 or 8 years. It's just very unpleasant .. just some to compliment me (whether at school or not) I blush, I feel warm, quite uncomfortable. Even when the lady tests me, I blush and just get confused .. And I do not have the therapy in my pocket and if someone finds a solution to this problem, let him write, because it's awful

   Hello! My situation is exactly like number 24! I am 27 years old, I have had a problem for several months, but I started with some other problems. The point is that I am generally a happy person, I am married with a child. We get together with friends, drink, eat, work. But all this is accompanied by this blush. Whether I'm at work and talking to my boss or clients or just on the phone, but someone is watching me, I blush. Even with friends at the table, if I take the floor, and it is often :)), I still blush. It wasn't like that before, and as a student I had so many exams, I was worried, but I didn't have the feeling that I was red as a tomato, that I was getting hot, I was even sweating, I was straining, as if my heart was going to burst, just It's awful !!! And when that happens, everyone starts looking at you even more intently! I'll follow what is written here and,

   I am a man of 30 and it happened to me today. Not that it hasn't happened before, but what happened today made me search the internet. It's a little awkward for me to do such things as a man, but I don't know how to do it. There is obvious concern and attention from the outside enhances the effect. I think you need to relax and talk to people who understand your problem. Try to talk about topics that bother you and try not to care. To tell yourself that there is nothing scary or embarrassing. On the other hand, when people notice this and you see that they notice it, you blush more. This means that you should not care what others think and leave. But I don't care much what others think, and that bothers me in other areas of life, such as being embarrassed to talk in front of a lot of people. Even I'm a musician, unfortunately not practicing this at the moment, and I had problems when I went out in public. In my opinion, everything comes from self-expression and how much you realize what others will think or say about you. Maybe the fact that you have a child and everyone knows how to make children worries you. If you can't overcome it, accept it and blush without worrying, and so you can even overcome it. It is not a sin to do anything (making children), it is a sin to cheat / cheat and this is actually shameful and worthy of blushing. Show that you will succeed. I lack faith, which is largely the cause of failure. that you have a child and everyone knows how to make children worries you. If you can't overcome it, accept it and blush without worrying, and so you can even overcome it. It is not a sin to do anything (making children), it is a sin to cheat / cheat and this is actually shameful and worthy of blushing. Show that you will succeed. I lack faith, which is largely the cause of failure. that you have a child and everyone knows how to make children worries you. If you can't overcome it, accept it and blush without worrying, and so you can even overcome it. It is not a sin to do anything (making children), it is a sin to cheat / cheat and this is actually shameful and worthy of blushing. Show that you will succeed. I lack faith, which is largely the cause of failure.

   Hello, I'm №24 again. I read the opinion of 27 and I completely agree. It's all about self-esteem. If we internally criticize ourselves for something, we are not completely satisfied with ourselves in one way or another, it subconsciously affects us in everything. There has been some change in my veins lately - I tried to isolate myself from the problem - I said to myself - wait a minute, calm down, others are not so much better than you, why do you underestimate yourself - try to remember how many times You did great in different situations, everyone has their successes, right? I also try to impose on myself that whatever I do and say is thoughtful and does not contradict my beliefs, that is, whatever I do to know that I have given the best and I am not ashamed of myself . The other thing that also seems to help me is is somehow not to listen so much to others - in the sense of not isolating people, but distancing themselves from their opinions, which I found that I have swallowed at any cost. I don't know if I explained it well, it's hard, but I will continue to fight, and somewhere far in my mind is the saving thought that if I fail, I will go to a psychotherapist and he will undoubtedly fix me. And another thing that really helps is the old maxim - a healthy mind in a healthy body, I have found my favorite sports that tonify me, charge me optimistically, and have a good effect on the figure, which is actually good: I squeeze our thumbs and hopefully cope with the fight with yourself! and somewhere far in my mind is the saving thought that if I fail, I will go to a psychotherapist and he will undoubtedly fix me. And another thing that really helps is the old maxim - a healthy mind in a healthy body, I have found my favorite sports that tonify me, charge me optimistically, and have a good effect on the figure, which is actually good: I squeeze our thumbs and hopefully cope with the fight with yourself! and somewhere far in my mind is the saving thought that if I fail, I will go to a psychotherapist and he will undoubtedly fix me. And another thing that really helps is the old maxim - a healthy mind in a healthy body, I have found my favorite sports that tonify me, charge me optimistically, and have a good effect on the figure, which is actually good: I squeeze our thumbs and hopefully cope with the fight with yourself!

