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Should I Keep Fighting?

By nathy_noha July 15, 2020 16 answers Last updated July 15, 2020

I will tell my story, I really ask you for advice.
I don't know if age matters, but still - I soon turned 20, he's 23. I had a very hard time ending a 4-5 month relationship. It can't even be called a relationship, I don't know if I was in love, it was more of a thrill. Then he appeared. Maybe I fell in love out of desperation? I can't say why and how I fell in love. It all started about 3 years ago, just sex. We went out 2-3 times a week, of course only in the evening, no one had to understand, etc.

 

I had sex with others, even with his developers. It was just for sex, and for him. He was nice to me, I didn't think I would fall in love, he didn't do anything to make me fall in love. But alas, I fell in love so much ... Literally to madness. I didn't tell him, but he noticed my different attitude. I wanted to spend more time together, to talk more, I called him from time to time to hear him just, not by appointment. There was a separation, if I may call it, of 9-10 months.

 

At first, I was more optimistic. I told myself, we'd better end this thing now than later. The sooner the better. I go out with others for 9-10 months, compare them with him, etc. I was very, very in love. When I couldn't stand not seeing him anymore, I started to miss him more, I didn't want to go out with others anymore. They were annoying, unpleasant ... it just wasn't him. I decided to call him, see you. We went out once, I told myself everything, he didn't believe me naturally ... we started going out again. He began to behave a little more like that. It was already giving me a reason to fall in love with him. And I was much more in love than before. We were jealous, we were the only ones for each other. Yes but no. He cannot live without female attention. He wrote to others, went out when I understood, always found excuses.

 

Anyway, I knew how much I loved him, how much I was in love, I thought that was reason enough for us to continue together. Now that I've gotten a little more of his lies, all these girls. I try to talk to him, he hides, he lies ... And I'm just desperate, very much in love with this man. I have no interest in others, I have eyes only for him. I don't know where my mistake is. Many people have told me that they would like to, and someone loved them as much as I loved him. And yes, our "relationship" is a secret. Most of his friends don't know, we don't upload photos together, we haven't even added to social networks. We are hiding.


In general, I love him, and he continues to use me for sex, but he already lies to me, makes me fall in love more. He behaves like he's in love, but he's not, he says it to himself, and it's obvious.
Please give advice on how to handle it. Unrequited love is the greatest punishment for a person. Should I talk to him, should I give up ...

Answers 16

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ukguy60seuk answered · July 15, 2020
You just leave, don't be anyone's secret and trash. Or tell everyone you're together again and watch his reaction. I hope at least that sobers you up.
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katle_lecsy_xxx answered · July 15, 2020
Well, he didn't use you, you used him. The boy told himself from the beginning what he wanted. You know the answer yourself. If he was in love with you, he would want everyone to know and be together all the time. You're still young, leave him and try to find another. It is desirable that the relationship does not begin with sex.
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lovtiiits answered · July 15, 2020
And I would not want a relationship with a chick who has visited my friends, it's kind of weird; e I'm only ok about sex, but for something more absurd. I can only imagine how the guy goes out in a masculine way and it's about some babes they've slept with and it's about you too - how to serve them "well, yes, but we're together", it's kind of very awkward. Not that one should be influenced by people's opinions, but to know that my wife has passed her and the others I can not imagine.
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isazoei answered · July 15, 2020
There are a lot of similar topics here - everything was just sex, but at some point the simple becomes complicated, at least for one who falls in love. There is nothing you can do, there is no way to make him love you and be faithful to you, such women do not change. You will always get over your unrequited love, but you will suffer, almost all of us have been through this. I did not understand why you are hiding? Who cares about your relationship? If he doesn't want to show that he has a relationship with you, isn't that at least a little offensive to you? Maybe there's a serious relationship, and you're kind of a backyard with trash cans? I don't want to offend her with this comparison, but I wouldn't keep in touch with someone who doesn't want to show up with me. My advice is to leave him, you have no future together, and if / when he dumps you you will suffer even more.
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momsquirtingmilk answered · July 15, 2020
Number 2, very inadequate comment. She is not a small author, but in love. Makes a difference. Or do you kill complexes on young people because you are old? Such is life, resign yourself. We all get older, you don't have to be angry. I notice a huge, mass malice on the site towards young people. Especially girls. Not that it bothers me, but it has become banal. You see all the complexes and envy. And it is more than clear that all the slop is being vomited by 30 women ...
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azwinter answered · July 15, 2020
Your mistake is that you slept with his friends and others. Even if he has some feelings, he will not take you seriously, because you cannot be trusted. Three years ago you were 17 and slept with several at once ?! And if I were in his place, I would only use you for the bed.
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chris419 answered · July 16, 2020
Start pumping heroin. Then you will not sleep for people at all and you will get rid of this nasty situation.
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btchinheat17 answered · July 16, 2020
You are obviously a secret, because he has an official girlfriend who they already know and goes out with them. Or he wants to be considered free so he can take women down more easily. Get away from this man, but this time remove all bridges, doors and other gaps.
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wild_samanta answered · July 16, 2020
For a start, step back slightly from him. It is clear that you can not suddenly stop liking him, so at least physically get away. If you have the opportunity, go somewhere for a week or a weekend. With grandparents, friends. Leave the phone silent and do not answer him or some of his friends who may tell him where you are. Just don't write to him, don't call him, don't look at his pictures, etc. Wherever you went you went there to have fun. Go out, laugh, watch other boys. You will certainly think about it, but when you think about it, think about how you will cut it the next time it appears. His act is nasty, but common - he pays attention to someone, wins it and runs away. Don't give up and you will be able to forget it. Just as hard as it is for you, try not to jump on his neck every time you see him. You will succeed!
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honeyyrainn answered · July 17, 2020
You are pathetic. Both
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marlon_perez answered · July 17, 2020
After reading the title, I decided that someone wanted to fight for something meaningful in life. And I would support you, of course. But if it's for a man, it's hardly worth it. I have always been impressed by such cases - how can a man or a woman be a kind of Rubicon so much that you do not notice the valuable and significant things.
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jordan21996x answered · July 17, 2020
Nothing personal, but I wouldn't take you seriously either.
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robbinghood1979 answered · July 18, 2020
* all the slop is poured by women 30 ... * The moderators still cut where it doesn't suit them.
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crazy_cute18 answered · July 18, 2020
Someone suffers from paranoid schizophrenia, right number 13?
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karinalotus answered · July 18, 2020
Oh, I didn't want to offend anyone, but by cutting my comments ... All the slop is spewed by old ladies. Envy and malice have no limits, especially over a certain age. Here that they immediately started foaming, which again confirms my opinion.
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kittysmithxxx answered · July 19, 2020
Great drama! How many more sites will you write to? !! It doesn't take you seriously, don't you remember? We can't help you, you move your brain.
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