Hello! I am a 23 year old girl. I have been in a relationship with a very mature and serious boy for 5 months, things are going well so far, he has not forced me to hurry for anything, he is terribly patient and I appreciate that. But I recently found out from a mutual friend about the high probability that my boyfriend is a virgin. He didn't ask me if I had had sexual partners before, not in plain text, he only asked me roundabout questions, which I tried to answer so as not to betray myself in any way, because I don't know how he would react, if he finds out I've been with two so far. Both my previous relationships were a great failure, the men I was with were absolutely inadequate to me, but I was young and inexperienced, I trusted them and now I regret it, but what was done was done. Do you think that I should wait for my friend to ask me if I am a virgin? which is most likely to happen before our eventual intercourse, or to talk about it as soon as possible, because I don't want to disappoint him. Accordingly, if this is such a big problem for him, I would prefer to leave before something like this happens between us, because I have no desire to be a victim of a complex once again. Also, my second question is a little more global - do you think that virgin men, so to speak, have not made a living and that if they do it for the first time with a girl, then more lightly they would lose her to try and how are they with other women? Please be objective in your comments. I will be grateful to anyone who expressed their personal opinion. :)
Accordingly, if this is such a big problem for him, I would prefer to leave before something like this happens between us, because I have no desire to be a victim of a complex once again. Also, my second question is a little more global - do you think that virgin men, so to speak, have not made a living and that if they do it for the first time with a girl, then more lightly they would lose her to try and how are they with other women? Please be objective in your comments. I will be grateful to anyone who expressed their personal opinion. :) Accordingly, if this is such a big problem for him, I would prefer to leave before something like this happens between us, because I have no desire to be a victim of a complex once again. Also, my second question is a little more global - do you think that virgin men, so to speak, have not made a living and that if they do it for the first time with a girl, then more lightly they would lose her to try and how are they with other women? Please be objective in your comments.
I will be grateful to anyone who expressed their personal opinion. :) they didn't make a living and that if they did it for the first time with a girl, then they would take her away more lightly so that they could try how it is with other women? Please be objective in your comments. I will be grateful to anyone who expressed their personal opinion. :) they didn't make a living and that if they did it for the first time with a girl, then they would take her away more lightly so that they could try how it is with other women? Please be objective in your comments. I will be grateful to anyone who expressed their personal opinion. :)
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If his virginity is his choice ... he won't want to make a living. Nowadays it is not very difficult to find something for .... Otherwise, you better talk to him, whatever it is, it's normal to talk.
5 months and you haven't had sex ... you're not well, and you, the author as you wrote it, look terribly selfish to me!
I think this is a delicate topic in which you will not get the right answer. Each person is an individual person, different men are different types of people and everyone will have their own vision. You do not do social research or statistics, you are specifically interested in your friend's view of earning, sex and virginity. That is, you need to discuss these things with him. It doesn't matter when. My humble opinion is that you should not listen to your friend's acquaintances. They may not be properly informed that he is a virgin and only give you unproven theories. There are many men who do not tell their personal and sexual lives to friends. That's okay, not everyone wants to make their intimate experiences public. My friend's relatives think that he slept with 2 girls, but the truth is different. The other thing is, if he is indeed a virgin, he is likely to want to have sexual experience with more than one partner, but the likelihood of being happy with you and not wanting to sleep with others is almost the same. It is not known, it depends on what kind of person he is and how he thinks about the topic. It may be complex that you are his first and he is your third. You definitely don't fall into the category of light girls, you have to be aware of it, not be ashamed and not allow a man to make you feel like a sludge. If you have a lot of questions, you better talk to your friend now. You haven't gone wild with different men. You slept with two people you had an affair with and I think it's normal. If he does not accept it well, the problem is his, and the good thing is that you will understand his opinion in a more pleasant way than it would be later and over time. You will always discuss it with him,
We are all human and we all make mistakes. Just because you've had two so far doesn't mean you're frivolous or cockroach-like. Many girls aged 15-20 had 20-30 partners. It doesn't matter at all. The relationship in a relationship is important. Gestures between each other. Without sex you can not in this relationship. This moment will come too. If you claim that your friend deserves your trust and attention, then this person gives himself away. He is fully aware of who you are. How do you treat him and how much can you give him. Be honest with him. Don't avoid his questions. There are more complex questions that you will have to answer. We can't give you an exact answer to what's going on in his head. The fact that he is a virgin in those years can be interpreted as waiting for the "special" woman. If you get to bed, you should feel flattered. He carries his head on his shoulders. If there were beetles in it, it would have replaced you by now. There is no security in these relations. Do your best and expect the same. "He who is afraid of bears does not go to the forest."
I think that the situation is absurd, you have been wondering, cheating and deciding for 5 months and now you have decided to analyze and judge him instead of thanking him for his patience.
I guess he's not so interested in your virginity, but he's worried about how he's going to perform, because he's never done it before, and there are probably some complexes in that regard.
If you give him your anus at one point, he won't think of looking for another.
As long as you made women disgusting whores, as long as you brainwashed them! No woman is obliged to give any man a blowjob or an anus! Stick it in your hollow gourds or find gays. You also moved pederasty between the sexes ...