   Hi and I have this very disgusting problem I feel terrible

   Hello, I have the same problem and I just feel terrible, because knowing only how I blush in more ordinary situations and I get super worried and wonder what to do. The bad thing is that it makes me avoid contact, especially with strangers, and this bothers me a lot because I associate. I can't understand the root cause of this, and as I read the other explanations I don't know if there is any way to treat it. When I was little I didn't have such a problem, I think it appeared for the first time at the university, during exams I was very worried and I remember that I blushed then, but I think that it is still within normal limits, as it is more -Extreme situation.The bad thing is that then over time it deepens and already in contact with friends and acquaintances in some normal situation this happens.When it happens and I wonder how to hide my face, so that it doesn't show and I feel like sinking into the ground out of shame, it's very unpleasant. Hopefully someone can be found to say if there is an effective way to deal with this.

   Hello Obviously, the symptoms of all of us are similar, so I have nothing to explain about myself. I wonder if any of you have been able to deal with the problem or at least find the right path.

   Hello, I am 23 years old. I have the same problem. But in most cases, I don't feel blush at all inside. I understand this from people around me when they tell me that I have blushed again. Otherwise, I have this problem for as long as I can remember. And I want to deal with this problem, but I do not know how.

   The easiest and simplest way to get rid of the fear of blushing is to be from it, and to stand up to it and accept it, then everything will gradually disappear.

   when I wear dark glasses, I'm more confident, but without them I become like a boiled cancer. horror, I can't even carry them in the room. it's all in childhood, lack of self-confidence. there was some forum for hypnosis. I don't know how much it costs.

   I'm alone, I hate myself because of this thing I became very aggressive towards the people I know HINDER ME IN EVERYTHING

   don't turn on people, they're not guilty of anything, and I've been through this, blaming everyone else for my condition, you have to try to imagine what will happen the next time you blush - well, actually nothing so fatal , now I'm training on this too - who really cares that some of them blushed, well, if it's not a crime, you blush and that's it, it's quite reassuring to repeat that it's not really anything special against the background of all the blunders that make famous and unknown to us ... so, blush - this is our "trademark" (what to do), smile and move on, there is nothing so tragic (no someone died, right?) And that will pass, as Bukai said in one of his stories, it's very difficult to fight this,but I hope we can do it!

   I want to share! I have already written here. The next time you are afraid to go through the center and see an acquaintance, ex-boyfriend, girlfriend, relative and everything else that causes panic and stress in you - SMILE from the heart. So those on the other side are distracting, I don't know why. And it seems easy to have prepared words at a meeting. Hmm, the mission continues ...

   Yes, I will try it, but when they hate and you smile at them, what are we doing?

   Hello! I am 23 and I think I have overcome this problem. I have been very shy since I was a child, I was ashamed to say my name. I wanted to become more sociable, I was very irritated when I started to blush, to get hot ... And so I started talking in front of many people, I blushed, but I kept talking and pretended that everything was normal- and inwardly I struggled with myself. They even told me that I blushed when I spoke, and I told them, "Is that so?" I pretended not to know. I calmed down that I was accepted as I am and after a while I stopped blushing, especially in front of acquaintances. You just don't have to think about blushing, you have to concentrate on something else. It's all in your mind, you have to learn to control that feeling. I hope I was useful to you.

   Okay, I got it - you're all blushing and you're all ashamed and you're all ashamed of having sex and having children. These are shameful things for me. And what about when you blush? Behind the red facade, no devil can guess what thoughts, what plans and what combinations and networks you are considering. Did you know that some of you have mastered the art of blushing to use it as a weapon, or at least as a shield against the accusations that they are shameless and unscrupulous, and otherwise act as such? If you want it not to be so, salvation is NEPUKISM. Whatever you do, do it for yourself and do not be impressed by the light in which it presents you. I know a prostitute who can't say the word "pussy." And what? -she has not abandoned her profession because of this.

   At 40 - do you really completely overcome this problem, in the sense that you no longer blush or you just don't care about it anymore?

   Number 40 is right. Blushing comes when we think about it. In trying to cover it up, one becomes even more panicked. For Number 39. I think that if you demonstrate that you do not care about other people's hatred and impressions, the other side is in the pass. Even if someone specifically tells you about disturbing things, don't show that you are taking it inside. Slight nepukism - pretends to be stupid "What? Right? I haven't noticed at all. I have more important things to think about." I have an acquaintance who went to a psychiatrist because of such a feeling of anxiety among people, but she does not blush, but raises blood pressure and is in a depressed mood for a few days. The doctor's advice was - When you feel that you start thinking about anxiety, immediately change the subject of your thought. Think of something else, not that. Something like an internal struggle. And yes, it's harder in the beginning. She overcame it at this stage, I know she drank Esbericum by prescription. And there is no escape in the beginning. You have to mix with the crowd and overcome it. You can't see it - that's it. The sooner the better. And remember that life is very short, especially after a certain age. Take care of your nerves.

