Each of us has a type. Admit it. We look under a tree and a stone and in every passer-by we watch for it. Every night lately, though, I've become more and more disgusted with myself. Because I have a type too. Tall, at least a meter and ninety, artistic, if he can play the violin. All banal, banal things. But I'm looking for them. And here ... An extremely kind and generous person appears in front of me and says: "I like you and every part of you", and I ... and I hear the echo in my head: "He's not my type", "he's short", "not beautiful." When my ex-boyfriend dumped me, I promised myself I could do more than this garbage. And obviously I really want more. Much more. Too much. I live in the idyll of an American movie starring the perfect couple - a beautiful boy and girl. Perfect next to each other, for each other. But I'm still lying, and I look at the ceiling, and on the ceiling there is nothing, there is no answer, there is nothing. Should I give him a chance? I do not know! Say, share. I am listening to you. The stage is yours. Can a handful of flaws, some external ones, stop me from holding his hand when I want to hug him? Am I such a bad person. Fill me with poison, I am waiting for the Bulgarian sincerity. Say I'm a superficial bitch and I don't deserve his love. Call him, I'll hear you. Disgust, get angry. But when you're done, please whisper, "Shall I give him a chance?" that I am a superficial bitch and do not deserve his love. Call him, I'll hear you. Disgust, get angry. But when you're done, please whisper, "Shall I give him a chance?" that I am a superficial bitch and do not deserve his love. Call him, I'll hear you. Disgust, get angry. But when you're done, please whisper, "Shall I give him a chance?"
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Okay, he's not your type, but he's attracted to you. And I told myself that I would never go short and bald, but that's exactly what made my head spin. It's full of "my types" around me right now, but I like it. When it comes to chemistry, looks and stereotypes don't matter. If you like a person - you act.
Every woman's dilemma: love or attraction. I will disappoint you, and I am a woman and I do not know the answer.
If you wanted to give him a chance, you wouldn't ask about such banal things on the sites. It doesn't really appeal to you, so you're looking for flaws. There are no criteria for love such as height, weight, age, etc. Let the man find the right woman for himself.
No, don't give him a chance to be with you. Give him a chance to find a girl who appreciates and loves him as he is. I'm in a similar situation. I have my type, not as an appearance, but rather as an attitude. I've always liked more extroverted, dominant, even rude men. Now I have a man in love who is the complete opposite and I have the feeling that I am becoming the man in the relationship. He is wonderful - kind, patient, gentle, he accepts me as I am, and I still can't learn to love him and respond to him with the same attitude. I keep forgetting to appreciate it and I don't know if I'll start. I really think he deserves a lot more, but I can hardly give it to him. I guess in time you will come to these thoughts. Success! F29
I don't see why someone should poison you ... Why do you want it so much? The eco in your head once showed the 190 cm "violinist", whom you now call "garbage". He must have been pretty nice and artistic ... but rubbish. Life is not a Hollywood projection of perfectly beautiful, kind and funny personalities ... Is it? Beauty is something subjective and transient ... character and actions are something far more important. You say, type? Yes, attraction is very important. Purely physical attraction, the look, the smile ... Without this you can't and can't do it, but you can't go with a tape measure and a ruler to measure your height, limbs and organs ... it's not serious somehow ... :) Think how many men would did they dare to tell you - "I like you and every part of you"? Many would tell you - I want you. I want to enjoy you 1, 2, 3 ... 100 times, but according to my rules and while exporting to me ... Life is not Hollywood. Beauty is important, but not crucial. Think, when you are in a difficult moment, how beautiful is the person who saves you? You know? Like you, I've always wondered how people create their personal "type." Some walk with a sewing meter, a tape measure, a line, a protractor, a caliper ... or with posters of Hollywood stars in their pockets and impose, compare, calibrate whether you meet the "criteria" ... My personal opinion is that this is not serious . The attitude itself is not serious ... Some kind of mental-emotional battle ... come on MALL ... :) Of course, it is clear that you cannot be attracted to an elephant or a crocodile ... Beauty is important. But if your attention is only there ... you miss some other important things, which in the end, you will eventually find to be "garbage". There