She Hid From Me The Reason For Her Divorce, Namely Infidelity With Her Ex. And Now Where?

   I don't know how long you will spin and write the same stories! All your wives are guilty of being moldy, and they are cheating on you!

   Either you take a risk, trust her and move on, or you give in to doubt and separate. But you need a serious conversation between the two and tell her what you wrote here. One to one, be honest. Let her be warned. Otherwise, no one can guarantee you anything in this life.

   The dilemma is not easy for you ... I can say for myself that I could not trust her, precisely because she is silent, not to mention that she is looking to get caught somewhere and will say what you want - a woman with a child - there are not many men who would take this path ... And what is the relationship without trust?

   She is not honest with you, you cannot trust such a woman as long as she is still in a relationship with her lover and is hiding. That's why you should never believe a woman's words, what they tell you, watch the actions. If you want to continue together, you must completely cut off contact with the former. You can try for a while, but never trust him now that he is lying to you about such important things in your life! Scorpio

   Author, you think very correctly about trust. Come on, she made a mistake in her first marriage to make love to her ex, but the fact that she continues to be in contact with him now is not good. She is obviously a weak angel of the woman. I'm not optimistic about your relationship.

   Up to 1. Well, she chose this mold. And when a man cheats on his wife, is she moldy? Or maybe he's a pig and she didn't drink holy water? If you don't get rid of it, don't enter the site. Is it so hard for you to understand that there is rubbish of both sexes.

   I would try never again in my life to write the word "nothing" before anything else ... Such illiterates should be glad that someone even paid you a drop of attention. Brother.

   To spare you the dilemma - you will always have doubts in it, and rightly so. two reasons: 1. as they have already said, she hid from you and did not tell you why she divorced. this means that in a "hot situation", she will still prefer to hide from you. it is up to the mentality and stereotype of attitude towards the other. which contrasts sharply with yours, as is clear. 2. she is still in touch with him, even though it is "nothing special". you realize that you have hardly gone from "incinerating love" to the stage of "purely platonic love." can we rule out the possibility that she will lean on his shoulder to cry, purely friendly, of course, and refrain from letting go of one hand, out of habit. now, I'm not telling you to dump her right away, although I doubt you will ever swallow the doubts that will haunt you from now on. But you can do a little test - one night, by the way, and insert that you want to read all her communication and watch it very carefully while you tell her. if she panics, you know she has something to hide. if he refuses, even easier. if it turns out that they are deleting their chats and there are no chats, it means that she had something to hide and did not want to leave any awkward traces that you could find. P. with Number 1, a lot of "alphas" will line up your ass until you realize the simple truth about yourself. but it will be a lonely evening when you will be a jerk and no one but such a "mold" would look at you anymore. by the way, insert that you want to read all her communication and watch her very carefully while you tell her. if she panics, you know she has something to hide. if he refuses, even easier. if it turns out that they are deleting their chats and there are no chats, it means that she had something to hide and did not want to leave any awkward traces that you could find. P. with Number 1, a lot of "alphas" will line up your ass until you realize the simple truth about yourself. but it will be a lonely evening when you will be a jerk and no one but such a "mold" would look at you anymore. by the way, insert that you want to read all her communication and watch her very carefully while you tell her. if she panics, you know she has something to hide. if he refuses, even easier. if it turns out that they are deleting their chats and there are no chats, it means that she had something to hide and did not want to leave any awkward traces that you could find. P. with Number 1, a lot of "alphas" will line up your ass until you realize the simple truth about yourself. but it will be a lonely evening when you will be a jerk and no one but such a "mold" would look at you anymore. it means she had something to hide and didn't want to leave any awkward traces you might find. P. with Number 1, a lot of "alphas" will line up your ass until you realize the simple truth about yourself. but it will be a lonely evening when you will be a jerk and no one but such a "mold" would look at you anymore. it means she had something to hide and didn't want to leave any awkward traces you might find. P. with Number 1, a lot of "alphas" will line up your ass until you realize the simple truth about yourself. but it will be a lonely evening when you will be a jerk and no one but such a "mold" would look at you anymore.

   I don't think she's entirely to blame for her divorce. If her ex-husband was literate, she wouldn't look away. Anyway, past. She wasn't brave enough to tell you, but it's understandable. If she has hidden, then she feels guilty, and also that she does not want this to affect her future relationship. I personally think that she regrets that she understands the situation with a small child, that she would never go through the same thing again. She would not cause it to herself, her child and her new partner. Author, don't worry, everything will be fine. Besides, to find a new girl, unmarried, what is the guarantee that she will not cheat on you? Give yourself a chance!

   What do you need an ultimatum - you or him? To remove it from everywhere, to delete its number. I would be here with confidence.

