I am 82 set male (37 years old), my wife is 84 (35 years old). We have been together since 2008, 2012 we got married. We both have lucrative professions, so it cannot be said that one supports the other. We fell in love as young people and were inseparable. We don't have children, she never wanted to. Her character is a little special, and I loved her too much. Since last year, something first stopped having sex with me, then began to get nervous about me and my presence. On the weekends, she kept traveling to her "parents", ostensibly because she missed them. I love people too, so I once asked her to go with her and we went. And I had no idea she had gone elsewhere the other time. The scandals on her part became more frequent, and she finally packed her bags and ran away, and I wondered what I had done so much. I called, looked for her, questioned hers. She didn't pick me up, she blocked me everywhere. Understood, that she wrote down her maiden name on FB. Finally, she called me herself and said she had another. Simply because I'm tired of her, not because I'm bad at sex or because I'm not beautiful, for her I was very beautiful at the same time, but she was tired of being with the same man, she wanted to wake up to a new face. However, the lover took him to her apartment (we both have one of our own, and we lived together). He told us to sell the apartment and share the amount or, if I wanted, to buy part of it. It was the end of our marriage. And as cold and insensitive as it all sounded, it was obvious that he had feelings for this man. I found out that he was 8 years younger than her, a waiter was in a popular restaurant. It's nice to be, although it's not like he's much more attractive than me. We are both tall, otherwise we are very different in vision. She finally admitted that she was very much in love. I only asked her if she thought he would be with her for the rest of her life, and she replied that even if she wasn't, she wouldn't come back to me. He wants something new. Yes, she is beautiful, but it is a fact that the boy will most likely not stay with her and he is more attracted to the fact that she is wealthy (and her family is) and a successful woman, and he has not yet realized himself seriously. I do not know what to do. I'm sick, I feel cheated. I loved her very much. And I imagined her being the mother of my children, even though she kept procrastinating.
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And now, do you feel how much time you lost. It's neither annoying nor can you stop thinking just like that. It's a terrible humiliation, honestly, but there's nothing you can do. I'm 26, as old as my lover and what's his name, and you're as old as my brother. I have a brother your age. I can only imagine how stupid you feel. Just don't make the mistake of looking for it and asking for something from it, and so on. Start being super cold, even if you still have feelings for her. Stay away, answer with 1 word at a time if you need to communicate. This is hers typical of all women of all ages, no wonder. At least she was relatively honest that she wanted to be with a new person. But again I tell you to distance yourself, let him hear absolutely nothing about you. Don't ask, don't look for her, nothing ... fix your apartment as you see fit and start working on yourself. Work on yourself a lot, fitness or sports, because it will keep you in a good mood constantly, start traveling, read, do things you always wanted to do yourself. As you can see, love is very imaginary and illusory. The more you give to a woman, the harder it will be to overcome her, because inevitably she will dump you at some point. Women are selfish and are never happy with what they have. This is the biggest paradox. That's why they love typical bad boys so much, because this type of men don't care about them. The less you care about a woman and look at your life, the more her love grows. Just open this stupid site and see for yourself how many hundreds of topics there are, written by women who cheat. That's why they call me a misogynist. Because when I say that for a woman it doesn't matter what the man is like, she always wants something new. You have money, and she stumbles on a waiter, if you didn't have money, she would go with the head of the company, for example. The woman wants what she can't have. If there is security, she wants variety, if there is no security, she is looking for a provider to provide it. However, as it turns out, you turn almost 40 and the woman you gave everything for and you were in love runs away with 200 without saying a word and fucks with a 20-year-old who still doesn't know where he is, because at 26 we really don't know where we are, no matter how much some argue. Our thinking is different. Listen to me. Break off any connection with her and you can be sure that in a maximum of a few months she will look for you again, because the illusion she has created will be different. Then she will look for you, but if you are a man you should be iron and close the door for her forever. Otherwise it is a humiliation, which will make you even softer in her eyes, and the control she will have over you will be even greater. She is 35 and there is no other option, because once she is abandoned she will find it more and more difficult to find something new. Even if they are together for 5 years, I guarantee you that this will not last forever. Glad you didn't ruin a small child's life. Good luck and listen to me.
