I have a relationship with a woman 17 years older than me. She is 42, I am 25. We have been together for 3 years. We love each other and we have a good time together. She is beautiful and I can say for sure that she looks much better than most 20 year old girls. I think that the difference in age does not matter, the important thing is to be nice and happy. We are happy together.
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And how do others perceive your difference? I am the author of the story "I fell in love with my student". Our difference is as much as yours. Read it and you will see ....
Who are you trying to convince - yourself or us?
I'm happy for you. However, I can't understand one thing. If you are happy, you love each other, she is more beautiful than a 20-year-old girl, and you must be more mature than your peers, etc., etc. If everything is so beautiful, why the hell, are you doing a topic here for you, with the main focus on the difference in your years? Why don't you enjoy your partner instead? What do you care what we think when you're happy? If the love between you is so strong and true, why does it need public approval / rebuke? I'll tell you what I think. Your relationship is less than 3 years old. You deliberately wrote 3 to be more convincing. However, this is not the most important thing. You experience basic sexual attraction, but in itself, it is not enough to be unmistakably convinced that everything is in place and she is the woman of your life. The difference in your age makes you cringe. You wonder what the future will be. You need our comments, to tell you what you have already thought and you are worried, but you do not dare to admit. You want to oppose us, to convince us that we are not right at all and everything is prejudice. And in this way, you internally hope, without realizing it, perhaps that you will convince yourself that everything is fine. I hope I'm wrong and all of the above is just a figment of my imagination. Otherwise, if you feel that there is a gram of truth in what I wrote, then in that case, after 5 years, you will remember your current relationship with a smile. Or without ... that we are not right at all and everything is prejudice. And in this way, you internally hope, without realizing it, perhaps that you will convince yourself that everything is fine. I hope I'm wrong and all of the above is just a figment of my imagination. Otherwise, if you feel that there is a gram of truth in what I wrote, then in that case, after 5 years, you will remember your current relationship with a smile. Or without ... that we are not right at all and everything is prejudice. And in this way, you internally hope, without realizing it, perhaps that you will convince yourself that everything is fine. I hope I'm wrong and all of the above is just a figment of my imagination. Otherwise, if you feel that there is a gram of truth in what I wrote, then in that case, after 5 years, you will remember your current relationship with a smile. Or without ...
Does your topic have a purpose?
1, I read your story and comments ... it absolutely doesn't matter how others perceive this or that. And people have their own lives, their own worries, no one cares about you. As far as I understand, the boy / student / is ready to get together, but you don't want to, you want to give up love. Why? What is more important than her? To tell you the truth, I was shocked that you want to end the relationship. Here the author here says "we are happy together", and you? Don't you want to be happy?
Number 6, I'm number 1. Read the comments of others and you will understand me. 2/3 of the people tried to convince me that in 10 years I will be in menopause, and the dude will tease young chicks, dump me, etc. I do not know how others will accept this relationship. If you will believe me, I want it more than anything. If I now had the choice to live without him or die, I would choose the latter. For so many years of conscious life for the first time someone gives everything for me and is not interested in anything else. If there was the slightest chance, I would be with him, but I'm afraid it will kill me ...
I quote a thought: "You wouldn't worry so much about what people think of you if you knew how seldom they do." we come to the opinion written in comment number 6, namely - "everyone has their own life". it doesn't matter that someone said something. he said it today, I won't even remember it tomorrow. and you decide for yourself whether to be happy or to succumb to your fears. everyone has to fight for their happiness.
Number 1, 6, you wouldn't be writing about this story of yours anymore, would you? Or now transfer it to the comments! ?? What are you talking about, doesn't he want to be with you anymore? And you are stocking up with your ex ... Enough with this drama! We're tired! And next to the author, number 4, he wrote everything that has to be said on the subject!
