I have been married for 30 years, we have two big children. I trusted him a lot and I always told myself I had to see him with my eyes to believe. But I've been at a crossroads for two years and I'm confused. The lady in question is his colleague we know. At first I saw pictures of her on his phone, after a thorough digging I found out about an email that was only for. Then I couldn't stand her and called, I wanted to meet to talk about what she was up to, etc. By the way, my husband said her name many times in his dream, his explanations were collegial jokes that there was nothing between them. essential. So far so good, but she put the photos where she took them in hearts, roses and all sorts of other collages, which is not normal for a 50g. a man, our son, who is 28 years old. likened it to second puberty. A year passed and I thought things were over. We had a great holiday in Turkey in June for two weeks, I want to say that nothing has changed in terms of my attitude towards me, I even think I care more than before, I don't know if it's just theater. In September I discovered that there was a new email and this time I couldn't stand it I broke the password and ... what I read shocked me. In one of the letters, the lady wrote to him by the way and she is married to two big boys:
- At the moment there are 12 people at the table at home ... But there is one free place in my soul ... I wanted to be next to you ... My husband's answer that there is no place in his heart for anyone but her. And a bunch of others. I swear again, it's just writing, etc. I don't know, but for the second time, I was lied to believe him again? I gave him a second chance. We had a great holiday in Turkey in June for two weeks, I want to say that nothing has changed in terms of my attitude towards me, I even think I care more than before, I don't know if it's just theater. In September I discovered that there was a new email and this time I couldn't stand it I broke the password and ... what I read shocked me. In one of the letters, the lady wrote to him by the way and she is married to two big boys: - At the moment there are 12 people at the table at home ... But there is one free place in my soul ... I wanted to be next to you ... My husband's answer that there is no place in his heart for anyone but her. And a bunch of others I swear again it's just writing, etc.
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But he caught you like a canary in such a way that he has nowhere else to go! You are a naive woman. Naive to stupidity. And you are terribly comfortable with it. Trust yourself. If you want a hundred times. But this will not change the truth.
He is not to blame for it and he does not feel bad once he has done it. Obviously there are emotions and he says different things to you in order to smell and not to burden him, the person just has other priorities at the moment. It turns out that you are to blame for yourself, because you both suffer, you don't go after men, you don't sleep like people, you think that every day. You just ask if you can believe it :) They just talk :) There is no point in talking about such things, also from ultimatums, because they can easily lie to you and tell you ok, I won't do that and that will be until you reveal the new numbers to him. Being such a big macho, he'll probably find a roof to sleep under, so pack his bags and light them somewhere, or pick up yours and leave it. The other option is the one you are currently in.
At the beginning I thought it was about people aged 19-20 and when I read that a 50-year-old makes collages with roses and a heart ... I don't know, there's something crazy and you better talk or just move out ... I do not know what to tell you. but we made these collages as schoolgirls ... I really don't know what to advise you.
I, on the other hand, think that a 30-year life together does not turn its back like that. Most likely it is a crisis in the relationship or rather it drives critical. Give him time and don't push him too hard. You have invested too much emotion in this relationship to wave. Most likely everything is momentary. The most important thing is not to lose the dialogue with each other. Explain to him how you feel and talk again. I wish success and everything will disappear soon.
Absolutely not. Every pleasure is paid. To live as a bachelor at the age of 20 in a dormitory or for whatever money he needs after the divorce. Why continue? Not to be a person, to continue to lie to you, and to raise the "wings" and self-confidence of the other, while you break your health. Finita. You only look at yourself. Your son needs you. Not this mold (no apology).
There are 2 harmless options-1. You find a new thrill to be even, to feel wanted and happy ... and 2. If you have a place to move there, you submit a document. for divorce. Your children are big, they will not tolerate it badly and at least they will be on your side. The third option is to sit back and make fun of ... you decide
Here is my opinion, you say you have been at a crossroads for two years, how much longer do you have to wait? You are so comfortable with him. At work, a coffee shop in the morning, a coffee shop in the afternoon, smiles, love emails are coming in the whirlwind of the lobe, and what are you doing? Even if you are economically dependent on him, get rid of him, you have children who will support you. Because in a year or two you will become a wreck, I tell you from my own experience. And sooner or later he will bang his head if they don't have something agreed with the lady.
Ma'am, no matter how much I want to comfort you, it won't work because your husband won't stop this relationship first - he betrayed you in a very low way, you say you know her, he thought at least it would cross your mind that exactly with it the welding will take place, secondly - people say eyes that are seen are never forgotten. You have given him a long enough period, from now on the decision is yours alone, but no one will reproach you, there is a very small% of women who will be so patient. I wish you success from here to dad!
Hello, at the age of 48. I would not take part in the comments, but my case is painfully familiar. If I had the opportunity, I would share it with your husband to find out what he did to you, and then not to be in my position, which I have been on for 3 years. I had a wonderful wife who was everything to me and a son who is 26 years old. -I lost them forever! Here is a brief overview of what happened, my wife went to work in Italy, I did not agree much, but the economic reasons are the stay was roughly about 6 years. Yes, during this time she came for 1m. , my son and I went many times, etc. Her job was to take care of an elderly grandmother, she slept there and took care of the whole apartment, there was only Sunday as a day off. It was very difficult for her until she got used to the manners, the kitchen and most of all the communication-language. But she was stubborn, and she did what she did, these 6 years have passed. and she came home I loved her very much, but ... During the time when my wife was not in her suit, a new colleague came to work, from the very beginning there was a kind of mutual attraction. In the beginning there were MMS, then there were photos that I took in my office, we spent the days almost together, at the banquets she was next to me, on trips, but still our colleagues did not suspect anything because we were relaxed, merry, and I had established name in the company. They didn't have sex between us, it was just nice to play an MMS "Good morning" or "How much I miss you" on the weekends of this kind of nonsense. Unexpectedly, one night I received a goodnight message and "it would be good to be with you at this time," she wrote. This sentence turned my life 180 degrees. A week later, my wife left me and my son followed. I tried to explain absolutely everything to her, but she was adamant. I feel disgusted with my colleague talking but the relationship has changed, she called me a teacher of what I imagine she has no intention of leaving her family. I say all this and I adore the lady for her patience with her husband, because when you lose the most valuable thing then you understand what you have done. Madam, I warmly wish you well, because I am living cases of what I have done to my wife. I say all this and I adore the lady for her patience with her husband, because when you lose the most valuable thing then you understand what you have done. Madam, I warmly wish you well, because I am living cases of what I have done to my wife. I say all this and I adore the lady for her patience with her husband, because when you lose the most valuable thing then you understand what you have done. Madam, I warmly wish you well, because I am living cases of what I have done to my wife.