I don't know if I could call it a problem, but I just can't understand what's happening to me, why I'm always pretending, why I'm always different in front of people. I recently found out that my best friend said various things about me, which offended me a lot, but I did not say that I know anything, I continue to write to her, to meet her outside and so on. n. But I also talk behind her back ... I want to be friends with her, but knowing that she can't stand me + to talk about her to someone else .. And I'm also a hell of a gossip, just if someone tells me something he told me not to say, I immediately spoil it to the first person I meet ... I don't know what I can call myself - Hypocrite, hypocrite, gossip, liar, etc. but I don't want to be like that ... I want to be normal and not talk behind people's backs ... I feel very guilty!
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You gossip said it yourself;)
We are all gossips, even men. Gossip has been shown to unite the community, the group. To satisfy your need for gossip - start reading gossip magazines and gossiping about various stars and celebrities who do not know you anyway. This way you will both have a topic of conversation that satisfies your need for gossip, and you will not hurt the people around you.
Thank you very much for realizing the problem and looking for a solution. Yes, in this case you are a hypocrite and a gossip. But as number 2 said, who isn't? Of course, this is not an excuse or a reason for you to do it, but it's not so scary. The point is to minimize these manifestations, because no one likes gossip and intriguers, right? If you do not change this part of your character, you will repel people and stand alone. You know, I had a moment like that, maybe as a kid. I couldn't keep secrets at all, I admit. By nature I am such that I love to share with people, to talk, to discuss various things. I don't do it maliciously or for any purpose, I just chatted a lot .. I realized that it was not correct that I was wrong, but I kept whispering to someone. And you know when someone came and threw some gossip at me or wanted to tell me some spicy news, I said to him: I don't care, I don't want to know. It was difficult for me at first, a few times and then I gradually got used to it and learned not to get involved in other people's things. There were even cases when a relative wanted to share something with me and I told him - Don't, you know I'm going to say something ... Even people who have known me for a long time are already joking about it and are not angry with me. What to do - I'm human. With each accumulated year on top, I learn more and more not to get involved in other people's things and to know where, what and with whom I am talking. :)) And you will learn, as long as you want. Good luck There have even been cases when someone close to me wanted to share something with me and I told him - Don't, you know I'm going to say something ... Even people who have known me for a long time are already joking about it and are not angry with me. What to do - I'm human. With each accumulated year on top, I learn more and more not to get involved in other people's things and to know where, what and with whom I am talking. :)) And you will learn, as long as you want. Success Bad There have even been cases when someone close to me wanted to share something with me and I told him - Don't, you know I'm going to say something ... Even people who have known me for a long time are already joking about it and are not angry with me. What to do - I'm human. With each accumulated year on top, I learn more and more not to get involved in other people's things and to know where, what and with whom I am talking. :)) And you will learn, as long as you want. Success Bad
You are two similarities, like two branches of a primrose ... Fate gathers the like! :)