Hello! Straight to the story - a 17-year-old writes to you, whose girlfriend is obviously cheating, as the title says. From a relationship, almost 1 year, I just started to notice how he stops paying me as much attention as he used to pay me; she was constantly interested in where I went out when I told her "uh we're going to eat with friends" and I mean not in a jealous way, but in a "dress well, it's cold" way. I guess you got me. We went out all the time and had topics to talk about. Well, yes, but everything has started to change lately, I noticed this lack of attention on her part to me. Most of the time, she stood by theirs, telling me not to call her because she wanted to save time for them. I didn't blame them, of course, I respected her every wish, as well as her personal space. But once I decided to go out, while she was with her parents again and quite by chance I noticed her about 60 meters in front of me, talking on the phone. The thing that really made me worried was that she wasn't on her way to her parents. Well, maybe she wanted to go out too, but forgot to write to me, it happens. Until one day ... We were staying at home and she asked if she could use my laptop because hers was under repair. How to refuse her, I gave it to her and started watching videos on my phone. At one point she got up from her laptop and went to the balcony to talk on the phone. My curiosity prevails, but as I wrote above, I respect her privacy. After about 5 minutes of conversation, she came in and told me she had to go to theirs. Interesting ... just before I invited her, she mentioned to me that she would be free because they were out of town. Well, some people out of fear, they just can't lie :). I decided to sit in front of my laptop and play with friends, because I usually do that when I'm alone. She had left her Facebook open, I stepped up to the red hiccup, but the chat caught my attention a lot. Now ... I know I said I respect her privacy, but the laptop is mine after all, right That doesn't mean I'm contradictory ... Well, maybe a little. Anyway, looking at the chat, I was shocked. All the messages were things like "off mine is super naive" or "calm down, today my parents will be out of town again" (the second message I will never forget). I got angry and called her on the phone? No, no, I kept my composure, I'm a pretty positive person and I just started thinking about the situation. When she returned to their house, she invited me to go. I'm still hitting, but all her chats with this boy in question are on my fake phone (which I leave on the lady's desk during tests, apparently still working) and I asked her in a delicate way how the meeting with theirs went, what you talked about and There was a very slight tremor in her voice, but I was silent. Although for almost a year, I know her well enough to know when she is lying to me. It was very ugly. He confused words quite often ... he didn't do it in general. But that's not all. A few days later, when we were home again, she went to the bathroom and her phone rang. He was in front of me on the table, I saw a name and two hearts next to it. Hmm ... Well, he must be her cousin. 1 minute later, a message came from the boy I was chatting with, a few days before. He wrote her to call him when he could. After returning from one place, she uses the classic number with her parents again. I was silent this time too, telling her to tell me again what they were talking about. So, in general, I am a very patient person. I thought about it. I dedicate my time to her constantly; I buy her presents every month from the day we met; I was never angry with her. Isn't that my fault? Most of you will probably say that I was too nice to her and she considers me naive, etc. I'm okay with that - she won't be my last, I'm 17 anyway, but there's one thing that's very it bites me from within. I want to make her a number. I don't mean to overwhelm her by showing her the messages I took in the screenshot. I recently read an article about a man catching his in bed with his lover ... on her birthday while her mother holds the cake and is about to shout "surprise!". I thought I'd follow her, while they go out, but no ... it's too worn out. I'd love some advice, what do I do now? I want to have fun while looking her in the eye. Maybe it would be quite immature on my part, but life is short! Give me advice, what to do now?
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Tip - break up with her and don't bother anymore. Don't even tell her why you did it. It does not deserve such attention. Watch your life.
Why retaliate. Just tell her you're looking for a decent girl, not an open relationship. You're only 17. You're smart, but it doesn't make sense you were human. Live your life, gain experience and find the Man next to you.
Don't deal with it at all. How many times have they cheated on me - the right way for them. Be smart ... and keep your faith in relationships, you will meet a chick who will be with you!
Why don't you fuck her while you can? He's looking for another girl, but in the meantime he's having fun with yours. What if he cheats on you. if you let go? When she comes back one day, still wet from sex with her new one, you grab her too. It will be cool. :)
Brother, you are a smart boy, I see myself a little in your behavior. I am a very well-meaning person, but if someone betrayed me or lied in such a way, I would not regret it. Advice from me, do the male, dump her and leave with your head held high without talking much, believe me this will drive her crazy and she will sing everything to you herself. Grab another friend of hers, and show what she lost;););).
She's cheating on you, obviously, it's now, imagine further. Do not poison your life in wonder of persecution and revenge. Ignore and find a girl who will love you.
You sit down, present the collected facts (or your possible illusions), listen to her and decide whether to continue together or not. You act relatively mature, but those "plans" that you make and that you consult with us are child's play.
Give her a phone with a tracking program installed, keep notes of how many times she went to theirs and got to another place, use a condom because you don't know what you can stick to a whore, even the best way to end your sexual relationship with her. When you grow up, remember the incident and be careful with your choice that it is very likely to come across something like this, but to understand it only after you have a family, home and children - now you lose nothing, but then it will hurt.
Get a sharp knife ...
I want the new one to turn out to be a cracked maniac and let us see you roll like a mouse and not dare to leave you. My advice is to lose it without acting as a victim, because believe me - many more such disappointments in love await you.
Dude, it's not worth doing tricks on her, believe me you won't feel better than that. Just dump her! No explanations, best! You get up and leave with your head proudly raised and wipe it from everywhere. Your best revenge will be that within a month at the latest you will be asked to reunite, because nowadays it is quite difficult to find a cool and decent boy like you and the other one will quickly bore you after her. the thrill of the forbidden will no longer exist. It's the whole number with the cheating thrill that you're doing something wrong and the slight fear of getting caught. When this thrill disappears, in 99% of cases you come to your senses and understand what you have lost. So this is going to be the coolest revenge! To see her spinning around you, how she "accidentally" spotted you on the street, when she suddenly remembers coming to you because she forgot something last time ... in fact, this is an occasion to see you and make sure you haven't found another one. Such things and then you will be able to have a lot of fun with the careless explanations that I think I forgot my favorite T-shirt at home and I come to look for it. For me personally, this is the sweetest revenge!
A friend took out all the chats in black and white, arranged them in envelopes, and put them in a gift box. She gave him the present, kissed him, told him they were parting, and left before he opened the box. She had already blocked him, erased his number, and given him no chance to justify himself, to explain, and to talk to her. Don't do tricks to humiliate her in public, it doesn't make sense. So you lose your dignity. You can always creatively show that you know about infidelity, but stay with your head up and don't do nonsense that you will regret.
Don't humiliate the girl. It's complete rubbish. Just break up with her and point. Don't even tell her why. Meet her and tell her - Look, I don't want to be together anymore. I don't want you looking for me anymore. Revenge is a mental work. If you are not a psychic, you will listen to me.
Bury her survive! Here's how to do it: you stop talking to her - even if you see each other, you're not interested in explanations or shallow lies. She died for you. After a while, if he decides to return - in the same way, without being tied to emotions, tears and other silly pseudo-dramas. As we said - she died ... Forever! And next time, open your eyes, even though there is no garbage insurance, there are too many lately - it's fashionable.