At the beginning of the year I met a great woman. We started seeing each other, we had a good time. We became intimate. I fell in love, gradually realizing that I had more serious intentions for this man. And she keeps explaining to me that she doesn't want to commit, that she can't change her lifestyle, that she doesn't think I'm the Man, and she doesn't want to mislead me. At the same time, she is very nice to me, she is definitely not indifferent to me, it is obvious, but she has serious reservations and puts barriers between us, she does not trust anyone and does not want to commit. I don't necessarily want to become a family, I don't know what will happen, we've only been in a relationship for 5 months, we've been intimate for 4, it's too early, but it's terribly exhausting for me to keep telling myself that I can't imagine the future with me and at the same time continue to communicate with me. And there are moments and speeches, who definitely betray her hesitation, confusion, fear, but also betray that she still imagines a future with me and this is not alien to her. And he claims that we make love, not sex, and I wonder how he can not love me and make love to me, if it is possible, let women share. She was badly hurt years ago and since then she can't commit, she doesn't trust men and I think the problem is there. But it weighs terribly hard on me, and I don't know if I have to fight to gain her trust, or let her break her head, that is, keep being alone, not trusting anyone, and not overcoming this one. serious problem. And I think we have the potential to create a wonderful family. We are both divorced, we have children and we are thirty years old, we have no right to waste our time. but they betray and think that she is still imagining a future with me and this is not alien to her. And he claims that we make love, not sex, and I wonder how he can not love me and make love to me, if it is possible, let women share. She was badly hurt years ago and since then she can't commit, she doesn't trust men and I think the problem is there. But it weighs terribly hard on me, and I don't know if I have to fight to gain her trust, or let her break her head, that is, keep being alone, not trusting anyone, and not overcoming this one. serious problem. And I think we have the potential to create a wonderful family. We are both divorced, we have children and we are thirty years old, we have no right to waste our time. but they betray and think that she is still imagining a future with me and this is not alien to her. And he claims that we make love, not sex, and I wonder how he can not love me and make love to me, if it is possible, let women share. She was badly hurt years ago and since then she can't commit, she doesn't trust men and I think the problem is there. But it weighs terribly hard on me, and I don't know if I have to fight to gain her trust, or let her break her head, that is, keep being alone, not trusting anyone, and not overcoming this one. serious problem. And I think we have the potential to create a wonderful family. We are both divorced, we have children and we are thirty years old, we have no right to waste our time. and I wonder how he can not love me and make love to me, if it is possible, let women share. She was badly hurt years ago and since then she can't commit, she doesn't trust men and I think the problem is there. But it weighs terribly hard on me, and I don't know if I have to fight to gain her trust, or let her break her head, that is, keep being alone, not trusting anyone, and not overcoming this one. serious problem. And I think we have the potential to create a wonderful family. We are both divorced, we have children and we are thirty years old, we have no right to waste our time. and I wonder how he can not love me and make love to me, if it is possible, let women share. She was badly hurt years ago and since then she can't commit, she doesn't trust men and I think the problem is there. But it weighs terribly hard on me, and I don't know if I have to fight to gain her trust, or let her break her head, that is, keep being alone, not trusting anyone, and not overcoming this one. serious problem. And I think we have the potential to create a wonderful family. We are both divorced, we have children and we are thirty years old, we have no right to waste our time. to gain her trust, or to let her break her head, that is, to continue to be alone, not to trust anyone, and not to overcome this serious problem. And I think we have the potential to create a wonderful family. We are both divorced, we have children and we are thirty years old, we have no right to waste our time. to gain her trust, or to let her break her head, that is, to continue to be alone, not to trust anyone, and not to overcome this serious problem. And I think we have the potential to create a wonderful family. We are both divorced, we have children and we are thirty years old, we have no right to waste our time.
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Hey, if this woman continues like this one day, she's really going to push you away because it's all about time. No matter how hard it was for her before, she must be open to another relationship, otherwise if she is not, she will not find happiness.
Time will tell.
I am a wife with such problems. It's hard. I've been in a relationship with a man for a year and I hold on to him a lot and I can say that I even love him, but I don't want us to live together and have anything more serious than that. That's how I explained it and for now they understand me correctly. Maybe something is cracking in your girlfriend and she's afraid to show that she thinks of you as a couple with a future. Judging by my experience, it would take me a long time to convince myself that this will be the next person I will trust and give completely. I don't know what to dedicate to you. She may love you and be afraid to even admit it to herself (and I was like that in the beginning). If you are not in a hurry to get married and it is good for you to continue together. It is really very difficult when you have been very hurt to have full confidence again.