   Hey, boy, there's an ugly but true story - a woman, if other people's balls hit her in the ass, there's no stopping. I hope she understood me.

   Damian, brother, you answered the questions yourself. No faith in this cattle. It will itch again, it will stick to this great love and you will have two options - to proudly wear deer antlers or to be a second source of support. What impresses me is that you are still young - you have time, you have options. All the fat from the site will now develop theories for second chances, forgiveness and the like, but especially for the one where you caught her, there is no room for forgiveness. She has planted herself, she tells herself that she has cheated, and then, mother, she needs a father for these children. There are no such films. I am even inclined to bet 20 leva that this child is not of her ex-husband but of "great love". People said, "Beat, respect you!"

   Don't take offense at me, but this is a form of masochism of yours. I understand that you are in ignorance, as it was in the beginning, but once you understand what a commodity it is, what are you wondering? You can reconcile or make up as many excuses as you want for her betrayal, you can even live for a while in the delusion that the same thing will not happen to your relationship, but it will not change the truth: you will always wonder what exactly happened. and you will always be on thorns not to repeat.

   Dear Damian, An elderly woman writes to you, I have been in a similar situation and I will advise you to separate peacefully and quietly, no matter how painful it may be for both of you. I will also tell you why: because all your life you will be tormented by the doubt that he will not cheat on you or leave you and go to his ex, or anyone else. And conversations and promises will not help. If you have children one day it becomes very complicated. Leave her and you find someone else - free. Let her decide in the future how to deal with her next partner. In the absence of trust and the slightest doubt between the spouses, only divorce is a solution. The other is a sad and nervous cohabitation, accompanied by hypocritical smiles and pretense. I wish you success, F.54

   Their relationship is their work from the past. Look at the present and really assess the situation.

   It is normal for him to be silent, because he knows how you will accept it and what doubts it will arouse in you. Everyone makes mistakes, everyone has something in the past that would bother their current partner in some way. You've known her for a while. Try to ignore what you have learned for a moment and answer the following questions: What kind of person is she? Do you think she can be trusted? Does he look like someone learning from the past? There are no guarantees. Maybe someone who has messed up a lot has learned a lesson. Maybe someone who has never made a mistake will totally withdraw. Or maybe the opposite. Therefore judge by man.

   In my opinion, where it has flowed, it will flow again, ie at the moment when they have the opportunity with "her great love", they will start the affair again. Especially when they "write to each other from time to time". Having been so great love - what is not taken? Especially since they got her there to break up her previous family. Let me guess - because he is married. Just because she cried doesn't mean anything. I'm sorry, but I think you're there because he doesn't want to be. If you can live with that, stay with her. If you can't - be honest with yourself especially and don't waste your time.

   Number 1 I don't know your husband or wife, but I'll tell you why we jump so much. Because no matter how much you spit, no matter how much you pass the ball to men, it won't change the fact that women are whores by nature. Women are not monogamous and never have been. They love diversity, they love dramas, if they don't have dramas they create them themselves. They don't like being with one man. They love the wedding, like a ceremony, but they don't like to be wives. To be an isolated case, to say it's mold. But this is already everywhere. Constantly and everywhere I see the behavior between people in a relationship. Otherwise to the author. The answer is clear and I think you know it. Getting married to a woman with a child first is very complicated in itself. It can't be true to you, you will hear everything you want to hear just to keep you by your side. And she doesn't want to keep you because she loves you, and because there is security, because her great love only fucks her, and there is no way to return to the former. A woman with a child is looking for security and a provider, and you are in this role. He is looking for a new girlfriend without children. You will be very serious, but you will not understand it until after a while, so I warn you now. If you are a man, it is even more unfortunate that you jump against men and defend women.

   After divorcing for great love, why isn't she with him now? Isn't it logical if she wanted so badly to be with this man after her divorce to stay with him? She is with you instead. There is always a risk that the other side will betray you, hurt you. But it's part of the deal to love, to trust. One should always have one thing in mind, but not to torment and wonder all the time. If everything else in the relationship is fine, if it inspires confidence in you, if there are no contradictions in the words and .. maybe it was just a mistake, and we can all sometimes go wrong ..

   Dude, I'm telling you most responsibly as an older friend of yours: She "doesn't want to lose you," but at the first major conflict or crack in the relationship between you - she's going to go down on his ... the moments when a person has to feel alone and feel sick because of the consequences of something he has done to the other, she will have someone to "comfort" her (remember ...). You know, we have a great relationship with my first boyfriend (not to mention how many years ago), BUT in a family relationship! Ie after our love affair ended, there was a period of 10 or more years in which we had COMPLETELY lost contact (not to write to each other and fuck from time to time ...). After that, along with mutual friends, we made contact again, but this time as married couples with children, etc. It turned out that her then-husband knew him before, we have interests in one area, and we quickly became friends. She and my wife also liked each other very much. Our children grow up together - we often get together, go for walks, excursions, theater, etc., BUT no intimacy, hints, conversations and talk in private, scribbles at night, etc. What was once we remember it sometimes with laughter and so much ...

