Hello! I am a boy and I am 17 years old. I have a few questions for you that I hope you will answer and I will tell you some things about me and ask for advice. I haven't been able to relax for a long time. I can't get rid of stress. He is everywhere. I have been trying for a long time to masturbate in peace, touching all points of my body, but it does not work. When I'm excited it's sometimes awkward or I'm in a hurry or I just can't relax. I can't do it in the evening, because sometimes there are a few more powerful pleasures (I hope you understand what I mean) and everyone will hear me (during the day it's almost the same). I want to find a way to deal with stress besides masturbating, and I want to do it in peace. But how? The second thing is, have you ever been caught masturbating? If yes, how did you get caught and how did you get out of this awkward moment? The third thing is a little silly. Is it normal to be ashamed to buy shaving products (gel, aftershave, etc.)? Shave, but I've used these things from the gifts they've given me. Now these things are over and I'm a little ashamed, but I want to get used to buying them myself, because I want to get used to these things. Please give advice on how to behave and how to get rid of this shameful feeling. The fourth and last thing is about love. I used to like girls, but now I don't feel for anyone. I'm not gay. I don't know why the girls in my class, and in general from this school, don't attract me. I want to love someone, but not by force. I want to have a girlfriend and love each other. I'm a bit rounder, but don't imagine anything too round. I'm not very tall 171, 1 centimeter. I'm a little shy, but that's fine. I have the courage to tell a girl that I like her and I did, but she said she didn't feel the same way about me. Tell me ways to find a girlfriend. So far I have not had. Thanks for taking the time to read my questions and concerns! I hope you share your experience and advice. Thank you again!
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First, it's perfectly normal to stress about things, but look for other ways to calm down, at least in my opinion. You can listen to music, paint, walk or even meditate. Secondly, this with your girlfriend is like a fixed idea in your head - I understand you, you want a relationship, but with constant searching and obsession with this, things will not happen. Take your time, go with the flow, but be patient and you will see how little by little things will happen on their own. And thirdly, go and buy the things you need, there is no point in worrying, because buying shaving foam is something completely human and normal. Get out of your comfort zone and do new things - for example, go to the outshare store. It may be a very small thing, but you will be proud of yourself for achieving it.
1. To calm down, try to go out more with friends, to drink beer. Exercise, ride a bike, mountain, fitness and such things. In general, more social life and hobbies. 2. When I was a little younger than you, I happened to be caught once. It was my father we talked to later. And he told me not to be ashamed because that's normal. 3. I don't think you should be ashamed when you buy shaving products. You are 17 years old, almost an adult. If you want 10 years. yes you are, you shouldn't be ashamed again. This is normal, as if a woman is ashamed of sanitary napkins. When I was 16 years old. I bought myself razors and foam, and I only had a fluffy mustache. But I had a lot of fun holding the razor, thinking about the fucking man. 4. There is no exact formula for finding a girlfriend. From 10 years. I'm bigger than you and I would say that sometimes good things come suddenly without us expecting them. Just find a good company, go out, socialize, play sports, read books and just live your life.
Start by wanting other things. Get used to shopping for anything: bread, matches, chocolates, sweaters and socks. Get used to getting in touch with the sellers, with the people around you. Same when you're worried about the girl. Talk to other girls you don't like, because of the talk itself, to have fluidity, to be aimless - things happen on the go, suddenly you unlock the other wave; do not wait in tension for a moment, but be among the others where your man appears. Maybe your father was very dominant or very indifferent and you were not brought up to want, but only to please with good behavior and services.
I'm a girl, but I will still give my opinion and hope it helps. Stress is a very insidious thing and it depends on what type of stress you are talking about. If you have a test at school - this is a normal type of stress. If you will be tested or you have a high school diploma - too. In those years, honestly, there is nothing that is really worth stressing about, however. Seriously ... keep your nerves and stress for 3-4 years, when you will REALLY stress about serious things like looking for a job, going to interviews, university exams, coping with life independently without mom and dad ... now the stress you are meaningless. Besides masturbating, try to train, play sports. Go to the gym - it helps a lot not only physically, but mentally mostly ... I know it from personal experience. Masturbation reduced it, even stopped it. Refrain, no matter how difficult. Reading books also helps to concentrate and calm down. As for shaving products - I don't see anything shameful, wrong or bad in this, it's even good and is a sign that you take care of yourself, your appearance and that you support yourself. No one likes unsupported, repulsive men and women. And in the store no one will notice that you buy such things, because it is something completely normal. I've seen men buy bras, bandages, women's stuff in general ... I'm impressed and a little weird, but even in those moments I'm kind of "oh, okay." For love and girlfriend - do not push at all. You are 17 years old. You still have to meet hundreds of people at university, after high school, at work ... it's not a problem at all that you don't like any of your class. I also did not have any serious romantic feelings for anyone in my class for 12 years at school - they all seemed to me to be sluts and minors. Wait for true love, it will be worth it, believe me ... !!! Your Approach is perfect - to want something real with someone, not just like that ... stick to this principle !!!
Hello! There are passengers for each train. You will find a girlfriend. You are not ashamed to buy men's cosmetics, nor will the saleswoman ask you or look at you. At 17, you should be ashamed, but do you ask the girls how they should get a wax mask or hair removal gel. Is the same . Find a hobby for stress, which is pleasant and interesting for you. Get out, don't shut up. For height, I will put it this way. As I said, there are passengers for each train. There are tall and short people in life and what of it? If you do not accept yourself as you are, there is no way for others to accept you. For more rounded shapes, try tightening them. Train a sport that will be interesting and help you. For girls there are all kinds: muffins, simpletons, smart, fun, etc. This applies to how you look and where. Expand your search perimeter. You see some of the girls and notice them, but there may be decent ones, but you don't look for them. As girls and girls look at appearance, let's not be fooled. If you match in character, she will not look at you in appearance. Good luck and don't despair! - Smiley
If you want to be a man, stop buying this nonsense and stop doing nonsense! You are ashamed, because this is your CONSCIENCE, something that you crushed into a ball in the bottom of your soul! But you, like most, are trying to instill in yourself that it does not exist .. Nowadays it is filled with .... People like you. Shovel them, pfu! A woman of 23
I've heard people are ashamed to buy condoms, but no shaving products. Probably in a few more years people will be ashamed to buy bread ... As for stress: masturbating is something completely natural, especially for a person your age. But it is important to do it in moderation. From the text I leave you with the impression that this is the only way you relax, which is not nice. There are many ways to unload: workouts, games (outdoors or computer), brain-stimulating tasks, and other less legal ones that you will refrain from adding, as there is no point in wasting time with them. Try to take a little break from masturbation. If you feel like you can't stand it, then I have bad news for you - you're addicted and you're in a period of abstinence. Find a hobby to kill time with.