Hello. I will introduce myself briefly. I am 24 years old, my husband is 28. We have been married for 7 months only. Would you say why I got married? !! ... Because, unfortunately, one realizes when it is too late. Offer me. I was the happiest person, I was excited and I told friends that I have the most serious and responsible person, the man of my dreams. And I really thought it and still think it. He describes the perfect man who would not cheat, with outdated principles brought up, for whom family is everything. Yeah Al that sounds pretty crap to me, Looks like maybe a couple of months before the wedding (damn it, but maybe to make me realize) I met another man, also recently married, and I realized that maybe I never loved my husband, I loved the security he gave me. By this do not mean money, because there is no, very average employee with an average salary, but the attitude itself. I realized that I was just used to it. I've been with him since I was 18. The truth is that I am ready for a child, but I am already afraid that he is not the man. He's bored. He's watching TV. Banal evenings. When I tried to make things right, because I'm not a person who throws something away, I kind of revived our relationship, but it was only temporary. He's boring, and I've been crazy by nature since I was little. I hadn't thought about how I lived next to him, and the new man brought out my true nature. We experienced good emotions and of course then we stopped everything, because that's the right thing to do. Nooo ... I think my meeting with him and the things I realized with him changed everything ... To divorce or to come to terms with the boring life with my safe husband. I will disappoint many close and mutual friends and especially him. He doesn't even suggest that I have such thoughts. Everything is perfect for him. Aaa and to say, lately we do not have sex often with my husband, everything is somehow banal. Is this what happens after all weddings ??? Thank you in advance. / I do not think that infidelity is a solution /.
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Get a womanizer to make it more interesting.
Get a divorce! Get rid of it while you are still young. Give him the opportunity, while you grow up, to start a family and children with the right woman. Guys like you are interesting only in the beginning, and as you can see for yourself - they can't be relied on at all ...
You are only 24 years old, go to the person you love. How do you imagine growing up with someone you don't love and just wondering what it would be like if you were with the other person?
From the author: I just wanted to know if marriage is a banality, and if all people sooner or later cheat because of this way of life. Didn't you need emotions and a person like you, not too serious? Why, after years of a relationship, something falls apart, as if you own the other and don't try anymore, and then you create a child to make things right ... but this is temporary. Is that what you all do?
I want the gentlemen and ladies to answer me how in such stories to take women seriously and want to do something for them, to make some effort, some sacrifices, etc.? She can pick something at her at any moment and throw everything away, and what will I make an effort for? For nothing! There is no law and obviously many women are not guided by morality and a sense of responsibility that obliges them to stay in a relationship that is built and they can just throw it away. What should we build it for then? It doesn't have a solid foundation, it's like a colossus with clay feet, the feet can give in at any moment and everything goes to the movies. What should I do at all instead of looking at myself? To give someone a "sense of security" until he changes his mind and priorities? And where is my security with her? I have no security with her! She can drop everything at any time!
Divorce to free the person from yourself. Once he has given you security and wants to spend his life with you, you thank him with pleasant emotions with another person. Good for you. And that's why your husband is guilty, of course, he doesn't pay enough attention to you, if you pay him. You want emotions, catch a person who is interesting to you, you will get into such emotions that then there is no fix.
5, 90% either cheat sooner or later, or if they don't cheat, it's just so they don't complicate things, not that they don't want to. There are 10% exceptions that are never wanted. But with you, everyday life has taken over too quickly. But keep in mind that whoever you go to, sooner or later you will get to this point again with everyday life. But even with this one, in a few years you can just go crazy. I don't know what to advise you.
Leave it. If you don't love him. Everyone deserves to love and be loved. You will leave it now or in time. You better not waste time. You will be happy with that man. This is the idea of life. Let everyone pursue their happiness. Leave them to these moralists! Let them try to live with someone they don't love. Thus one is only punished for no reason.