7, I understand you, but no one knows about after 10 years. We don't even know what will happen tomorrow, let alone in 1-2-5 or 10 years. Live today, now. There are no guarantees for anything, the guarantees are in the old cemetery. You are afraid that this will kill you ... no, this will not kill you, the other will kill you. You put obstacles in the way of love, but once the bird lands on your shoulder, the second time it will not land. PEOPLE what they think and how they look at something is a last resort. 8 is right, people live their lives, why don't you live yours too. The fear: well, if he dumps me, because of "young chicks", if ... you won't lose anything, but if you step on this love, you certainly lose. I'm not telling you what to do, I'm not convincing you of anything. I'm just sharing my view:) ... Why don't you listen to your heart? Do not listen to anyone or anything, only your heart. Everything else is nonsense, dust in the wind. :)
You are a lucky author - Not for anything else, just such women are temperamental and natural, and what is it for you to go with someone in their 20s who thinks how to muffle you, and in bed is like a robot. You will be envied mostly by your peers and some tanned uncles. Yes, it's obvious that the difference is big, but look at it from the good side - Many boys fantasize that they have a relationship with more mature women, but do not admit it to the mufti women. You're lucky, smile. :)))
By your logic - so when you turn 42 and look better than 20-year-old boys, she will be 59.
Number 9, when you're tired, don't read. I only communicate with one person there, and it is not your job what is happening and will happen. I do not want your opinion. I am writing here to the author, and I do not know who you are, nor do I care if you are alive.
Until №9 When you're tired- Don't read! Do not write! When someone writes something, they are obviously worried or confused. And you don't write, You don't read, find another activity that will bring you joy - but obviously you don't have one ... Hello, Author, don't seek advice from outsiders - look for balance between heart and brain. There are enough villains here, and everyone watches and judges their own life, experience, upbringing and environment. It's good that you ask, but you didn't say if the lady was married, if she had children, etc. If you want and have the opportunity, try and live a little together - then everything will become clear to you. You have to look in the same direction, have the same dreams, the same goals and a similar understanding and mentality of both pairs of parents. What is superimposed on the upbringing of both, no matter how hard you try now and think it doesn't matter - at some point it appears - even the standard of living. The grandmothers simply said that you should be from the same rug. And the people, you see them - we have become bad and we are looking to get rid of the anger against which it falls against us. №1. do not put an end to the topic - pour out your soul, better here than to "girlfriends" are always the closest and greatest enemies. As well as: "The greatest suffering in our lives is caused not by those we hate, but by those we love." To soon find the inner peace and balance, as well as the person with whom you want to start a family and be happy - and he will adore you. "It is not those we hate who cause us the most suffering in life, but those we love." To soon find the inner peace and balance, as well as the person with whom you want to start a family and be happy - and he will adore you. "It is not those we hate who cause us the most suffering in life, but those we love." To soon find the inner peace and balance, as well as the person with whom you want to start a family and be happy - and he will adore you.
To number 11 Thank you for the wise comment. Of course I have my fears, but I am in love and I care a lot about her. to number 4- the title was I am in love, but it was changed by the moderators.
If it gives you pleasure that you can't get from any young woman, you shouldn't worry about comments like in ten years or more. I also have a relationship with an older woman. I'm 27 and she's 39. She's divorced and single. We have been together for two years now and we love each other. Sex with her is as great as she is. She is cool and has incredible sex appeal for her age. He maintains and has an amazing body and face, and the fact that he is 39 years old, but I don't care at all. It is better to have a woman in bed who can satisfy you, as well as in life. I had peers younger than me, but so far I had not received from them what she gives me. I may be blamed for young ladies, but this is individual and should not be a problem. There are also young girls who can make a man happy with them. Just do what is in your heart and soul.
To numbers 13 and 14, I'm 9. Oooh, whether I will read and / or write, you will not tell me! And you are even funnier to discuss my life where you don't know it !! He laughed heart to heart (especially to the sufferer number 13)! See your lives and miserable problems, don't spam this man's story with your drama!