   From number 40 to 42 - I just don't care anymore and I don't blush, except in some very disturbing situations. But this is normal - everyone sometimes blushes.

   I am 14 years old and I am a boy. And I have the same problem ... But I think it's because you're worried about people. Until last year, I went out often and I did not have such a problem. And this year I rarely went out and I became like that. You just have to be more sociable to get used to people. This is my opinion.

   I'm 14 now and like everyone else I have this problem, even today it turned out very bad, we went for coffee with 1 friend and 2 girls and I blushed and something terrible happened; X

   Hi, I have this problem too. The good thing about women is that it can be covered with a foundation or visits to the solarium ... So, just to calm things down, I turn to all women, I tried this with a foundation and it worked, I gained a little more confidence , because I think it hides the so-called redness .. A little blush would also dispel the idea that you blushed ... The treatment for me is one ... something mentioned above ... do not imagine situations in which you would blushed ... STOP THINKING ABOUT THIS AT ALL ... I don't know about a brain problem or something ... you have to be distracted by something ... And another thing ... by the way, people think it's sweet and shouldn't bother you in communication with people ... and sometimes they don't even notice you, and you and your movies and everything about how terribly weak I am, I'm a jerk ... Love yourself :) good luck to everyone !!!

   In my opinion, we must all turn to faith in Christ, to accept that we are all brothers, that we all think well, because we also think that we help everyone in our thoughts, so we are worthy and contribute to the universal harmony of the universe. .

   Hello! I have the same problem ... I read a lot of reviews and in many of them I found the words I would use to express myself about the problem of redness. This is a very pressing problem for me. I have been trying to overcome it for many years, sometimes I have succeeded very successfully and my self-esteem has risen significantly, but life is constantly changing, some people are coming, others are leaving, bad times are coming ... for example, this year many things gathered. And even though I told myself inwardly that everything would be fine, that the future was ahead of me and that I had nothing to worry about, the stress, despite my attempt to suppress it, had accumulated inside me and at some point it came to light ... and one cannot deal with it at first. I forgot to mention that I am 19 ... The bad thing about me is that many people know me as a person who blushes .... .. but why the hell does this control over my emotions I can not have it constantly? ... the reasons at the moment for my concern with people are due to a series of personal failures .... I lost some of my friends, others went to study, adding that because of money I could not go to study after graduation high school and at the moment I'm missing a year .. a year in which I have to take care of everything myself ... not that it wasn't like that before. It didn't work out with the two girls I liked. I can't forget one of them, because I love her very much ... and I've already made her cut me off from her life, because since we can't be together, I can't just be her friend ... and although I had a friend in her face, I have no one now. And what a friend ... who doesn't want us to meet, just to write to each other on the Internet, because my feelings will intensify. :( That's why I don't have any contact with her .... I also have problems in the family of a financial nature. My father is not interested in me. I have not received anything from him in this life. The worst thing is that I have to I've been living with him for at least another year ... I started working, but even there I seemed to have forgotten what it was like to communicate with my colleagues ... they didn't accept me the way I wanted to. prejudiced against me ... We're on good terms, but they seem to have noticed that I blush sometimes when I talk to them ... And I don't like that. I see a hypocrisy and pity in their eyes, which irritates me a lot, I will try to fight it internally ... because I don't have money for a psychologist, good luck to others.

   Hello, I am 34 years old. I have this problem from a student. To number 49 and everyone else !!! YOU DON'T NEED PSYCHOLOGISTS AND PSYCHIATRISTS, you will just give your money and they will poison you with antidepressants. Stop living for others and their opinions, because that is what hinders us subconsciously. The moment I stopped caring about the opinion of our sick society, the problem disappeared with me. I learned to enjoy the little things in life and to be a broad-minded MAN. Stop blaming yourself and don't underestimate yourself !!! Number 49 don't despair boy and learn to respect yourself then things will fall into place. Sport also helps, I would even say it is mandatory in our condition !!! Good luck to all!!!

   Hello, can you in any way send me the skype of the boy who wrote the last comment. I'm in the same situation as him and I want to talk.

   I am making progress. it may be temporary but I will share. the important thing is to say that there is nothing shameful. there is nothing to worry about. to have self-confidence. to fight your fears. not to pay public opinion tax. to like yourself as you are. to like even blushing. and finally to believe in success :)