Hello, my girlfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. Due to the lack of terrain we did it mainly in the car, vacations here and there, hotels, but mainly at night in the car. Our sex was regular 3-4 times a week. We recently lived together, terrain as much as you want and I expected things to become more frequent, but contrary to logic, they settled down. There can be no question of infidelity and third parties, because I see the emotion in my eyes and other things that say that I am the center of attention. We have already talked 1-2 times, the excuse is stress at work, exams, fatigue and desire to go home just to lie down on the bed and fall asleep. Before, sex was common because she took advantage of the moment when she had it, but now there can always be moments and she prefers to be tomorrow when she has rested. Okay, I understand. But lately we are tired, if not every day, then every other day. I talked to friends, they all say that since they lived together, sex has stopped. Is that so with you? I say again because I know in which direction the comments go most often - I do not worry about third parties in the relationship.
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Well, I'm a woman and now I'm a mother at home and my boyfriend is often tired, of course I don't bother him. There is no problem, it is normal. When I worked I did two jobs and my friend worked half a day and then I had no desire during the week. My advice is to support her and not harass her so as not to lose her.
It doesn't matter if you live together or not. For example, we do it twice a day, at most to miss one day a week if there is no time at all and of course if I am in a cycle.
Absolutely normal situation. However, in addition to sex, there are other commitments in everyday life. However, if it is the first thing for you to do it every day, a problem will arise. Think about your priorities.
I know it's a bit of a cliché, but maybe she's really tired. Why don't you make her dinner, candles, roses, a gift ... just in case. Now, I'm not saying do it every time, but show that you're listening to her and that you want her to be okay. Diversify a bit, go and have sex outside or surprisingly while watching a movie start touching her.
It is perfectly normal to reduce sex after living together. So you had to think about that before you decided to live together.
I will say the opposite to all those who spoke before. If she can when she wants, she does as much as she wants. You can't change anything. But when the baby comes, then another - then things will completely run away. I say this as a person who has gone this way. Then moralists accuse people like me of having lovers.
No! In 19 years of married life, neither I nor my husband have grown cold to each other. Even with age, sex is more frequent than before, and more satisfying. J. 44
I absolutely agree with number 7! My longest relationship was 6 years, there were days when I reached 14-16 hours of shifts and I still spent time.
Quite normal. The thrill goes away, and starting to use a toilet is no longer the same. And if the first child comes, there will be moments when your wife will not have sex at all. Then you can see how much you love the woman next to you and hold on to her. And don't believe so much that married people of 20-30 years have sex every day and it's still amazing and for hours, people are not sex machines. And if nothing but sex connects you, so much the worse.
To number 9: as taken from a textbook. You seem to have absorbed everything your mother instilled in you. To all the conservatives in this forum, the fact that sex is almost a sin for you does not make you great. You are just people who do not know how to have fun. To the author: this man is not sexual at all. I wouldn't bother with him. And I was impotent and screaming. For 4 months I had 5 lovers at the same time. It will kill you at some point. And in conclusion, we are in the 21st century. Moralists to be silent and watch the children dry. I will have a child only from a man who is sexy and cool like me. You just haven't been able to catch one and are content with what you have.
10- He didn't know. I used to run away from my mother to be with the man I love. We have fun, we travel enough, we are well and we do not have to look for five lovers and lovers, we are enough for each other. I don't care what labels you can stick to me - whether you are a moralist or a conservative, you are not the person who will tell me to be silent or talk. For the children - unlike you, I already have them and we look after them with their father. Good luck catching the cool man and at random. :)))