And I started to think, I am 41 years old, married to a man with a salary of BGN 2,000, but I don't love him! I have a son who graduated and a daughter at 11. The thing is that at the beginning of the year I met another man, a gentleman, 59 years old, very young and romantic, a florist at heart, divorced, and now he fixes his neighbor's tomatoes, he tells me. He gives me flowers and calls me small. He takes me by bus to work, picks me up from the cathedral, he comes from the gym. He is shorter than me, I remember during my training at a hotel, about our future work in poplars, how I watched him naked in the spa, he got lost among the other men, and it was funny to me! He wears glasses, his white hair moisturizes me a lot. He managed to fix me once in my office, and before that I had cut off my other colleague, who looked like a gypsy at 28 and drank forever, he aroused me, but I would never give it to him. So where we fell in love, we write to each other, takes me to work, even though he's just a delivery driver. I called my husband several times to my work, he turns even redder and doesn't get off the bus, I tell my husband not to greet him by name, because he is ashamed, his name is Stefko, I also tell him that the gypsy takes me down to jealous. The gypsy found out about Stefko and me, and I'm afraid of him!
Are you trying to diversify your marriage? Where did you offer to go on the weekends? Or you did the wedding to let everyone see how happy you are and let's each on the phone in a separate corner. If you wait for the man to make your marriage fun and have a thrill, you will fail this one and 2, 3 more marriages. Men rarely take initiatives, not all are romantic and do not risk much. I'm always the one who buys tickets, chooses a hotel, but I don't tease him and my husband and I have a great time. Sex is a result of the wine and the beautiful views and the adventure in which we descend for at least 15 times this year, because we are somewhere far away at least once a month. We talk and share. And your smell smells like he's married and he didn't even know you weren't happy .... Talk to him. Tell him how you feel and he may say that he needs to pay more attention to you. Divorce is the easiest, but then? You will sleep with the new one, you will ruin his marriage as well. You will also get bored because you will be passive again and you will wait for him to guess what you think and what you want. Try to save your marriage before you ruin your husband with the news.
What emotions, what everyday life! Enough of this nonsense. If your husband was so boring, you wouldn't be with him for 6 years. How come you didn't think you were dumb for so long? You just weren't dumb. Now you have met a fat womanizer who has started to take down your stars. Now you're going to tell me he's not like that, but you don't know him. Come on, live a year or two together, let's see if he gets bored too. You will wonder where your mind was, but it will be too late.
Yes, the connection with time enters its rut, which is devoid of constant exciting emotions and in which peace takes place! That's why more than half, if not 90%, of people in a relationship find emotions outside the relationship. I think those who don't need strong emotions are cooler people.
Well, I can't fit in my skin when children suffer! How many weak men there are, I'm already terrified! Protect children, alert all institutions, enforce all prohibitions, get permission from the court and run! This one must be some kind of face that he thinks everyone owes him!
Well, tell me, you wrote everything you wrote to your husband. He's closest to you right now. Tell him he's not the person you want a child from! And you don't want to grow old with it. And all your problems will be solved in an hour! And most importantly, you never loved him
You are in a hurry with the wedding. Once you realize you don't love him, explain it to him, be honest and ask for a divorce. Even if you have a child together, the divorce will not pass you by, one day you will decide that beauty is not possible by force and you will give up. So it is better in time for him to discover the happiness he also deserves. The fact that you cheated on him does not speak well of you, there is always one such tempter who will turn your imagination. You have to learn to resist them.
(5) - well, get married and you will understand. So when you ask, one will tell you one thing, another another, and in the end you will be zero again. (6) - does not judge for all women one woman. Don't you think that all men can be judged by you? Or yes :)
See, if you have such thoughts now, you better get a divorce while you don't have children yet. The feeling will become more and more intrusive with age, only then will there be a child and it will be far more complicated.
