Hello! I am a 19 year old girl and I have a girlfriend of the same age with whom I have a problem. I thought we were very close until something happened. I recently met a guy on social media who insisted on seeing me and wrote to me every day for 10 days until I went out with him. I didn't understand why he was so insistent, and when we met we behaved as if we were cousins and he didn't even hug me to part. When I saw him live, I really liked him, not to mention that there were butterflies. After that meeting, he wrote less often and one day invited me to go to them during the day while he was making repairs to talk and see each other. He insisted on taking me by car and I agreed, I even helped him a little with the work. We talked, he constantly offered me drinks and food, I refused because I was worried. Light a hookah, we smoked and when it got dark we stood and talked in the dim light and smoked. It was a pleasant atmosphere, but I did not understand his intentions. He was looking at me with a look that cut my legs, I also looked him intently in the eyes, I even thought he would kiss me at some point, but nothing. Even a hug or some touch to my hand to say. I didn't take the first step because I was insecure. I spent 4 hours with him that day. As we talked, I said he was a nice guy and he blushed and laughed. I felt like I was taking him off and he was scratching his ego.
This meeting was not followed by another. He stopped writing, became withdrawn, and the previous "fierce" interest disappeared. Here comes my girlfriend. He offered to send him an invitation and write to him to see how he would behave. He wrote the same things as me, bragged about his car that he even had two, wanted to see her. I felt sick, but I realized that this boy was not doing well. I thought about him for a while, during which my girlfriend fished at the bottom with him and even seemed to go out. I realized when one day I asked her to read what he had written to her, she exploded and started calling me. And just to mention that she has a boyfriend, and cheats on him with different. She decided to jump on this particular boy, I would never deal with someone I know is not indifferent to. Then in another case, her phone rang in my hands from Messenger and it was this boy. She began to excuse herself by telling him not to look for her and not wanting to deal with him. He told me what to do, that he wrote to me and asked. I said and get rid of it, block it for me. She said she would, but she didn't. He wrote to me in front of me, annoying me, he wasn't looking for me. Piss and thumb. But I know they kept writing again, she hid the chat with him. Who knows what it says.
He even said about me that he deliberately stopped writing to me because I might have decided that by paying attention to me I would have decided that something would come out. She repeated it to me several times with irony. I'm not a repulsive girl, I'm beautiful no matter how bloated it sounds, I'm thin 1. 68 with waist-length hair. I'm not confident in heaven, but my friend always seems to point out that she is better than me in everything and that men want her more. Anyway. I swallowed that she was lying to me and I was doing something pleasantly distracted. I forgot about this boy. We went to a disco one night and there the bartender started taking me down. I liked him too, she looked at me all night and at one point she pulled him to one side and started flirting with him. He asked for his Facebook ... he gave it to me too. Then when she left she came back as if she had forgotten her jacket and said that he had kissed her on the cheek. Then the next day he said he had written to her. Here, throw yourself again at someone I liked first. I don't know what they wrote to the bartender, he didn't write to me, but the next time we went to this place he didn't even look, let alone tell me. He greeted her. I'm sorry I wrote everything so chaotically. I just wanted to pour out my thoughts and hear opinions on the issue. I told her everything in person, and she answered what to do, that they wanted me or wrote to me. I also told her that it was low to throw herself at any boy I wanted and that she even had a boyfriend and still did. I also said that he hides chats because there are things that if I see it will hurt me a lot. I stopped contacting her because I was tired of these numbers. In her words, she showed how important I am.
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This complex girl is just proving some things that are only in her own head. I guess you envy both the boys and other things and show yourself as the "irresistible" to which everyone writes and she has nothing to do on the issue: D: D. The girl is not a commodity, I would have dumped her in the incident with the first boy ... since she has so much fun with the boys going straight to them, just fuck her and that's it. It behaves like an easy one, that's why everyone is looking for it.
