Hello dear people, Help with advice, I'm very confused ! I am a man of 30 and I have been in a relationship for five months with a girl of 21 years. The circumstances are such that we can only be together on the weekends because we live in different cities. We met her on a dating site and from the first day we met we realized that we are for each other and without knowing each other we indulged in passion! Of course, our characters are different and this difference of almost ten years is not to be underestimated, but we have a bunch of common interests, tastes, we share common dreams. When we are together it is just magical, she is passionate, affectionate and tender ... But during the week it is as if she is not! I have to provoke her every time I want to hear a gentle word from her and I don't even always succeed. Often? I write why and what I love in it, I write? how do i feel when i think of her and in response I receive only "and I love you very much" or "I feel the same way" and only that much ... Does this seem normal to you? I think that when a person is really in love, he should share more, talk about his feelings, try to express them clearly, whether on the phone, on Facebook or Skype, and not just when we are face to face ... maybe I can be very romantic and film myself, because in the end I don't get the tenderness I would like, but believe me I do my best to keep the passion in our relationship! They are playful photos, crazy poems, spicy text messages ... and whatever comes to mind, and from it I get only - "me too", and sometimes he doesn't even comment on the phone the jokes for which I have invested all my imagination and passion !! Otherwise he calls me several times a day, asks me how I am, what I do, but we talk mostly about everyday topics ... This drives me crazy, I need more passion !! I am confused!! I don't understand this my girl, I know she loves me, but I don't know why she is so reserved. I still don't want to talk to her about these things, I want to get to know her more, maybe she's just like that. And one more thing - I told her that I had updated my profile on the site where we met and I fixed it as "bound". I did this because I saw that she visits this site every 2-3 days, I guess she writes to someone. I've checked several times already and she still hasn't updated her account and it still says she's single? So how do you think I feel? An idea came to me and because of it I tell you everything! I'm thinking of registering a profile on the site and putting a picture of someone really cool dude! Advise me what message to write, to provoke her? And is that a good idea at all? But if I do, if? I write that she is very beautiful and that I want her to become my friend or something more ... and if she misled the beautiful stranger and didn't even mention to him that she has a relationship ... then what ...? Maybe without asking her she will answer all my questions and put an end to all my doubts and torments !? Share what you think, should I try it?
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I don't think you have anything to worry about. Your girlfriend is like that by nature. It may just not be that this muse constantly writes you love text messages, etc. The fact that you are considering whether to make a fake profile shows that you are jealous of her, but you also love her very much. I don't think it's right. If you still want to know if there is something, no one can stop you from creating an account. Good luck. :)))))
You think like a teen. Since when is it more important to tell you I love you on Skype and Facebook than face to face. Don't expose yourself, a man in his 30s. I had such a relationship and that's why I left him. When we saw everything, electricity and wire, and on Skype all day, I was explained how much he loves me and can't do without me. I'm fine, I understand. I prefer to be told it rarely, but qualitatively and from the heart. And not in 10 minutes to tell me that he loves me, just because there is not much to talk about. Recover, because sooner or later it will? squeals. If not already? is.
Are you sure you're 30? and if so, it means you need to be checked for late-onset "autism," or better yet, see a psychiatrist. From what I wrote, I learned the following: Some dating site, some pickle, some numbers, some hysteria, and finally your question after all this is: "What message should I write to provoke her." after this story I will not be the same, I have some aggression towards my own gender, even after everything written somewhere I would understand this 21-year-old girl. You will become a man by starting to behave as such.
a man of 30, and they turn a 21-year-old !!! tighten it and get down on the ground! try it if it hasn't changed its profile and is still logging in, it's not clean, don't believe it
You're a super annoying stick if I was on it if I ended any relationship. Sex is supposed to be too good to endure all this.
No, don't try this nasty and desperate trick. Hold your position and be patient. I know how you feel, the same thing happens to me
my advice is go ahead, what do you have to lose? Any illusion? To deceive yourself and to wander in the clouds I think will not be of any use to you :) Write what happened! Success!
You are 30 or 20 ... it is right for her to show childish behavior, not you ... However, it seems to me that it is the opposite ... Stop paying attention to her and you will see that she is alone. will start looking for you and behaving the way you expect ...
He's playing with you. I'm telling you like a woman. Women like to listen to things like that ... they scratch our egos a lot. She may really like you, but if you want to keep her next to you, don't act like a slipper, but act like a man. We need women from real men ... :)