My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. She is studying last year abroad. Half of the connection we were from a distance. Before the summer vacation, she kissed another boy and she seems to have fallen in love with him and is confused. She hasn't felt loved by me lately and I missed her on an emotional level. According to her, she is confused, both she wants to be with me and she wants to see if she will experience the same emotions when she sees him in a month, when she starts university. (We do not live together). The truth is that I am changing and I hope that we will be able to build a very strong relationship in the future, and to love each other as in the beginning. At the same time, I don't know what to do because I can't wait for them to see each other so she can decide how to act. We talk a lot with her, but I ruin myself every day ... What would you do in my place?
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You leave her right away, that's what I would do. I don't understand some people. She kissed another and does not know who to be with, but you dream of loving as in the beginning. For those who can advise you to "fight". The struggle for the relationship is a two-way process and it must be fought with the circumstances that may prevent it, and not one side to fight for the other.
It is normal to make compromises in a relationship, but not at such a level. If he truly loves you, he will love only you. If he wants you, he won't "try" with others. Her position may be somewhat understandable, but I think you should give her an ultimatum - to choose between the two of you before she sees him. Good luck!
Well, things are clear, what are you wondering? If she was really in love with you, especially when you're a distance away, she'd run up the flight of stairs to throw herself at your neck. I run up the stairs every day when my husband comes home from work because I can't wait to kiss him. When you love - do not hesitate, but feel the greatest security in the world. What do I have to decide for someone else? This one, the other one, I just won't notice. Remember from me: love is not blind, as the aphorism says, but it has eyes only for the beloved being. I was in your girlfriend's situation. I also graduated abroad. Abe ... I didn't love him. A decent, decent boy, from an honorable family, as they say - a good party, but ... I always postponed our meetings during the holidays, when I came home, something more important for me was coming up, my head was always aching;
Boy, leave her! Find someone right. If she cared about you, she wouldn't kiss him at all, even if she was confused now. He doesn't deserve you at all! Let her save herself, you shouldn't feel sick at all and ruin yourself :)
So you want to let her fuck someone else and if she doesn't like it, she might come back to you? !! Do you, boy, have a little personal self-esteem? Why do you let yourself be trampled like that? I have some news for you. Even if she doesn't like the new one, she won't come back to you, because you've already been beaten - you're not interesting and you run after her like a puppy.
Wait for her to try the first, second, third and then some nigger for variety, and after 5-6 years she has broken enough dicks to decide, and during that time you live with the memories of the past and wait for the second coming. How can you be so stupid? Your so-called connection does not exist.
I faint ...: D What are you going to build with someone who is in love with other people, that he even wonders ... Yes, wait for her to fuck nicely, and if she doesn't manage to come back to you, rag. Brother.
Your girlfriend is completely selfish. How can he play you like that. You'd better leave her, if she cared about you, she'd do her best to keep you together physically, rather than pushing each other. Even if you wait for her now and get back together, there is no guarantee that in a year or two she will not do the same, her value system will not change. And then, you can get married, have children and it becomes more complicated. This is a bad deal, in my opinion.
Are you crazy, bro? She's already fucked with him wondering. To wait to see if he would like it. Abe seriously, you ... do you have dignity? Break, run with 200 .. What conversations what 5 levs
Will you wait for someone else to use it to come to you used? Wouldn't you be disgusted to touch her? Or do you want to be a reserve and steal the remains of another? Tighten it up! Either you are a priority and the man in her life, or not! What is this, go, come, and wait to see what will happen to this one, but I want you too. She's a liar, and you're obviously a masochist, so you're considering stealing someone else's remains.
This one is very cunning ... wow, wow ... Break it, it's all over.
No! Do not waste your time and youth!
You're a second violin, almost if you don't get along with those. Very ugly and unfortunate, I think you should spit on your heels very quickly, because then if she's with you and things don't work out with her, she'll watch again and tease others and you'll get hurt. Run quickly from such women, do not ruin your life. Scales 19
I will tell you something different, if it is scandalous. What happened is completely normal and understandable, you even had to be prepared. You are together at a distance and even if you hear each other on the phone every day, you still miss the physical contact and the thrills of meetings. I personally strongly believe that this girl is actually confused about her feelings and just doesn't know what she's feeling. There is no other way. She has been with you for 4 years and she is used to sharing and talking about love, but from afar, and suddenly a second one appears, with whom she can have something here, now, physically and at the moment. She gave in. Whether she loves you or not, we can only guess. No matter how much he loves you, you miss the physical in the relationship and at some point your relationship becomes more nervous, more distant. Such connections are not easy, they are almost doomed and in very rare cases work. You have something to judge her for, but she doesn't. I will not preach forgiveness and other nonsense to you, but I want you to think. What is happening is normal and the reasons for getting here are many. The fact is, this remote connection doesn't work for you. Take a break, pause until you start living in a city and then, if you are written and really love each other, something will happen, you will not be patient. That way with phone love it won't be. He let her live as if she was single, to scratch her name. Let her be free to make her own decisions so that the conclusions you draw can also be true. If she loves you so much when you let her go, she will understand how important you are to her and will even feel guilty. Otherwise I will go to bed with different types, and when it returns you will no longer want it, because you will have seen something in it that you did not anticipate and that you will not be able to forget. It is very important to me what a person does when he is free to do everything. Some time ago my boyfriend went abroad and we discussed the option of being together from a distance. I told him that I didn't want a connection because I wanted to see how much we would look for each other when we didn't have to look for each other and how long we would wait when there was no need to wait. Kind of, to check if love sustains us, or sustains the presence of a relationship. It is one thing not to sleep with someone because you have a relationship and quite another not to sleep with someone because you love another person. These works sound silly, but they show the real faces of the people and the grief is worth the truth afterwards. Let her go. You are young, your relationship is exhausted, let alone to organize your thoughts and feelings without outside interference. There is a variant in which you will gather in years and then you will have more capacity in your heads, you will be more mature and wise, then you can be together and you will be much better, but for now you will not received nothing constructive by force.
It wasn't just a kiss, I guess it's clear to you. But even if we assume that they just kissed, the very fact that she is looking at another man with those eyes is indicative enough. It's all over, at least it's on your part. It suits her (of course) to be in her reserve, in case he gets tired of her and beats the jester. But such a waiting position is humiliating and absolutely ridiculous for you. Don't do it to yourself.