Hello! I am 20 years old, I have had a friend for a year and a half. Unfortunately, after 6-7 months he changed a lot, became arrogant and rude, insults, slaps, throws, etc. I did everything for him, literally! I don't want it to sound like I'm idealizing, but the truth is - I decided to invest everything in this connection and make him the happiest, but I don't know why, instead of getting better, he took me for granted and started hitting me. , insults, etc. for a period of several months (rarely, but he did), left me alone on the street, just left, did not pick up the phone and so I was ruined in my head was just "How can I do everything, and he from the sweet and good boy I fell in love with, to become that mean and bullying guy? ”. I was lonely even with him ... and so I went out with his friend (not the closest, but still a man, who knows him) in order to give me advice. And so we started going out at times when my friend was behaving badly with me ... I was going out with his friend in question (I'll call him "H"), I was crying and he was calming me down. So we became close and for 7-8 months we go out regularly. We had no physical contact, but he fell in love with me. For me, however, he is just a friend ... the truth is that my boyfriend (for example "G") has started to change and has been behaving very well with me for several months ... his last violent crisis was 5 months ago ... unfortunately, apparently out of all the stress, I also developed Panic Disorder. Now that my friend is being nice to me and I love him ... should I tell him about H? Or not? It weighs on me that I'm hiding from him, I'm going to end my contact with H even though he's my best friend and he's helping me a hell of a lot,
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I would dump my boyfriend if he allowed himself to hit me! Once he misbehaves with you, he will afford it again. Nonsense, you haven't done anything wrong, why do you say dapmu? And if those are his friends, he may have already sung.
You better keep up with H, because D won't change, especially if you become a family! And for the saying - there is no need, he will understand!
You don't have to tell your boyfriend, but tell H so he doesn't waste his time with you.
From the author: thank you very much ... the point is that every day I become more and more confused and there are moments when I think I have feelings for H ... there are moments when I just want to hug and kiss him , but then it's as if the habit calls and I think that G is actually the person for me ... I don't know what to do, I didn't feel that way ...
To "beat the penalty" of your friend (N), who was next to you and calmed you down, just because you see your boyfriend has calmed down, is, to put it mildly, low. The boy has fallen in love with you, and as a thank you you just plan to "end contact with him". Take a good look at who deserves what kind of attitude from you and whether you are really still in love with your boyfriend after all, not to make it happen that you lose the other and then get angry after realizing that you can really have feelings for him. ".. but then it's as if the habit is calling and I think that G is actually the man for me ..." and what exactly makes you think that this is the man for you? The encroachments? Offend? Or abandonment? People do not change. As for your question whether to tell him ... the last thing he deserves is to give him an account of who gave you comfort,