It's about a minor girl, and I, a man of 25. I met her on FB, I think she's big (at least as big as me), and she turned out to be 16. "She thought" as a mature, she liked me, we went out a little, I really liked her, but ... the age difference was big. I didn't do anything to her, and they liked me a lot, but I cooled down, I thought about those years for days, my feelings evaporated and I had to tell her that, I did it and I disappointed her, but it's not easy. She still has a long time until she turns 25, and I'm ready for kids (in 2-3-5 years I mean). The problem with her was that she hid me from theirs, she saw some relatives, we left quickly. I'm a big person, I don't want to hide as a child, it was the child in her (because she's a child at that age). Separate mother and would not approve of us, she didn't tell her the truth about me (years and so on), she was afraid too. So I did what was necessary, after all in 2-3 years she will go to university, she will be surrounded by very young people, and I am already a 30-year-old uncle, I will want children, and she will not be ready, she will live. It was just impossible. However, I myself am obviously damaged, at 25 and I still think like a teenager, so I will not be able to find a woman close to my age.
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Uncle at 30? In general, with this childish thinking at 25, you will not have gone very far and at 30. As for whether she is mature or not, we can only rely on your subjective judgment. Ie she may be more ready for children than you, despite the difference. There is something, however ... (without nagging) in your way of thinking, which is evident from the above few lines, which is not very DARK. Success!
Um, the text is not well formed, the time is wrong. Now on to the topic: Men in their 30s are not uncles. Are you ready for children? (after 2, 3, 5 years) There is a difference between 1 year and 2 to 5 years, author! Is this your goal? (to have children) Where is the emotional and physical stability? Are you mentally ready to start a family? (For children and love with a woman) Love, emotions, care, fidelity and stability - this creates a family. Your difference is not big, but it is an excuse for your fear ... the fear of abandonment, you yourself mention that he will forget you when he becomes a student, when he starts living for the last time. Yes, she is small, but not for a 25-year-old, but for a serious and emotional relationship, because she grows with each passing day, year, month. After a while, thinking will be different, it happens to everyone, it is not her fault. Find happiness, success! (J. 20)
I think you did well. This is a really big difference in age and the life of each of you is at a different stage of development. I am sure that you will both find partners with whom you will feel better. Success!
If she's hiding you so much, I'm betting that she didn't like you: D You're very interesting to me, you think that girls are crazy about "batkovtsi" like you, who probably still live with their mother
Age is not so important. I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 28. And I certainly don't consider him an "uncle", he's much more than my peers.
You did the right thing, whatever your motives. At this age, 9 years is a huge difference, after that much maybe not, and whether you will be an uncle at 30 depends only on you, most likely you will be a man in his prime and you will not get dirty like many other one-dayers. , which are placed only with schoolgirls.
"That's why I did what was necessary, but in 2-3 years he will go to university." If from now on one with 25 years old after 2-3 years at most has a child but not from you;)
My husband and I are 9 years apart. We met when I was 17 and he was 26. We have been together for 8 years and we are happy. When I introduced him to my mother, she accepted him very well. Age doesn't matter when you love.
Maliii, you leave the university and you can't write ... Otherwise I wonder how even young men are still so disoriented in modern times. At 25 and already wondering about children and family, what would happen in 5 years ... Do you live in the 19th century? As I listen to you, you have no experience and you are still thinking about this accidental pick on FB that you met. Pickle or not, if you're not a player or a money laborer, forget about a woman your age tying you up. If she is 25, she will look for a man over 30 with more options. The woman between 20 and 30 has the largest choice on the sex market, and accordingly the largest claims. The one at 16 would of course dump you in 2 years at most, but at least you would gain some experience. For those who will scream - aaa, she is still a minor - if it's not you, it will be someone else, probably again for years ... We live in such a time,
Drink a cold beer of ex and forget about what happened. To succeed in something new, you need to stop being emotionally attached to the old.
And what are the other truths (besides the years) about you that your girlfriend has saved for her mother?
At 30, do you think men are uncles? By your logic, being a "man" at 25 can easily make you an absolute pickle. I am 26 and I joke with many of my friends that when we turn 30 we will be old, but we are just joking and this is definitely not our perception. Looking at it, I don't think you are ready and in the future you will hardly be ready for children. You have to grow more personally and in your way of thinking!
And I recently had such a case with a Russian woman, she is now 16 and I am as old as you -25. Many jealous girls are at this age.