Hello. I am A. at 25 and I have a girlfriend of 6 years who is 24. We live together, but the problem is that at the beginning of the relationship we had sex if not every day, then at least every other day, but after our first year together she started to justify herself constantly .. her head hurt .. she slept and slept .. all sorts of stupid excuses from which I started to like it a lot .... !!! Even in the rare cases when it comes to intimacy, everything is hyper-mechanical and crazy ... as if just to beat the numbers. We've talked about it dozens of times, but she's either silent or she says there's no problem, I'm suggesting, and she's just tired. I met others because I needed sex .. I know it looks very superficial, but I'm super sick that the girl I love and she supposedly doesn't want me. I began to underestimate myself constantly and lost my confidence. The fact that the other girls I cheated on died for me made me realize that I'm not really ugly, nor do I have anything .. I'm just either bored or she's the type of woman who doesn't like sex . I'm still young and I feel the need to have sex, but I don't want her to be with anyone ... and for me it's the most normal thing when you're with someone to want intimacy. I have already tried to create variety for her and make small surprises for her. I changed my attitude a lot because she said which things she didn't like about me ... and yet she didn't change anything. I can't imagine life without her, but I can't deprive myself of sex. Please if anyone has had a similar problem, let them share their experience. Is there anything that would help make her want me at least half as much as before ...? nor do I have anything .. I'm just either bored or she's the type of woman who doesn't like sex. I'm still young and I feel the need to have sex, but I don't want her to have sex with anyone ... and for me it's the most normal thing when you're with someone to want intimacy. I have already tried to create variety for her and make small surprises for her. I changed my attitude a lot because she said which things she didn't like about me ... and yet she didn't change anything. I can't imagine life without her, but I can't deprive myself of sex. Please if anyone has had a similar problem, let them share their experience. Is there anything that would help make her want me at least half as much as before ...? nor do I have anything .. I'm just either bored or she's the type of woman who doesn't like sex. I'm still young and I feel the need to have sex, but I don't want her to be with anyone ... and for me it's the most normal thing when you're with someone to want intimacy. I have already tried to create variety for her and make small surprises for her. I changed my attitude a lot because she said which things she didn't like about me ... and yet she didn't change anything. I can't imagine life without her, but I can't deprive myself of sex. Please if anyone has had a similar problem, let them share their experience. Is there anything that would help make her want me at least half as much as before ...? when you are with someone to want intimacy. I have already tried to create variety for her and make small surprises for her. I changed my attitude a lot because she said which things she didn't like about me ... and yet she didn't change anything. I can't imagine life without her, but I can't deprive myself of sex. Please if anyone has had a similar problem, let them share their experience. Is there anything that would help make her want me at least half as much as before ...? when you are with someone to want intimacy. I have already tried to create variety for her and make small surprises for her. I changed my attitude a lot because she said which things she didn't like about me ... and yet she didn't change anything. I can't imagine life without her, but I can't deprive myself of sex. Please if anyone has had a similar problem, let them share their experience. Is there anything that would help make her want me at least half as much as before ...?
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I didn't understand anything - are you both girls? You talk about yourself as a woman and about your girlfriend. Or is it a bad story?
"The fact that the other girls I cheated on with died for me made me realize that I'm not really ugly, nor do I have anything ..." that's what gender leads to! Aren't there men for you, so you pretend to be interesting? Sex is about creating generations, what kind of sex is lesbianism? !! You're just wasting your time!
You confuse masculine and feminine;)
Big problem!!!! His decision cannot be postponed.
Wait a minute, are you a lesbian?
I didn't understand ... are you a lesbian?
I think a lot of people have been in your place. Most women (including me) are not fully motivated by sex and it is not always their first priority. Try talking to her again, and if you haven't already, tell her that sex is an important part of your relationship for you (but not entirely based on her, or your love for her) that you don't want to ignore, and if you have to tell her that you would not want to move on if it lasts so long and for so often.
Yes, we are two women ... not confused. It is not necessary to discuss this, but the problem itself, because the exact same situation can happen with hetero couples ... And just to add that I am not a gender. I look and act like a woman.
He just doesn't love you anymore. Or think of another. On all such topics, regardless of gender and age of people, the answer is the same. If you love someone, you want him and you need intimacy with him, you can't imagine life without sex with that person. Even more so if in the beginning there was, but now there isn't! Sorry. That's it. And in the previous comments I don't know what is strange about them being 2 girls, what you were so shocked about we are in the 21st century!
The first comments are completely hateful, offensive and useless! And then there are the rules: Keep wisdom to yourself, others need compassion! Moderators, take a look at these things! Next to the author, I will advise you to sit down and talk openly, without excuses and attacks. You also say that it is important and important for you to have sex in your relationship, and she does not want to continue. I think it was selfish and it was up to you to stagger and cheat, but it happened. After all, you either appreciate and love her as a person, sex comes second, or it's all chiki chiki - you don't love each other and you're only together because of the urge. Think about it!
There was no point in saying they were lesbians, but why? Is it normal that while reading we do not ask ourselves the question, are you not wrong in spelling? This gender story around the world has become something very normal. On the subject, since you don't have a penis, she won't like it because the girl wants a penis, why? Answer yourself.
Kitten, after six years of relationship I'm not surprised it's happening to you.
For some people it may not be normal because they do not understand it, but for me it will not be normal to force myself to sleep with men if I do not like it.