are very few really nice people. Nice, beautiful, both physically and mentally. Now, how to say it is now the realm of selfishness. Some kind of Golden Age of selfishness and consumerism ... Mimicry, lies and manipulation. Relationships are fleeting, superficial, dramatic and ... short. People change like cars or laundries ... They are all "second hand" compared to the previous partner and look for something "more profitable" ... Patterning ideals. Creating stereotypes about beauty, success, happiness, relationships ... "He must be ... Very (beautiful?), Financially independent (rich?), Funny (non-stop?), Responsive (24/7), talented ( to dance like John Travolta, to play the violin, piano, guitar, to know the names of at least 200-300 performers from all genres of music last 30-40 years, their biographies, all their songs), to have a home, a car, at least seven digits savings ... (Everything? Best. Life is short yet to struggle, it's better if someone else has already done this job ...) Abe ... I want to! :) Well, but it doesn't work. Strange right? My life experience, since my school years, has shown me that terribly beautiful boys and girls have hurt a lot of people. They attract, they do what they do, then they change the person ... I don't know why. Apparently confident in their appearance, they think that they "deserve" to "have fun" with whomever they can think of. Some kind of "thirst" for life, pleasures and pleasant experiences ... I know. I have always been reserved for people who see others as a menu item. There was even a saying that one could not eat only beans, from time to time one had to eat lentils, and kebabs and there ... whatever came. :) Such people seem to me quite superficial, unreliable and ultimately bad. So, back to your question, author. YES! Give yourself a chance;) Don't poke your nose, darling :) The one who needs a chance is you. Are you warming up? :) So far, your system has failed. Who knows, the person who is giving you a chance right now may pleasantly surprise you. How many chances come in life? Good luck ;)
Much depends on whether you can fall in love with anyone like me or not, if he does not attract your attention in the beginning. The question is, if you don't feel for him and you're not very good friends, why would you go out with him? Just because it's an opportunity not to be alone? It's one thing for a person to be wonderful and good and only appearance to be the problem, it's another to be indifferent. In the first case, there is always a solution - I know from experience that if you love a person, even platonic, he will look good to you, no matter how ugly. Believe if you will. But if he attracts you with nothing but his generosity, then do not force yourself. It is not selfish to want the person next to you to like what he looks like. Of course, you shouldn't overdo it, but I know that if you fall in love with someone, appearance loses meaning. However, this does not mean that we should be in love with everyone possible. If he's not attracted to you in any way and you'll be ashamed to call him your boyfriend, don't give him a chance.
Girl, I recently realized something - this desire to be perfect and look for the perfect repulses. People are attracted on the basis of common interests, common problems, even shortcomings. We do not love someone because he is such and such, we love him along with his shortcomings. And at some point you realize that with "perfect" people you have nothing to hang on to and you get bored. It is not worth giving up good opportunities because of some imaginary image in our head that really exists, it does not. I can't tell you about the specific person, you decide. In my opinion, if he attracts you sexually, you enjoy talking and behaving well with you - give him a chance. At some point, it may turn out that your man, along with all his flaws, is preferable to someone "perfect."
If you like it - yes, if it's not to be alone - no. You are only 22. You will have more chances, but one piece of advice - look for the minimum to get the maximum.
In my opinion (as I see that they have already written to you in the previous comments) he just does not attract you. When you have a thrill for a man, height, weight, hair / eye color, etc. do not matter, especially for us women. Don't give him a chance, because such a relationship is doomed. And not because someone looks a certain way, but because if there is no chemistry in the beginning, nothing good will come out. I don't see why anyone should "flood you with poison." It's not your fault you don't respond to his feelings. When the correct one appears, you will forget all the built types. Until then, it's better to be alone than with someone you feel nothing more than friendly sympathy for. Success! :)
Give him a chance. Because what he told you sounds pretty nice, if he's honest, of course, and he doesn't play any demo mode that takes everyone down.