You did the right thing. You are dealing with a classic girl who likes to make others sick. The best thing to do is to keep this type of woman away from you. Black Sabbath
1. The first case with the boy you met online: he did not show interest, he is not your friend and yet she has no right to flirt with him ?? I don't understand what your problem is. Since there is nothing between you, what do you care? 2. How should she know that you like the bartender? You don't say if you responded to the flirtation. I don't think you have a right to be angry that he's nice to her either. In both cases, you act as if you own the men in question. And if they prefer it? Your demeanor reminds me of the way my kindergarten friends argued over who should play with the doll first ...
You did the right thing by throwing her out of your life, darling
Enough complaining and grumbling. She settled down and will smell. Find her boyfriend to make her jealous: D Like someone secretly and don't pull too hard: D And don't write so much the next time, because no one here gives five bucks, whether someone has lit a hookah.
First, well done for daring to tell her everything in plain text and then walk away! That's exactly how it's done. The other person deserves to know his mistake and get a chance to fix things, if he really cares about the relationship. She has reacted in a way that makes it very clear that she has no remorse and would do so again. From now on, don't share personal stories with people who haven't proven themselves over time. Yes, one needs advice sometimes, but the freedom to make your own decisions and not depend on anyone's actions is invaluable. You will handle the other because you are a girl with character! Good luck
I don't think she's your friend, and you obviously have a taste for men. This happened to me with a very close friend of mine and the truth is that I just hid my friends, did not share anything about boys and caught a friend. When I had to meet them (not because I wanted to) I saw that she was flirting, but I had warned him that she was like that and I slowly started to distance myself from her. Now I understand that she has broken another relationship and maybe she has a venereal disease. I think you just have to stop contacting her, even if you tell her she won't stop. There is a complex in her that fills with the attention of boys and so she feels stronger than others when she is just another in their eyes.
You will grow a little more and you will understand that there is no friendship between women (no matter how many people object to the issue). And there is no friendship at all in the 21st century! It's all a matter of interest. You cut it well. I have had similar incidents and have not trusted women since. And I'm great! Women can only intrigue, gossip, their actions are low and for nothing ... She strives for male companies - both loyal friends and without intrigue and bloody tricks. Success!
And I had a friend like that who thought she was the best and all men like her. It's hard to be friends with such a person, because whether you like it or not, you start to get complex from her and it strikes you in self-confidence. I think you did well, you don't need such a girlfriend. One day he may even take your friend away, or at least put it on him. She sabotages your every attempt to have an affair with someone, so she doesn't think she did the right thing.
You sew up a slap and tell her to stay away from "your" boys! Resolved!
From the Author: Thank you all for the commenters and for taking the time to read my story. Only on number 3 I will say that - yes, I responded to the bartender's flirtation and we both liked each other, then my "girlfriend" stuck to him. And for the first boy in the chat, who annoyed me for 10 days several times a day and asked me to see him - I guess it was because "he doesn't like it". Anyway. Number 5, I don't grumble. I share. If you haven't read the site it's called Share. I will write as much as I want. The girl has a terribly jealous friend and still manages to lie and use him. I stopped contacting her and I don't think I'm going to stop him. Judging by her, I can't be with almost any boy in town because she's dealt with really many boys and men.
Author, do you know the meaning of the word "stop"?
From the Author: Thank you once again to everyone for encouraging me and taking your time. In the last two years I am ending my second long-term friendship with a girl. It's just that society is already such that friendship and love are replaced by financial interests and intrigues. I have known the girl in question for 5 years and when she thinks about it, she has always been like that, she always brags about herself. Many men wanted her, there was no one to refuse her. The point is that I used to be more withdrawn and insecure and I didn't notice her behavior, because even when I was younger the boys didn't excite me much either. And when I told her calmly that I wanted to see what she wrote with the first boy, she shouted that I didn't believe her, then she lied that she deleted the chat because of her friend, and then she said what I was doing, that she was looking for me. She just can't live without sleeping with a boy who's been interested in me. The boy in question may have already slept with her, because it turned out that they were both not decent. But life goes on and I hope to meet more valuable people, whether boys or girls.