Hello. A few months ago, my cousin gave birth, but she hadn't told me she was pregnant at all, even though we talked the day before the birth. I felt offended and did not congratulate her. We haven't heard from each other since, and we were quite close. She came to me when my child was born, we went out. I don't know why she decided to hide from me and my family. Everyone else (aunts, cousins, uncles) knew. Now I don't know what to do ... Should I call and go see the baby or ... not go at all if she's not looking for me? Maybe she feels offended that I didn't call, but I also feel like she's been hiding from me for 9 months? What do you think? What to do?
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Don't be petty, you're talking to her child now. She speaks badly of you if you behave petty, after all they are a separate family, you can't take people into account, especially for something like that.
I do not understand. Can't you see she's pregnant? And why don't you congratulate her and tell her about your thoughts? Congratulations and tell her you're happy for her, you just don't understand why she's wings. Did she think of leaving him and then hesitating? Or she's just superstitious and has only shared it with her family. You know her best. It's hardly wings to insult you.
Leave the girl - apparently you think you are close, and according to her you may have been annoying and toxic. If he doesn't call you and doesn't look for you, then he doesn't want to communicate with you. Everyone has the right to choose with whom to communicate, respect him!
She has been making plans for 9 months to keep her baby a secret from you. Maybe you're just not as close as you think, and if she was late with the news, she'd probably be dumb to tell you she's pregnant the day before she gives birth. Most likely the woman has other worries and doesn't think about you at all. It is strange that you have not commented on it with other relatives. Apparently you are generally not very close in the family.
There are superstitious people, so she decided to make a pass until she gave birth. Some do not show their babies for a year, some do not curse them. Her relatives know because they communicate more often. There may indeed be prejudices against you, yet you are only cousins. Nothing bad has happened, everyone has the right to live by their own rules. When you are so offended, you create it yourself, no one is obliged to inform you about everything. I think you're petty, it's okay to call her and congratulate her. And once she gave birth months ago, you can go and see the baby. Don't be silly, you're kind!
Is there a reason to hide? For example, I would feel bad to say that I am pregnant with a woman if she is struggling with infertility. It is God's work to conceive, and no one is to blame for what fate has ordained for others, but they may feel guilty.
Swallow your ego, share what you said to us.
With that title, I thought you were a man talking about a woman. Other times, put more specific titles so that we don't push people to click on such boring topics like an Indian series.
You're just not that close - it's not an insult. If you saw each other more often, you couldn't help but understand. She didn't feel comfortable sharing - she didn't share. If you decide to swallow your ego and go see the baby, if you think you will not feel well - it does not go. In any case, your cousin has completely different things at the moment and she is far from revolving around you and which relative, how she felt. I am currently pregnant and because my pregnancy is risky and we live abroad, we have not told almost any of our relatives - the most important thing for me is to protect the baby and give birth to it healthy - I do not have the strength to think and worry at the moment and whether a relative will be offended and how we will present the news to them.
Well, ask why she didn't tell you. It's simple. Don't sound aggressive, just explain to her that you don't understand why she hid it.
Maybe she thought you knew after all the relatives knew. After all, they are common to you. Call, greet her, say that you did not know and understood when she gave birth. A misunderstanding has occurred
Everything would be easier if people just weren't so stubborn and proud. If they didn't hold on to their own, and didn't wait for the other to take the step. Simple and happy as a normal, big man, tell us how you felt and that you regret that you reacted that way. There is no need for anyone who has not said or congratulated you to hate yourself for years. You just call, talk and, if you see each other, buy something for the baby. And then it's up to you two.