   1, shhhh, the feminized emanciPATKA better keep quiet! You are a mold, mostly because you do not reflect the author's topic at all, and you only babble about your nonsense in the style of "one grandmother knows - one bae"!

   I don't know, but I personally have never refused a nice fuck with an ex, especially when it is at her request and she is alone and unhappy, or quarreling with her husband.

   I think you should stay together, because in fact you love the deceased and you are with this one only because she looks like her, she loves the other one and knows that there is no chance for a lasting relationship with him, that is, you are both in the same situation, you love someone you can't be with. As you find similarity in her with yours, she probably finds the same in you. Exactly a relationship like yours is one of the longest lasting. There was a Muslim tale about a crippled stork and a crippled raven who lived together and surprised everyone, but a sage explained to the people who had gathered to see that they were together because they had similar fates. If I find the story later, I'll dig it for you.

   What to say. Infidelity is a part of life. About a year ago we started to come across one at work. I look at him, such a nice one, and every time we passed, some looks and smiles, but the attraction was a fact. And in the end we agreed. I remember one case. I left home in the evening, I called mine, they called me urgently to work. My profession is such that it happens all the time. I go out and wait for my lover to pick me up. I get in his car and he yells at me, I'm excited all day thinking about you. I told him to unbutton and handed him one while he was driving. I swallowed everything so as not to get married. He took me to them and we started. I liked how the whole thing licked me, both back and front. It finally ended up on my chest. He calls me, he must be ignoring you. I answer him, I don't, he's a dude. But he writes with the same. And so, then I went home alive and well to my husband and child. And we spent months with this handsome man. Just sex, nothing personal. Sounds a little naughty, huh? Calm down. The story is made up. In fact, I did a little service again. The story is true, but the adulterer is the man. Are you still so shocked? I read a lot of stories on this site where men are so disgusted and outraged by women's infidelity that I call myself that if they feel that way, then they would never do such a thing to their wife. Yes, but. Everyone knows a lot when they do it to them, but it's completely different when they do it. Are you still so shocked? I read a lot of stories on this site where men are so disgusted and outraged by women's infidelity that I call myself that if they feel that way, then they would never do such a thing to their wife. Yes, but. Everyone knows a lot when they do it to them, but it's completely different when they do it. Are you still so shocked? I read a lot of stories on this site where men are so disgusted and outraged by women's infidelity that I call myself that if they feel that way, then they would never do such a thing to their wife. Yes, but. Everyone knows a lot when they do it to them, but it's completely different when they do it.

   I am a woman. Honestly, if she loves you, let her end her conversations with her past great love. What is your girlfriend confused about? That the truth is coming out? Isn't it a little impudent for someone to look after your child from another man, for you to talk with your great love? Would it be such a great sacrifice for her if she interrupted such conversations? It will be difficult for her to let you out of her life, because rarely a man in Bulgaria raises another's child. Her tears are not for you, but for fear of losing this opportunity. Believe me, I know of many such cases. Try it - to stop talking to the person. If not - it doesn't deserve you.

   №1 The author is not petty, but because she has serious intentions, she does not want one day to abandon him, as she did with her first husband. And if they have children, it will ruin his life. It's about trust, not that she's fucked up with "her big love" again. Author, do not rush with children. If I were you, I'd eavesdrop on her phone. Consult a specialist. I know it sounds ugly, but it's the only way to understand the real situation. Otherwise, you will always live in suspicion and this will eventually create problems. It will be interesting if you write how things developed.

   Where to? Probably nowhere. Silencing the truth is also a lie. She lied to her ex-husband in the same way, but she quarreled with the "big love" (since she's so big, why is she an ex too?), Now what's stopping her from continuing with you in the same pattern? People 30 and older do not change. Apparently she still has something to do with that one, as long as she keeps on the notes and calls, if she whistles to her, no wonder she repeats the number. She also has experience in how to be careful not to get caught anymore. She needs you because it is clear that there is no herd of candidates for marriage and raising another child waiting at her door. But since she started her life with you with a lie, she is not a literate person. I wouldn't trust her. And without trust there is no connection, no love.

   Do not punish the woman for past mistakes. You must have learned a lesson and will not allow it again. That doesn't stop you from being alert, but don't blame her for something she didn't do.

   To 7. Brother, you read what you want. They did not see that it was a technical error. The author wrote "nothing" with "z" in two places. This site is not for spelling. Aman, from idiots.