You are lucky. You got rid of it. Look ahead and don't look for her anymore.
Accept that this is a life lesson. So far you have been a mifla (men's muffin), that's enough. A normal woman does not want a partner, but a leader. You can't stand it, you're not in a higher position, you didn't have children. What are you for? Obviously you are not a family, but roommates. Don't make dramas, but see how to organize your life. If you really still hold on to it - give it some time. Not more than a month. However, he does not pray to her. On the contrary, he said at least that they NEED children now.
What do people not do for a piece of meat. Otherwise, it is simple and clear to divorce. Unfortunately, whatever is said to you is still the case, given that you are in love with it, you are like a horse with caps. However, you had to lose it in time, there is nothing better and more meaningful than children. At least she told you in her eyes that she had someone else and she didn't play you for at least a long time. Life goes on.
Find a normal, modest girl, start a family and take care of each other. The very way she left you, whether she is in love with someone else or not, is telling. Hiding, blocking and all kinds of Puken stories. You got rid of it. Success!
You still have time to start a new family and children. You are 37 years old. I sympathize with you, yes, you have shared many years together, but on the other hand, you better understand what she is like when you are still young, and you have the real opportunity for change and something new and exciting. Close the current page, and open a new one while you still have time. Don't be sorry, she really does you a favor with her action, you are the one who can benefit from the whole situation. I wish you to find a worthy woman and make some sweet children. You're hurt now, but if you think soberly about your future and your priorities, you hardly want to spend the rest of your life lying. You want to be happy with a partner who appreciates you, loves you and respects you, and not run after some lily. Good luck and I hope your pain passes sooner and you give yourself a chance for something good with a worthy person!
You fell in love with a naughty woman, the whole situation sounds pretty heavy. Personally, I can't imagine doing it to my partner, but the very fact that she doesn't want children suggests that she is not exactly a married woman. It is difficult, but you have to forget it and meet another, you have time, you have a lucrative profession, that is, you will not have problems. Head up and forward
Heads up, she's played, you don't lose anything valuable. You are still young, you have time to start a family. Sell the apartment, take a big vacation and go somewhere to restart. I would walk the Road to Santiago, but maybe if I were a man I would go to Thailand to indulge in debauchery. The good is yet to come!
I'm very sorry, a really unpleasant story, but once it happens you have to be strong and move on. To me, she won't be the mother of your children, and maybe she won't be the mother at all. Because it is already at the end of its reproductive period, and apparently it is not burning with desire for children. My experience has shown that women who are over 30 and do not have children are not quite in line with the psyche. You are still young, you have time to find a woman who appreciates you and wants to give birth to your children. Rejoice that this with your wife is over, so that you are free to find a wife and have children. Otherwise it would have bothered you for years.
Throw a hat and shout: "And who said ...... U-vol-ne-ni-eeeeeeeee". You got rid of it easily. If there were children from that piece, you would be in a real nightmare now. Divorce faster and find another.
Bratmeeeee, you have risen to the highest form of whore ... But it had red flags all the time. No matter, your grandfather is napping, you will also find someone, if you are tall, with a profession, housing ... take one and make a nice family, then your grandfather is napping, for the one where even children can't give birth to you. It will rot on its own. That's good, believe me! Brother.
In your place I will take a cool babe and go to the waitress's restaurant and all evening I will rush him to serve me. I will make him a big tip and thank him for getting rid of me, tell him that I have herpes and that I feel sorry for him because I know what awaits him :) Fuck and rags, there is nothing more offensive for a man to have it replace with someone lower in the social ladder.
