Hello, writes a girl of 17. Last summer I noticed a boy at a party. He was very sweet and beautiful. I liked it back then, but I thought it was only a temporary attraction. I met him again a few days later and realized that I liked him very much. I asked my friends about him, I understood his name, everyone told me he was a good boy. He is two years older than me. The problem is that he is very shy. He is always at the back of the crowd, talking to almost no one but his closest friends. Since I'm not one of the most open, I didn't know what to do. One night, we were at a party again, I accidentally turned around and noticed that he was looking at me. I thought I was imagining. I deliberately hid in the crowd and watched him. He stood for a while and began to look around, even lifting his fingers at one point. I thought again that I was imagining nonsense, I didn't take it seriously. One night there was something like a gathering with friends, he was there again. But it was at the front, which surprised me a lot. Then he started dancing, talking loudly, laughing. In general, it was as if he was not the same person. We were very close to the dance floor, I looked at it and our eyes met. Then he started calling his friends, dancing even more, straightening his hair ... I couldn't believe my eyes. He never, ever behaved like that. I really wanted to talk to him, to get to know him, I just didn't know how. Summer has passed, winter has come, spring has come. I hadn't seen him since. I tried to forget it, and I thought I did, but we met again yesterday. On the street. He was with a friend, they were standing there. I was with a friend, we were walking right to them. As we approached, they moved in front of us. At one point he turned back slightly, not entirely, he looked with his periphery and kept walking. They were moving forward, but suddenly he turned and entered a diner. So, out of nowhere. I think even his friend was surprised. There was a party again in the evening and he was there again. This time he was behind the crowd again. All his friends went to dance, he just stood there. I decided to do something like an experiment. I approached and looked at him. He started looking in different directions, even looking up, I have no idea what. I kept watching it all night. I was quite far away from him, I looked at him and he was looking at me. So, right in me. He kept looking at me, me too. But when I approach him, he always looks everywhere, but not at me. I'm very confused, I don't know what to do. I'm not very experienced in these things, I don't know what his actions mean. I tried to forget it many times. However, if he was interested in me, he would come, talk to me, write to me. But he did nothing. Absolutely nothing. As shy as he was, if he wanted to talk to me, he would. I repeated these things to myself, I tried to forget him, but when I accidentally caught him looking at me, I began to hold out my hopes again. Empty hopes. Every day I get more and more disappointed. I don't know how to forget it. I know it's not love because I don't know him as a person, as a character. But I've never liked someone so much before. Maybe it seemed to me that he was looking at me, maybe he liked me before, not anymore ... I'm tired of trying to get closer to him, I don't have the courage to talk to him, and if he doesn't like me? I feel that with these attempts I look pathetic, but I really like it. It's been too long, I'm sorry. I've just been trying for a few months to figure out what's going on. If any of you liked a shy boy or if you are, I would be happy to give you advice.
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He probably likes you, but he's trying to cover it up. Shy people are not good at expressing their feelings because they are afraid of rejection. Try to talk to him, meet his friends and communicate with him alongside them. It's easier said than done, but try. There is nothing to lose.
I am the same. I liked a colleague at the university and it's as if the story was told on her behalf. The difference is that I invited her once and she refused, and we are nowhere with the chats, because she answers me with 2 words or sinyva only. And yet he makes those attempts that you are talking about and confuses me even more. Like you, I can't get it out of my head, and I've been at a standstill for more than half a year. I understand...
Yes, these little gestures confuse me a lot. Sometimes I even wonder if he's looking at me at all or I'm imagining because I want him to. I really want to know how to forget it ... It's already becoming banal.
I don't know and I have the same situation with the boy I like, only he is in my class .... but for me it's a little more complicated, because one day he looks at me and the next he hangs out with the other girls in the class. who looked at me even my friends told me he looked at me while I was in the back. I don't know what to tell you, I think he likes you, but he's afraid to tell you, because he thinks you'll reject him ... go get close to him next to a friend of his. Or tell someone to introduce you. I think he likes you. ☺
I think he likes you too, but he is afraid of rejection, as H1 said, obviously you are the one who will have to be scared. There is nothing wrong with talking to him, it is better when he is alone, when you talk according to his reactions you will understand how he feels! Success!