Hello. I am 19 years old and I live with my friend in a big city in a foreign country. We have been together for 4 years, we love each other. He is very jealous and I am always careful not to hurt or offend him in any way. He has always held on to me terribly, he loves me, and I know that I will hardly find a better one than him, he would not cheat on me. The problem: Two days ago, I was returning from work when a young black boy spoke to me - he asked me if I was Spanish. That's how we talked. In principle, I do not talk to strangers, but I was in the mood and decided not to ignore it. He explained to me that he was from the United States and worked here, training hard for running competitions. At first I didn't believe him to be a famous athlete, but he showed me his fan page, and it really was him, he became interesting to me as a person, nothing more. He asked me to give him my number, and here I feel the greatest guilt - I gave it to him. At that moment, I felt that I was not being fair to my friend and I said goodbye, and he hugged me really friendly and said, "Someday we can go out for a drink or dinner," and I smiled and left. At that moment, I realized that if my friend had been away, he would have been very disappointed in me. I immediately blocked his number, and that's it. I'm sharing this story because I feel guilty, I feel like a traitor, because I gave my number to a stranger so easily and hugged him. I know that for many people, this may be nothing, but it eats me from the inside. Here people are more relaxed, more sociable and friendly, but if I tell my friend, I am afraid that he will misunderstand him, I will be very angry, I will lose his trust, otherwise it will weigh on me. What should I do, what would you do, do you think that it is harmless and should I tell him about it Thank you very much, any advice will be useful to me ....
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You blocked his number, you say? Okay. But I didn't understand last - did he hug you (the unknown "runner") or you hugged him? Because you say first one, then the other. But if you feel so strong guilt - share with your friend and try to explain to him that you actually feel guilty. Be honest and do not hide anything, from personal experience I tell you - hiding and lying do not live long. :)
from the author: He reached out to hug me, supposedly friendly, and I replied .. It happened in the middle of the street, it really was a simple friendly hug, nothing more, but it does not give me peace ...
Don't say anything to your friend, just let this incident be a lesson to you and remember that next time you may not be so lucky.
The whole thing comes from being "famous." And you're just human. If Brad Pitt or any of the celebrities wanted to kiss a stranger ... who would refuse? Things are relative and every rule has its exceptions.
Well, you didn't do it right, you made a mistake, but no one is sinless. So just forgive yourself and forget about this incident. It didn't happen anyway, you still didn't sleep with him. It's better that it happened so that you have one thing in mind another time, so that it doesn't happen until you feel like waking up in someone's bed. But don't make the mistake of thinking about it all the time, because it's no use. What happened, just forget it and try not to repeat it. I don't excuse you, but I can understand you. You are too young, your hormones are raging, you still have no self-control, and he is obviously more talkative, but also exotic, and you wanted something different. Keep in mind that since you've been with him since you were so young, you'll probably want to try something different over time, but it's up to you to be tempted. But let me tell you if your relationship is really good, don't make that mistake. You'll regret.
You are very young, you will still understand many things in a man-woman relationship. If you ask me, don't worry at all, take care of yourself. Be positive and don't bother with nonsense. Because this is nonsense.
It is obvious that you are a pure and conscientious person, when you are so worried - nothing really happened - a conversation with a stranger. Once you've blocked the number, leave things as they are. There is no need to involve your friend in dramas. You made the right choice, don't blame yourself. If you want to fiddle with the situation, you better think, what is it that attracted you to the boy? Is it just that your ego has been flattered or something in his attitude that you otherwise miss. Analyze the event, and you will make sense of it and overcome it. Leave the blame, you better try to understand the reasons that provoked your reaction - it will be more useful to you :)
Don't say anything to anyone !!! It didn't happen to dramatize what. You felt courted and relaxed, so you gave your number. There is nothing wrong or scary about that. It is normal after years of routine in a relationship to need more attention and polishing of the ego. Calm down. But keep in mind that if you tell your friend now, who is quite jealous, you will get angry at nothing. He will start stalking you all the time and raising scandals for you. You will get rid of guilt, but you will get into far more serious problems. Be sensible! And don't think a man wouldn't do that in your place. On the contrary. It can go even further. Annabel
Did you give your phone number and feel guilty? Maleee, what a jealous man next to you, save yourself!
Tell him, then say a few prayers for the salvation of your soul. However, there is an order - do not wish the black man on your neighbor.
Nonsense! Apart from ruining your relationship for a period of time, and probably pushing him to the last and holding you responsible for something that is really nothing, you will achieve nothing by telling him! If this was nothing intentional or serious for you, why are you tormented like that and why would you put your friend in the situation of torturing the poor man for something like that !? Ignore everything, the whole situation and move on! You've learned your lessons, you wouldn't do it again, if for no other reason, then at least from the guilt you obviously feel, so I see no reason to torture yourself or put flies in your friend's head for something so insignificant! Rejoice and love one another! Nothing else matters!
I don't think anything tragic happened. :) You really didn't do the right thing to your friend, but it's not who knows what. However, you realized in time that it was not right. You have nothing to blame yourself for, yet some girls don't even think it's right. You have nothing to feel guilty about, you still haven't done anything, but if you deepen things with this person, I think you'll have to think about how much you care about your friend. :)
This is called to pay attention to you and try to seduce you. And if you want to scratch your squirrel and swallow the fact that they will fuck you and dump you, keep giving your phones to the sticks.
You have nothing to worry about, you haven't kissed him or slept with him. Don't tell your friend, because there will still be men who will take you down, ask for your number, etc. Just forget the story, nothing fatal happened. Your relationship with your boyfriend would rather be affected by the fact that you intend to put a fly in his head. Just keep one thing in mind for men from now on. When you are young and beautiful, they will take you down, they will want you, they will want to seduce many men and they will try everything. It's up to you to give in. You women as you create a little emotion and stop thinking permanently. It happened, it became interesting to you, it made you smile, it was fun, you experienced something new, unfamiliar. Abe's typical reaction of a woman. You felt it in time and you are obviously holding on to your boyfriend. Forget about the stranger and so much more! And another time, know that we men rarely tell women just stories, and in the end we want to finally take off your panties through these stories. For example, I can't be friends with a beautiful woman who attracts me sexually. Do I like her as a woman, I just either take her off or ignore her, but friendship doesn't happen!
His friend's song was sung to him. You are already looking for something new.