I am asking for advice! I have been in love with a man for many years. But I never showed it to him, because I was already engaged to someone else ... I thought it was just a temporary hobby and I will forget it when I don't see it anymore. There was nothing between us but some small jokes at work. I got married, quit my job, and I have children already. My husband and I seem to live well, but I keep thinking about the other person. Recently I realized that he also liked me and showed it to me, but I was blind to see him ... And now I am constantly going back in time and thinking, what would have happened if I had confessed to him .. He probably hasn't felt anything for me in a long time (if he had any feelings at all). But I can't live like this anymore. I want to continue my life cleanly, without hiding anything and without hoping for the impossible. I want to be able to think only of my husband and forget the other, but how? Sometimes I think I should call him and confess. To ask him if he also had any feelings and to hope that he did not, because, yes, it will break my heart and humiliate me, it will hurt me a lot, but I will already know the truth and I will be able to move forward. I can no longer live like this, in a lie and in a constant longing for the impossible. Let me just add that with this person we write from time to time on social networks, but only general talk and we are purely friendly, without any hints of anything more. Does it make sense to admit it to him, or what else can I do? I can no longer live like this, in a lie and in a constant longing for the impossible. Let me just add that we write to this person from time to time on social networks, but only general talk and we are purely friendly, without any hints of anything more. Does it make sense to admit it to him, or what else can I do? I can no longer live like this, in a lie and in a constant longing for the impossible. Let me just add that with this person we write from time to time on social networks, but only general talk and we are purely friendly, without any hints of anything more. Does it make sense to admit it to him, or what else can I do?
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I've always been amazed at women's ability to create problems for themselves and get into movies and then roar. Woman! You have a husband who loves you and treats you and the children well. You also have two healthy children. You have a home. What more do you want? And when you meet that one and he tells you that he loved you and imagine he still loves you. You what? You will take off your pants immediately and start living in a pink series. The choice is yours ... but you obviously don't love your husband.
To admit something means to be honest with yourself, to decide whether to be honest with yourself or to spend and eat you from the inside
Tell him. If you are at least a little attractive, he will lie to you that it is very clear that he liked you very much, he thought about you often, but he did not dare to tell you. You'll start talking about "what could it be", you'll have a female gourd that desperately needs "flame" and come on, until you feel it, you'll have a cock in your mouth, you'll be emptied of jukes and then you will go and kiss your children with that mouth. Hey, people like you are ruining families. Mrs. "We already live well." Brother.
And what do you expect to happen if you confess to him? Do you want him to explain himself to you in love and to become lovers? You had to think in time before marrying someone you didn't love. You now have children and responsibilities. Are you ready to destroy everything built so far with a light hand? You don't mention having problems with your husband, you must be bored and want new emotions. But think twice before ruining your family over unfulfilled dreams.
This is a super dumb idea. Of course, if you confess to him, he will tell you that he liked you, even if it is not so, so as not to offend you or to put you to bed. What do you want your husband to know that you are explaining yourself in love with someone and to dump you? You seem to have a very boring life, find a job or hobby. You'll be fine.
Why should it be a humiliation on his part to you, if he has not experienced the same. Is he married, I guess not. Confessing something to him does not make you weak or humiliating. It will be like that if you go to pray to him and put on, and he doesn't want you. But: To understand, do not tell him in plain text and immediately. Drag him so far away. For example: "Eeee, do you remember when we were hanging out together, he took off this one, the other one and so on. And at the same time, both seriously and with a little joke, you say to him:" Haha, remembering that I was once I fell for you, but you never understood. Uuuu, men don't recognize female characters. :-) ". You will see what the reaction is and what he will say. If he says yes, it already depends on whether you ask him or not. If he says no, it's the same for you and it's over. you continue as before, a 46-year-old man
Number 1 - how do you know I have 2 healthy children? There may be 3! And also a husband who treats me well and loves me ??? My husband has been indifferent to me for years and shows me nothing that he loves me! Maybe that's why I fell in love with someone who showed some interest in me and made me feel special. .. My husband never did it ... From the very beginning when we met my husband, his attitude towards me was cold and distant. "I'm like that," he said. I had no experience with men and thought it was normal behavior. He says he loves me, but he doesn't show it to me. Over the years, I also grew cold to him .. Maybe that's why I think I'm in love with the other. I'm holding on to a straw drowning man! But everyone needs love!
she wasn't wearing pumpkins or gourds ... Tighten up a bit, you're not a girl, but a married woman with children. Don't get involved in movies, life is not a Turkish TV series. Instead of looking for the possible interest of someone from the past, seek the attention of your husband. If you are a smart woman, you will know how to make him feel like a desirable man and lover, not like an impersonal provider. The life of boring people is boring and gray. There is no need to look for emotions from the past, create them now with the person next to you. If she wanted to have something to do with you, she would show it, there is no need to offer yourself to him for anything. Just forget, focus your attention, thoughts and free time on something more meaningful than self-winding, that YOU COULD get rid of big love. What kind of people are you, don't you have at least a little sense of responsibility, dignity and self-respect? !!
Number 1, typically feminine, total abomination and disrespect for the person next to you. Total selfishness.
To call / write to him after many years, a long-married woman with children and to explain yourself to him in love just because you had I don't know how long in the office a little tease? What will he think? First, that you're not good with your head and you're obviously a psycho and you can cause him problems. If that doesn't startle him enough and you still make him look attractive, and he's alone and tanned, then his second thought will be that you're obviously sexually dissatisfied, so you look around and look for sex. Are you sure you want to start from this starting position?
In my opinion, the author is of this type of people who, even if they live well and have a literate person next to them, always want something more and someone they can't have. And they live in this fictional world for years, sometimes even a lifetime. Some of these people are lucky not to be such a hopeless case and do not ruin their families, others do it and then regret it ... Chick, choose which one to be. If I have to advise something - you missed the train, experience it and look after your family.
I would not say such a thing and advice from me you have children and family I in your place would stop thinking about the other man and I would take care of my husband and children. I don't think it's right to tell him after such a long time.
"Just to add that we write to this person from time to time on social networks," -The work is clear, and the development is also, I do not understand just why the author asks, to clear his guilty conscience?
:)) and I think so about one person, but it all ended with one h *****. And you have a husband and children next to you. Don't ruin everything for something that is only in your head. Don't screw up anymore.
I am a man of 26. And tell me, my brother, why should I get married? Why waste my time and get in touch with a woman, when in 10 years the facade will fall and it turns out that she loved another, that she fucked another, that she is in love with another, etc. Yes, yes, I know now you will say not all women are like that. I know I know, calm down. Not all, except that there are 10,000 topics here, like this one and thousands of other women who live the same way. She has a child, she has a husband ... she has no brother, she doesn't care at all. You don't deserve anything either. nor women like you.