Hello! I am 21 years old. I ended a serious relationship three years ago and I haven't felt anything for anyone since. Two months ago, I met a boy and realized that I could feel my leg again, and I'm not just a heartless robot. We went out together, had fun and generally had a great time and I realized that I was falling in love. But he is behaving strangely. He had told me that he was happy when he was with me and that he had always had relationships only for one night, and I was different. But there are times when he doesn't look for me for days and generally doesn't seem to care about me. Then he looks for me anyway. It all affects my mood, of course. I talked to him and he told me that he was just not used to it and not ready for a serious relationship and that I had high expectations and I was right about them, but he could not cover them. And then I thought, that it was all over and then he was looking for me again and writing to me. He hasn't called or written to me for five days now. I know you're going to tell me to stop, but once I fall in love, what do I do?
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This notion of "wrestling" has always been funny to me. What does it mean to fight? For someone's attention that someone refuses to give you? How exactly will you fight? Will you lie on his pan? This is not a struggle, but a humiliation. These are things that need two. Not to fight, but to play judo, all this. Even with kickboxing, I don't see what you can achieve other than humiliation. At least respect yourself.
"I've always had relationships only for one night, and I'm different" Is the red light only on me? These are tales from 1001 Nights - how a whore suddenly meets an amazing girl and for a moment becomes the dream partner and calms down for good. I can't believe there are women who get caught up in this. "I have high expectations and I'm right about them, but he can't cover them" In male language, that means "I don't want to commit, but if you just let me go without commitments, I'll regret it." This explains why he then pushed you. Just feel the ground to see if you've bitten. Well, that's enough - it's not that hard to remember. You don't want so much intelligence.
Why do you expect him to write to you and look for you every day? Do you write to him every day or do you just "expect" him to do it? I personally do not initiate contact and do not write to a woman with whom we have had a good time, we understand and like each other more than two or three times and I do not offer to see more than two or three times. If she doesn't start writing to me, looking for me and showing enthusiasm, I stop communicating with her. Things should be reciprocal if she expects only me to show interest, perseverance, initiative and she to keep her distance and be just a "snap-snap". Such relationships do not suit me. I don't like women who are perceived as a kind of prize or trophy and "wait" to be won with perseverance. For me, such an attitude is offensive because it suggests that it is valuable in the relationship and I am not, that I have to try and she just has to sit and wait. These are insulting and toxic relationships suitable for women who are uninitiative, waiting for everything from the man and respectively for men who are downloaders, countmen who do not sleep for women and play their whistle before dumping them and embarking on the next adventure. In a real, healthy relationship, one cannot "wait" for the other to do everything and move the relationship, he / she must be proactive, open and enthusiastic, to facilitate the other.
Well, I'm a boy and I'm very upset when the relationship is one-sided ... Why don't you write to him?
Number 2 told you perfectly. It only deals with you when it has not been reflected elsewhere. You are the 15th reserve or the seventh fighter on the left. Even a temporary sex doll doesn't want to make you (she would try harder). He holds you for a simple ego comb. Cut it sharply and do not bother. And don't listen to numbers 3 and 4. Such men are revengeful. All your life you will be watching what you give, what you take, what you spend on the relationship, without being spontaneous