After years of a long relationship, but without marriage, my friend and I both had moments when we wanted to run away from each other abroad. We fought and followed each other around the apartment, we slept back to back, we were young, but it happened that our relationship was so strained that we had sex only 2-3 times a month. It has happened to me to think about what my life would be like if I had never met him ... but it doesn't work out. Alas, after years of a long relationship and without marriage, I wanted to kill my partner and hide in a rabbit hole, I wanted to hurt him, to leave him alone for a while (until I get angry), but never to break up with him or to cheat on him. Otherwise we are sometimes very bored, really. We used to lie in front of the TV and be shocked that we had nothing to say. How else? As much as it pisses me off, I don't want to break. As boring as we are from time to time, I want to have fun with him and not with someone else. In the beginning it is always fun, easy, you get to know the other and every day is full of surprises and new topics, but each relationship comes out of its honeymoon and meets everyday life. And a hundred men to change, and with a hundred you will get to the point where the daily topics revolve around dirty laundry and dinner choices. At this stage, my partner and I are working on our relationship, trying to diversify and learning to understand each other better and make more compromises. I think we will learn these things all our lives and there will always be a new lesson. If you don't feel it makes sense, it probably doesn't really make sense to fight for this marriage. You are young and you live well, but the man next to you is obviously more settled and is looking for security, home comfort, he wants a family. In years to come, you will be at this stage and want these things, obviously you just need experiences now. Do you want these experiences with him? This is the right question.
Get a divorce. The second one will be great after that, and the third one will be the top, until you give birth to children or there are no men left to be attached to the elementary emotional culture. You don't deserve the person next to you.
Run while you still can .. and don't fall asleep from anyone .. life is yours and only yours .. if you stay you know what awaits you .... if you run away everything is possible .. Good luck :))
Read line 9 on the topic: I met another man who was also recently married. Hmm, I always think that when a man gets married it is said that he is married and a woman is said to be married. Below you say that the new person brought out your true nature, did you experience good emotions and then you stopped everything. Author, when in the seventh month of your marriage you cheat on him with another man (married), I imagine how many times you cheated on him for your 6 years together. It seems to me that you like to change men, that's why you get bored quickly. My advice is to divorce him so that he can find a sincere NOT cheating wife, and you continue to meet new married or unmarried men who will make you your true nature. So, if you are not experiencing your true nature with someone, why should you get married.
From the author: To number 23. In fact, I've never cheated on him before. He is my second man even with whom I had sex and my second serious relationship. I think the other man grabbed me by being like me. As you talked, it was as if we were talking the same thing. It is a pity that God does not gather the same, but the completely different. His wife, for example, is super boring. He told me. Wow, your husband looks a lot like my wife. Give her only to clean, to cook, she doesn't want to develop like you, she is even asexual unlike you. My husband is the same, I can't believe he doesn't want me sexually. We have sex with him 2-3 times a month .... I even wonder if his testosterone levels are not good. Nooo ... Such a life. We have already made our choice. I love my husband to some extent, I respect him, we just don't fit in perfectly, I don't know if it's necessary. Ah for the other, he has his downsides. There is no complete happiness. Love ends after 5-6 years. This is normal. The most positive thing about my meeting with the new person is that I was inspired to achieve something that I have been thinking about for a long time and I want to achieve. The new one is quite successful in its business. Apparently I will pull forward in my family, not my husband.
Divorce because it will get worse over the years. As number 19 says.
23, don't get involved - this is the grandmother, the 62-year-old, who has no family and this is his fun - to pretend to be young and write silly fictional topics on the sites. He was exposed in a neighboring topic. It starts in a similar way - how old she was, how much her boyfriend was, and how much their love was very strong, but ... he did not provide her with the standard. Dirty stinking human waste is this ...
"Now I've met a fat woman who's started taking down your stars. Now you're going to tell me he's not, but you don't know him. Come on, live a year or two together, let's see if he gets bored too. You'll wonder where your mind was, but it'll be too late. "Exactly a greasy womanizer. And she, dear, met the love of life. Does the fat man want to fight for her and become boring.