Hello. An 18-year-old boy writes to you. A few months ago I met the girl in question and we had a relationship until recently. I really loved her, only she interested me. But I failed and because of chats with her friends under the influence of alcohol, she dumped me. Then I asked her forgiveness, but she said we couldn't get back together and that she had another friend. After a while, she invited me for coffee with two of her friends. I agreed, and when I went there were the three of them and a boy hugging her. I froze, realizing that he was doing it to hurt and irritate me. Then I sent her two friends and they told me the whole truth. Just before I came, she told him to pretend to be her boyfriend and hug her in front of me. I was also told that there was no other boy and there hadn't been one since we broke up. I was told she used to be crazy about a boy, but he left her very painfully, and she has not been the same since. She doesn't care about anything, she just makes fun of the boys and has no feelings in her. Her goal is to hurt everyone, because since they hurt her, she's been the one for everything. That's what her two friends told me after the night in question with the fake boyfriend. I was also told that she had no feelings for me and even if it weren't for my chats, she would still do so. I am writing all this not to ask for advice, but because it is quite strange and I do not understand how a girl can do such things honestly. Just watching him touch her made me want to beat him.
She can't be with him because he's much below her level, but the very fact that he was stroking her drove me crazy. And yet I even thought that the fact that he was annoying me meant that there was a way to get together. But after what her friends told me, it can't happen anymore, and of course I don't want to hear about it anymore. I'm just interested to hear your opinions and whether it is possible for a girl to go through such a difficult separation and become a numb person who sows only ruin. Please publish my story.
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It is possible that the victim in turn becomes an abuser, unfortunately! She will grow it, but you found some cool chick, good luck!
whether it is possible for a girl to go through such a hardship of separation and to become a heartless person who sows only ruin. Maybe, anything is possible. Are you happy?
It's such a filmed story that if I had never been a teenager, I wouldn't believe you at all. Fortunately, not even that much time has passed since the period in which such dramas reached me every day. If she were mature, your story would be very different. As the years go by, you will see that these are really just children's dramas from a wounded ego and nothing more. There are also adults who plot and pretend to be children. I'm sorry, keep going and don't be shocked by the nonsense of others.
My advice is not to dig deep. There are people who for one reason or another have psychological problems and the behavior of sociopaths. There is no point in trying to fix them, just evacuate from the whole mess, the more you invest feelings, thoughts and emotions, the more you will suffer and your psychological state will deteriorate. I advise you to take girls very lightly, nothing they do should have any special meaning for you. You feel good and nice, then ok go on, but if you come across something that feels out of place, a situation that makes you feel uncomfortable, when you feel that they are trying to manipulate you then throw away the whole situation, contact and all in all. For example, an incident with me from the last days. About a week ago, a girl sent me a Facebook friend request, I accept her and ask her how we know each other. I liked my comments under an article where we both have an interest and we slowly agreed to go to the next event on this topic. She does not come to the event. Then he offers something else and we've seen each other before. I suggest we wait for the event a little earlier. She - no, but at a restaurant quite far from there. I don't see the point in that, and then the manipulations begin - no, I would have to come or she would have gone with someone else, and as a gentleman I should have come and accompanied her. I also say that he is trying to manipulate me, but if he holds on so well, come on, but the surprises don't end there. She would not come alone but with company. The situation started to get weirder and I told her that it seemed set and I would not come but go to the event. She said there was nothing set up, there she saw her boyfriend. It all got weirder and weirder, and I didn't feel like going into these murky waters at all, so I cut off communication. I have no idea what's going on in her head, why she wants us to see each other right there before the event, why, when she has a boyfriend, she looks for me and explains to me how much she liked my posts and doesn't go to events with him. I didn't like something at all in this situation and I felt discomfort and this is the moment when you have to dump the whole situation. why, when she has a boyfriend, she looks for me and explains to me how much she liked my posts and doesn't go to events with him. I didn't like something at all in this situation and I felt discomfort and this is the moment when you have to dump the whole situation. why, when she has a boyfriend, she looks for me and explains to me how much she liked my posts and doesn't go to events with him. I didn't like something at all in this situation and I felt discomfort and this is the moment when you have to dump the whole situation.