   I am amazed that she divorced her ex, but still has some relationship with him. If she regretted her mistake, there must have been some hatred for him after he helped end her relationship, even though she was to blame. Ask her why she cheated, if her husband wasn't a freak, that speaks very badly of her. And the fact that instead of starting fresh, she maintains a relationship with her ex to caress her ego. Such a person can rotate in the online space, because of his sick need for attention. The whole story is very dubious and I don't think anything good is waiting for you with such a woman. And I'm telling you this even though I'm a woman and I'm generally in solidarity with women. My ex-husband is the same, he wrote to several women on the Internet to download them. One was his ex, with which he cheated on his previous girlfriend. Amy caught him after a while explaining himself to her in love. Such simply have no fix. Otherwise, we did not separate, because of this, but because of more serious things, because it turned out to be a complete lunatic, but that's another matter. Separate from the woman, because nothing good awaits you, especially if you care about the family in general, your values ​​do not match.

   Brother, the "sinless", will you make grammatical remarks? You have nothing to say on the subject, but just like the "old cockade" just to blabber yourself, you pretend to be a teacher in Bulgarian, huh? You are an extremely funny person! I am sure that the author has enough qualities. Grammatical errors are not such a problem, not like the arrogance that abounds in you.

   Author, calm down! This is in the past, the woman has suffered enough and I do not believe she will make the same mistake again. It makes sense to me to be honest with you now. She didn't tell you out of fear, she was obviously ashamed, and she didn't want to create hesitation in you. Alas, sometimes we run away from fate, but it still finds us. So it was with your girlfriend. She was afraid to tell you so as not to lose her trust in her, and just keeping quiet, she hesitated. In the end, she didn't try to hide the truth from you, she admitted everything when you asked. If he intended to lie to you, he wouldn't tell himself so easily. I understand! I understand you perfectly. Everyone in your position would worry and start thinking a lot. But what can I tell you? We all have a great love, we all know that we must close all doors to this love, to have a better future. What she had with that one can always flare up again, but that depends only on her. It's not just about her, it's about people with great love. Whichever woman you catch, she will have a past and great love from the past. Whatever it is, you can be the greater love, which fortunately is also present. Everything happens, you can't protect yourself. It's not worth poisoning your thoughts by thinking for yourself. Now tighten up and listen. Human things happen to you, talk to your girlfriend. Sit down like big people and tell yourself everything. You told us everything here precisely and clearly, you probably didn't do it right in front of her, so as not to burden her and make her feel guilty. That's nice, but it can't be that way. You are a couple, you have big plans, you have to learn to discuss all kinds of topics, even painful ones. She needs to know what's going on in your head and heart, and you need to know the same thing about her. As long as you are afraid and guarded, you are not doing anything good this way.

   And in the end, all the negatives are taken away by the child. I would not accept a woman with a child for several reasons, first of all there is no way for you to become the father of this child in any way, believe me there will not be. Second, if you have a child in common, you will always care more about yours than someone else's. Third, against the background of so many free women without children, she sees no reason to stay with her for two main reasons. First, she cheated on her husband, second, after the cheating, she didn't learn a lesson and didn't give up on the person she did it with, what does that tell you? Now you will start asking questions, you will be jealous, there will be quarrels. And do you know what the former can do? To offer a shoulder to cry, to complain and then to ride it, there is no easier prey than the former who has some problems with his current relationship. Where it has flowed, it will flow again

   Author, he speaks very badly about her, that he maintains a relationship with his ex-lover. She divorced because of him, but apparently she does not feel any regret for her mistake and for her broken family. I've seen it, my ex did the same. I found out about the mistress, we parted for a while to make him think, but NO! He did not end his relationship with her and logically we divorced. Then she dumped him. In general, if you realize what is more important to you - the family, the normal reaction is to delete the third person from everywhere and start fresh, unless you do not intend to reunite with him. But this is not the case. I have the feeling that at the first problem between you, I will run to him to cry. I think it's better to separate before she gives birth to a child and wonder what to do.

   If it was all over, she wouldn't be afraid of losing you.

   Most say they would not take a woman with a child, and rightly so! Let's skip this, let's skip this: if a woman leaves ... Let's say it's normal not to "trumpet" about infidelity. But I was personally very shocked by this: "from time to time they write and hear, but nothing special." "From time to time" - probably several times a day. "Nothing special" is very special. What are they hearing about? Thank him for "breaking" her family, but he his - NO !? It was very rightly suggested that you eavesdrop on her conversations and check in detail what she had written - with or without her knowledge. Now it is considered even abnormal not to cheat on a woman, and in this direction he will find support from all or almost all women, it is no coincidence that it is said that: all women are ... And number 1, I would look after censorship: piu, piu , piu!