We see the point of view of the author here, I would be interested to know what provoked his wife to find a lover. If he really was that perfect, she wouldn't find another. And the comments that she will almost be left alone at the age of 35 and will regret suffering for the author all her life are complete nonsense. I know women in their 60s who have adventures and do NOT suffer from men from their youth, incl. ex-spouses. Author, the very fact that she didn't want children shows that you had a problem. Maybe she didn't realize it herself. This younger boy she's dating is her way of experiencing the crisis in your relationship. Then she will find another who will be more suitable for her (but it will not be you). The good thing in this case is that you both have a stable income and you will not suffer financial consequences in connection with the separation. Accept that you will not reunite, and go on with your life without trying to get revenge on her. Very often in situations like yours, your man forgets that he should be happy with his partner. With a woman who doesn't love you and abandons you for someone else, you won't be happy. Good luck, I hope you move forward faster.
Brother, you're very fucked up. My wife and I don't want children either, but my wife is faithful to me. I am the author of My wife is a bitch, read the topic, there are useful comments. Even if it comes back to you, you don't need such a snake. He who has cheated once will cheat again. Good luck, bro.
Author, it's really good that you got rid of it. You didn't waste a little time, but it could have been a lot worse. For example, to chase the 50s and find out that they lied to you for 20 years. Your wife is just a selfish person who thinks only of herself. The reluctance to have children is one of the indicators for this. I also came across a similar one many years ago and I sincerely thank God that it happened because it protected me from many future problems. I was 25 then and everything went very smoothly for me, but I learned a lot. It sucks, of course, everyone would feel that way in your place, but it will slowly pass and then you will be glad that it happened.
Male-e-e, fuck the horror! This is unbelievable at all. I am deeply, deeply sorry for you, brother. To come across such a lower carpet, barren and knocked in the head ... Horror! I understand that a man can itch after 10 years of marriage, break up discreetly and calm down, but that goes beyond any reasonable limits. I know it will be difficult, but just draw the line and don't look back! She will enter much more than you. And don't you think that the waitress won't be given the same number as you? Just stand and watch! And the worst thing for her is that while she is "having fun" she will knock 40 and no one will shave her even for a plum. She'll be left alone like a cuckoo, and she'll start scratching nonsense like a 62-3-year-old grandmother here. Time will not go back, and you do not act like a gender,
N 1 I am very impressed with the comment, so mature and adequate, with accurate judgment and advice. Well done! To the author: Listen to N 1, distance yourself. at the maximum and at the age of 37 you are not at all too old to roar, in the center of your game, live your life! F45
One person, instead of shaking his head, realizes that there is another way for you. You still have children, you want her to be the mother of your children. At 35, you miss baby time, she obviously doesn't want to, don't you understand? Sit down, figure out that everything is over, part civilly and move on.
8, expressions such as: "the best is yet to come" are naive and dangerous to man. And to enter with naivety simply gives birth to the next situations in which we are disappointed, whether it is precisely about relationships.
Forget her, don't look for her, don't think of her! It's over! You have time to meet the right woman for you and I'm sure you'll be glad it happened! J. 24g.
I WANT children, and a lot. I'm a Cancer zodiac sign, not that it's important, who are supposedly family-minded and homeowners. I meet the stereotype! The only thing that was a big difference with us was that I was a terrible lover of home and family comfort (I am a chemical engineer) and after a hard day or weekend, I loved to stay at home. I paid a lot of attention to her, romantic dinners, we had a rich sex life, gifts and attention. And she wanted a lot outside - malls, clubs, restaurants. Several times a month - OK, but I didn't like it every day. Of course, I did not forbid her to go with friends, this is how she met little Casanova obviously. I didn't rape her for children, for the simple reason that she kept saying "now I don't want to", but she left a door in the future, and I was very much in love and hopeful. She is a corporate lawyer otherwise. She is very beautiful, dark-haired, blue-eyed, tall. This is not the most important thing for me, but again it is a plus that kept me under "her black magic". And it hurts a lot, but I will never take it back! I'm not crazy! I want to start a family, I will give myself some time, I will go out and look for the woman for me. But it really hurts a lot. The author
Well done, author - late, but on time! I wish you success! Great comment from Bratan too! L.