Hello, I have the following problem, which has not happened to me so far. I had a long relationship (3+ years) and I was in depression, an emotional hole or as they call it for a long time and during that time I didn't want to have contact with women. After gathering my thoughts and recovering, I decided it was time to try a new relationship. I found a girl I generally liked, etc., but I have the following problem. She knows that I like her, I said and we only go out almost every night, but since the first meetings I decided to kiss her, etc. (she did not pull) then she told me that I was in a hurry. We go out, but when I raise the topic of relationships, some stories like that start, but we still don't go, where are you in a hurry, etc. I've said several times that I don't understand her, because we go out and sometimes she wants kisses, sometimes not hugs lying on your lap, etc. Conversations like WE, and then again at some point a boom but we do not go and my mood worsens. See you for 3 weeks now. It is clear in my opinion friend zone. So my question is should I wait a little longer or tell her directly that this will not happen and look for another one. She is 20 and I am 26. I just decided not to write to her not to look for her and in the evening she starts. In principle, I am not a person who gives up easily, but here in this case, even I do not know what I look like and it is difficult for me. If anyone has had an improved case let me know. I also want to add that this woman had a relationship until less than 2 months ago and I sense signs of depression, etc. the things I went through. I don't want to be a trash can, a temporary substitute, etc. I just don't know what is best to do in this case. I want her, but I'm just mentally crushed by these stories and I lose the desire to do anything. I've tried to talk while we're together. I also tried chatting on the phone and there it gets worse and gets worse. I think I will wait a little longer and if it continues like this I will stop all contact without unnecessary explanations and dramas.
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I think you made the right decision. Even from what you explain, I don't know if it makes sense to go any further. In my opinion and my experience, when two people like each other, there is no pulling. When he does that, he obviously doesn't want you or is wondering about something. Either way, it's not good for you. Of course, if it's so wonderful and perfect for you, it makes sense to fight harder to see what happens.
She probably hasn't recovered from her breakup yet. There may be feelings for him. And he probably likes you when he's looking for you, but he doesn't want to get into another relationship right away. 3 weeks is not much time. But if you're in such a hurry, look for another.
Are you expecting a serious relationship in three weeks? You put a lot of pressure on her, it's normal for the girl to pull away.
Don't deal with the unconscious. Find someone who knows what he wants. Let this one bite out of anger later.
Cut it right now, get involved with a more mature woman around your age, even older than you, the one you're a boyfriend with until that day was riding a bike with auxiliary wheels.
Ask her directly what she wants from you and what happens to her. There is no point in dodging and the like. It is best to have a clear relationship.
Number 3 I just want a clear relationship. I don't press her for anything, but this behavior is not normal. At least by my standards, this is not normal. Number 6 That's exactly what I'm thinking of doing! For this I wanted a side opinion, because there are cases in which we are misled and misjudged. Now I see that I am on a plowed road. Thanks for the feedback. Number 2 As I had not recovered, I persisted and did not confuse the others with false signals. It's just not fair to the other party. First you clarify with yourself what you want after the separation and then you act. If I had known she was so fresh, we wouldn't have bothered at all. Number 3 In my opinion, if a person knows what he wants, 3 4 weeks are enough, and at the moment it is not even known what we are. We are neither friends nor a couple. So she wants me to comply with her and act like we're together,