Thank you for the comments, especially number 3. I want to help the woman I love, because I see that she is confused and torn, I was dedicated, very caring, I loved her child, I wanted to take care of him and to we also have other children. I didn't want it to happen now, of course it takes time. We met our children, they liked each other, they enjoyed communicating with each other and expected some development, they made comments on this topic. I am convinced that we get along and we would be a really nice family. But I think I scared her. With my feelings, with my thoughts, even though I was sincere and real. I have been hurt, like everyone else, and it is not easy for me to trust and believe, but I prefer to give credit to someone's trust than to glare at a truly valuable person. And in my opinion, she may not love me and I may have just been a person she liked, without anything else. Well, anyway, we broke up today, she said she couldn't go on like this anymore because it would hurt me even more and in time it would be more painful for me, so it was better now. What to do, life is ironic and unfair, that's why it's interesting! It will hurt me, even a lot, I will get hurt, it will pass and I will move on. I hope to have the strength and courage to love again and not hurt without wanting a decent woman who doesn't deserve it. Number 3, be honest, don't deceive the person, I was deceived, they gave me hope and now it hurts a lot, I wouldn't want others to experience the same. that she couldn't go on like this anymore because it would hurt me even more and in time it would be more painful for me, so it was better now. What to do, life is ironic and unfair, that's why it's interesting! It will hurt me, even a lot, I will get hurt, it will pass and I will move on. I hope to have the strength and courage to love again and not hurt without wanting a decent woman who doesn't deserve it. Number 3, be honest, don't deceive the person, I was deceived, they gave me hope and now it hurts a lot, I wouldn't want others to experience the same. that she couldn't go on like this anymore because it would hurt me even more and in time it would be more painful for me, so it was better now. What to do, life is ironic and unfair, that's why it's interesting! It will hurt me, even a lot, I will get hurt, it will pass and I will move on. I hope to have the strength and courage to love again and not hurt without wanting a decent woman who doesn't deserve it. Number 3, be honest, don't deceive the person, I was deceived, they gave me hope and now it hurts a lot, I wouldn't want others to experience the same. I hope to have the strength and courage to love again and not hurt without wanting a decent woman who doesn't deserve it. Number 3, be honest, don't deceive the person, I was deceived, they gave me hope and now it hurts a lot, I wouldn't want others to experience the same. I hope to have the strength and courage to love again and not hurt without wanting a decent woman who doesn't deserve it. Number 3, be honest, don't deceive the person, I was deceived, they gave me hope and now it hurts a lot, I wouldn't want others to experience the same.
I am in exactly the same situation, with the difference that we have been together for a year and a half and almost live together. I love him very much, I want him, but I don't want marriage and a serious commitment. My children are children, and his children are 12 and 15 years old, we like them, they accept me, ask questions of this nature / when will we have the wedding /, but ..... here comes the "but". I have a reason not to want to start another family ... at this stage. I know he loves me and keeps saying, "When will you be ready for another step forward?" Fight for your girl, prove your love, and think - maybe there is a very good reason for her to be, maybe something is holding her back - like me, but I will not tell him, although I love him VERY much .
I am a woman too :) I had a very difficult and long relationship .. but after that I met another person and in the beginning like your girlfriend it was very difficult for me to think about anything more serious at all but over time it reached my heart and I realized that there is men who can make you feel unique and protected .. and these are some of the most valuable things we look for in a man;) So prove it, but not in words, because women love actions that flatter us ... and prove that it is worth being together :))) Good luck !!!
From the author: Alas, I would fight if I believed it really made sense. But, things are irreversible. We broke up and I don't believe anything will change. I realize that she just doesn't love me and for 8 months she just diversified with me without any intentions. The balance is not pleasant at all, I'm sorry (to put it mildly), but better now than later. It's awful to be with someone who doesn't love you and is constantly cold, especially when you're in love and have serious intentions. Well, that's when you have high expectations and they diverge from reality. :-)
My man, don't waste your time and feelings with such pairs - I'm telling you from experience - I'm sure she never told you spontaneously that she loves you or something like that, but most of all, that she's nice to you ..and only if you ask her ... if so, get this monster out of your head in the fastest way, so that you don't regret it later .... such women are a type - HATE, they are natural psychologists, they know how to create especially self-confidence, usually have a special intonation of their voice while telling true and false events of their lives. They know very well how to get out of a man, only what they need and they become nastier than the nastiest whores and prostitutes when they ruin your life and exhaust your opportunities to do something else impossible for them .....
Maybe she needs time to figure out what she wants, it's not your fault!
Everyone has been hurt in love. However, every subsequent relationship must be given a chance. I do NOT accept old problems to be transferred to new relationships ...
I do not agree with number 8, since he came across such women does not mean that this woman is like that. And one more thing, people get hurt and everything turns into a wheel of hatred that keeps spinning. I would tell the author to leave the time to heal the wounds and if it is written, I hope one day they will come together again.