Hello, I want to share my story with you and ask for advice. I got married five months ago, now I am pregnant, the problem is the following with my husband we have been arguing almost from the very beginning, it does not allow me to stay with my parents, it hurts me a lot because I have a very strong relationship with my parents. Before the wedding we had agreed that I would stay there and everything was fine, but shortly after the wedding he started to forbid it ruined me, he cries almost every day he doesn't understand me, now I'm 4 months pregnant, I can't get used to it no I can overcome it and he doesn't understand me, I have reached a state to think about separation, I don't know what to do, I don't have a single day to say that I was happy after the wedding.
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Very bad, in this state you should not be sick and should not forbid you, you are not tied to it, do what you want ... If you do not tolerate it too much, leave ...
You are a married woman now, you will become a mother, your own family should be a priority. How are you going to go to mom and dad to sleep like that? And how will you leave your husband for them? The child needs a mother and a father, not a mother and a grandmother and a grandfather. Your husband is doing you a favor by trying to free you from the emotional dependence you have on your parents. It is normal for your relationship to change and it helps you. Think about whether it's time to grow up and separate from them, not how to break up with him.
A lot of people don't really understand why they're with someone - watch "Gray's Anatomy" and maybe you'll recognize yourself in some of the characters. If you're not happy, your child won't be happy, and a relationship isn't built with ultimatums. be smart and brave - leave while it's time
Many people do not really understand why they are with someone - watch "Gray's Anatomy" and maybe you will recognize yourself in some of the characters. If you are not happy and your child will not be happy, moreover, a relationship is not built with ultimatums. be smart and brave - leave while it's time
Okay, wait now, who did you marry and where is your home? You have to get used to the new situation, not to want to be mom's daughter and at the same time be married. Going to visit for a while is one thing, but staying there is something else. I guess your husband is standing alone while you're with mom. Just because you're pregnant doesn't mean you're sick, does it?
You are not married to your parents but to him ... For an hour a day I understand, but to live as if you were 15 with mom and dad is not ... Soon you will have a baby and many new responsibilities .... Prepare yourself mentally. ... And mom and dad will help when a baby is born. n. My completely normal crisis lasted 6 months until I got used to the fact that I am married and with the new home .... It will pass.
You are a mother's child, what kind of weddings and what kind of children do you talk about when you are still a child and obviously you need their care
More or less, a lot of people go this way Zatiova - tighten up and live with your husband, unless you are fighting something or something like that
No, don't stay with him unless you want to be unhappy for the rest of your life
Your hormones are currently rampant from pregnancy. It is normal to have hot-tempered, changeable moods and everything to irritate you. My husband also does not like to be alone and does not like me to spend the night elsewhere, even in my home. Take matters into your own hands and don't ruin your marriage because of a ligature
I don't want to stay there, but to stay for two days and once a month, he is on a course, we are not together anyway, he comes home on Wednesday and Friday, he wants me to go to his parents, because my home was there. , I do not accept it as my home, these people are strangers to me. I don't rest there, I work harder.
Number 1 wrote the most meaningful comment. And number 3 is very right too. The various retrograde pseudo-patriarchal communists should be silent and realize a little ... The author is first a free man with free will (and not a woman-property ... of an Arab, for example) and second, but not second, and even in fact the most important thing in this case A PREGNANT WOMAN MUST BE SATISFIED IN ANY RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE EVERY NEGATIVE EMOTION AFFECTS THE FETUS IN HER WOMAN.
I didn't understand from the beginning what you were fighting about? And your husband is right. I have a similar problem at home, only the attachment is my husband-if he doesn't see and hear mom today, and doesn't hear his brother 16 times, he just goes crazy. Your family is your husband and your child. Point. Everyone else is behind. I don't understand you holding on to your mothers' skirts like that. I see my colleague here - she talks to her daughter every morning. EVERY MORNING. If I hear my mother every day, I'll go crazy, honestly. No one is eternal, girl. One day you may not have a husband because of mom and dad. When they will not be there either. And then what prime?
Honey, it's normal at the moment to be much more sensitive than usual, you're pregnant, your hormones are raging ... so don't do anything about it for now, just wait for the baby to be born and see how your husband behaves. If he treats you well, he helps you with the baby, etc. It's worth making a compromise and staying with him. However, if the situation worsens, then leave it with a clear conscience. However, you will be able to understand this at the earliest in a year, if not more, until the child is born, until you get used to a new situation ... don't do anything about it now. Take care of your health, take care and hope that everything goes smoothly, divorce is the easiest thing, but at the moment you have much more important things to think about, namely the health of the baby and your health.
If that's all you have, it's silly to break up. And when he told you to go to his parents, tell him that he can't make you go to them, let alone let you go to your own. And I understand that you live separately alone. So tell him that your home is where you two live, not with his parents, as he told you.
"I don't want to stay there, but to stay for day two and once a month, he's on a course, we're not together anyway, he comes home on Wednesday and Friday, he wants me to go to his parents, because mine was there. home, I don't accept it as my home, these people are strangers to me. I don't rest there, I work harder anymore ". - Your husband cannot and should not properly restrict your contact with your parents. Don't let him! Such men at a later stage of the marriage usually appear as domestic abusers. My advice is: If you are not happy with it, leave it. Men under the road and over the road, but mother and father are one for life!
11, is what bothers you as you will not go to yours?
Nothing bothers me, but he doesn't allow it.