Hello! I am a 16 year old girl. I am in love with an 18-year-old friend of mine, who, however, cannot overcome the separation from his ex-girlfriend. We have been friends for about 3-4 years, and I have liked him since last summer. I couldn't tell him then because he had a girlfriend, but that's not what I'm writing about. Well, there were boyfriends with this girl for a little over 2 years, after which she broke up with him. The separation crushed him. In the time I knew him, I had never seen him cry until they broke up. And now, 4 months later, he continues to seek contact with her. She has a boyfriend, and his life seems to have stopped - he is not interested in other girls, he has stopped going to trainings and going out with his friends. He only goes to school because they are in the same class. He kept calling and writing to her until she blocked it. Ask her to see you, apologize and ask for forgiveness, and he doesn't even know what he's apologizing for. I explained to him that she looked pathetic that way, and that she had to stop, but he always replied that he loved her very much and could not do without her. He behaves as if he will never have another girl in his life, and he is probably one of the most attractive boys I have ever seen. However, this obsession with his ex bothers him. He refuses to move on, and his chances with this girl are long gone. I want to help him because he is currently torturing himself and doesn't even realize it. Please give me advice on how to proceed, because he is one of the most important people for me and I can't look at him like that! and he's probably one of the most attractive guys I've ever seen. However, this obsession with his ex bothers him. He refuses to move on, and his chances with this girl are long gone. I want to help him because he is currently torturing himself and doesn't even realize it. Please give me advice on how to proceed, because he is one of the most important people for me and I can't look at him like that! and he's probably one of the most attractive guys I've ever seen. However, this obsession with his ex bothers him. He refuses to move on, and his chances with this girl are long gone. I want to help him because he is currently torturing himself and doesn't even realize it. Please give me advice on how to proceed, because he is one of the most important people for me and I can't look at him like that!
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Hello! I'm sorry for your friend, because he seems like a good boy to me, at least from what you wrote, but the change must come from him. It is good that you are trying to help him, but it will be difficult for you if they are from the same class. Try to distract him, go out together, if he has a hobby, pay attention to it to stop thinking about that girl. I hope I was helpful! Evansitasa
All you have to do is be by his side. Talk constantly about the ex and what makes him think about her. The line between love and hate is very thin. One can easily pass into the other. Without being intrusive, just talk to each other and hope that he will accept and rethink things with his ex. Then he might possibly look at you. But it takes time. It has happened to me to be dumped after a long relationship, and then to reunite with a woman I have known for years, but I have never taken her seriously.
You can't make sense of him. Don't worry, it will be realized soon.
Give him a whistle. Sexual attention is a consolation for a boy / man. Or just strip naked in front of him. Go straight, very quickly you will forget your ex.