Hello, I am a young woman. My child's father and I are separated by mutual desire. Since we broke up we have been in a very good relationship, we are friends and I hope to keep the good relationship because we have a child. There has been a new man in my life for some time with whom things are moving very fast. We love each other and live together. He takes care of my child like a real father, the child loves him. We have serious plans for the future. My child's father still doesn't know about my new relationship. And because of that fact, we keep it a secret, we don't show up together, and it weighs on my friend. I don't think my child's father deserves to be understood by other people, I guess he will be uncomfortable. And that's why I think it's time to tell him. But I do not know how. I don't know how he will accept it. Will he not be jealous that the child lives with another man.
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Well, once you're separated, it's normal to move forward sooner or later. So the next time you see each other, just tell him. Well, it is not said to go into details and inform him how wonderful your new husband is, how much he loves the child, etc. And just let him know that there is such a person and that he gets along well with the child so that he does not worry . Because separated or not, he will always be the father of your child and will worry about him. So it is important to know that everything is ok with the child and they understand your new husband. He doesn't care anymore. If he really accepted your separation, he shouldn't be jealous. After all, you write that you are young, it is not normal to be alone, but it is not necessary to push your happiness in the face of the ex, especially if he has not yet found a new girlfriend. How will you react if he tells you that he has another? Will you be jealous or do you want him to be happy with her? If you have separated as adults and neither of you dreams of secretly reuniting, there should be no problem that each of you will sooner or later have a new partner. The important thing is that only caring for your child is your priority. From then on, everyone has the right to be happy, and I don't think that should be a cause for jealousy or scandal.
How long have you been living together? Are your relationships serious? How do you live together like that and nobody knows?
How do you live together and don't you show up together, does your husband live in the same city and doesn't he come to see the child? Everything sounds strange and absurd ..
You would tell him quite normally, purely human. Make an appointment with him, warn him in advance that you want to talk. Start with the fact that the conversation can be a little difficult and you do not want to quarrel because there is no reason for scandals. Then you tell him that you have been dating a man for some time and living with him, emphasizing that the child accepts what is happening well and it is important for you that he knows from you and not from other people. Then whatever the sword shows. He will probably be surprised, this may affect him badly and he will start asking slightly offensive questions. It's normal, don't be silly, but answer calmly. Try not to raise your voice, listen to him and express your point of view as if you were talking to a friend.
You felt right, he needs to learn from you, not from others. You tell him personally and in the most direct way possible, it's not that scary. She hardly expects you to be alone forever. As long as he keeps in touch with the child, the father always remains the father.
Either way, it will still be clear to him, but it is better to learn it in a civilized way. It will not be pleasant for his child to grow up with another man, this is in the nature of men, and he will probably start a struggle to attract the child to himself, which will worsen your relationship. Why do you have children at all and then think only of yourself? For a temporary sexual gratification, you kill the childhood of children, I do not understand it !?
By 8, children's childhood has nothing to do with children's sexual experiences.
Fake. The new man lives with you, you have a child with the old one, you get along well with the child's father, and he doesn't know? Absurd - can't this child talk? Well, when his father takes him, he'll tell him? Or else - what do you do when the father comes to pick up the child, the new man is hiding in the closet, or how?
Well, it wasn't, hold on: D Hahahaha, you're great people, you know what kind of reasoning. It depends on what kind of relationship you have with the child's father, if you hear / see you regularly and share some things, you should sit down and tell him. If you do not communicate often, it will not prevent you from finding out from someone else. Hasn't this child already told him (if not too little)? How are you going to crush your new friend like that and make him feel stupid in a situation like this, when the person is obviously doing things for you and your child. Respect him and don't make him hide like a mouse .... you're not 16 anymore .. I hope .. To Number 6 - it's absurd to explain it to him in this way. Success!
№11, if they had common sense, they would have used it preventively, not to reach this development. When forums are consulted about such a simple problem, their reason is clear. №9, not only childhood is ruined, but also the psyche of children, ie, and their health. I don't want to argue, everyone makes observations, and draws conclusions from them!