Hello! I have had a problem with being weak since I was a child ... 'Wow, look what a stick you are, you will break, you are a big heel, you are a big grasshopper ... "I have heard all this and much more in my address. Over the years I have more or less trained and let's say that now the situation is one or two ideas better, even for the first time this winter I gained 70 kilograms against the background of my 1. 87 cm height and although I still have about ten kilograms to climb to the cherished goal - 80 kg - I wonder what is the "lesser evil" - to be fat or skinny? What do you think? Let's form a discussion! Let everyone express their opinion, whether they are girls or boys ... So, it's best to have a normal physique, but if you can't ... what do you think is the better alternative - skinny or fat? How do we like each other more, boys? How do you prefer us, girls? :)
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It is best to be athletic, to have developed muscles, thick bones, strong tendons and joints and to have developed aerobic capacity - that is, to be able to run fast. Muscles, thick bones, etc. they are not just for decoration - they are an indicator of health, muscles are not just passive proteins, they are an endocrine organ that produces hormones such as irisin, which suppress the formation of diseases, rejuvenate the body and increase longevity.
we prefer you smart.
Well, both physiques are not an offer but they can be fixed. If I had to choose, I would choose a weak one for several reasons: First, when you are overweight, you have difficulty moving, you start to have pain in your legs and knees, your gait is distorted because your arch falls from there, and lower back pain is harder. you find clothes, you are prone to sweat more than Vesko Marinov, there is a risk of diabetes heart problems and a number of other things, you need 2 places in the city, your letter is always out and walks 3 days after you, missing or almost none attention from the fairer sex, believe me, the complexes make fun of the fat ones more than the weak ones, you close yourself in, you become antisocial, your life goes away like that. The weak also have flaws, everyone complains to you because they think they will spit on you and you will drown, the stronger wind is not your friend, the clothes wear you and you don't wear them, people think you're shaking too. I do not want to offend anyone, this is said by a person who was also overweight and now I am taking my gait after I did not pay attention to the fact that I am already in shape but the health injuries are still there, I still have problems with my lower back and legs. as instead of steps I have shovels due to the lack of an arch. Change is a very good thing and you don't have to do it to pay public opinion tax, just for your own sake. Success and admiration for all who want to change themselves and their lives. I do not want to offend anyone, this is said by a person who was also overweight and now I am picking up my gait after I did not pay attention to the fact that I am already in shape but the health injuries are still there, I still have problems with my lower back and legs. as instead of steps I have shovels due to the lack of an arch. Change is a very good thing and you should not do it to pay public opinion tax, but simply for your own sake. Success and admiration for all who want to change themselves and their lives. I do not want to offend anyone, this is said by a person who was also overweight and now I am taking my gait after I did not pay attention to the fact that I am already in shape but the health injuries are still there, I still have problems with my lower back and legs. as instead of steps I have shovels due to the lack of an arch. Change is a very good thing and you should not do it to pay public opinion tax, but simply for your own sake. Success and admiration for all who want to change themselves and their lives.
I think it's better to be weak. As you are fat, you constantly have to consider what you eat and feel guilty if you eat a piece of manure or chocolate. Maybe because I'm already 34 years old, I don't care what people think of me anymore, but it's much more important for me to be able to eat what I want. Unfortunately, I'm fat and it doesn't work.
Take care of your health. When a person is healthy on the inside, it is evident on the outside. And as for what kind of men like "women" (whatever this general concept means given the individual tastes and preferences of each woman) - in most cases we like confident, purposeful, supported men. Men who strive not only to look good on the outside, but also to broaden their horizons, enrich themselves intellectually, and see more than one point of view. A woman would prefer hundreds of thousands of times a crooked, fluffy, short man who likes himself the way he is and has a healthy self-esteem over an athletic but overly anxious, even outspoken, insecure, and emotionally unstable young man. This is what the many topics say not only to men, but also to ladies here on the site, I quote: " multivitamins. When you love yourself on the inside, it shows on the outside. And you don't have to ask who likes you how much, or change because of him. Simply because you make your decisions and are at peace with yourself. I wish you to achieve it! Success! Evelyn multivitamins. When you love yourself on the inside, it shows on the outside. And you don't have to ask who likes you how much, or change because of him. Simply because you make your decisions and are at peace with yourself. I wish you to achieve it! Success! Evelyn
Yes yes yes, I had planned to write a few lines, but number 2 said it exactly in 3 words.
Better skinny. In time, you will inevitably gain weight.
I am a woman. I have always preferred thin, slender men. For me, a few pounds less is definitely preferable to a few pounds more. Of course, all kinds of people, but there are definitely women you will like. For your height, a few more pounds on top would be good, but if not, pay attention to other aspects of your appearance and it should all be six.
Skinny is more of an aesthetic problem, while being overweight is dangerous to health. If you lose your health, you will only care about women. Train, eat right, you will upload. And rejoice that you are not full.
I don't like skinny boys, it's a funny sight to have a normal body and boys to have weaker legs than me or us girls. :)
Quite a difficult question - in both extremes. In general, as commented 2, we prefer you to be smart, but since we are not talking about qualities and character, but about physique and appearance, I personally prefer fuller. I don't know for what reason. I don't know under "fat" what people imagine .. everyone is different .. skinny I don't like, I don't want to offend you, but I personally have never been attracted to weak men .. here comes the funny part, my ex-boyfriend was very weak. Yes, and I don't know what happened, I just fell in love with him, his body was the last thing that impressed me. I just liked it and fell in love over time. Excluding the qualities, I've always looked at bigger boys, men. As you want to call them ... they attract me. Not muscular, not bones ... not terribly thick ... but full, with a belly. I find it masculine and sweet for a man to be bigger than myself. Somehow you feel calm, as if he can protect me. I don't know how to explain it to you, but it's up to the man. now that I remember once again I liked a very good friend, he was squat. Obviously we come again to the character and value of man. Make your own conclusions .. maybe I'm weird too: D He doesn't know, but he doesn't bother .. it's cliché, but it's really not only the appearance that matters, as I gave you examples I've fallen for weak men and everything it came from the fact that I got to know them ... maybe if I just saw him from the side I wouldn't look at him, but I got to know them. now that I remember once again I liked a very good friend, he was squat. Obviously we come again to the character and value of man. Make your own conclusions .. maybe I'm weird too: D He doesn't know, but he doesn't bother .. it's cliché, but it's really not only the appearance that matters, as I gave you examples I've fallen for weak men and everything it came from the fact that I got to know them ... maybe if I just saw him from the side I wouldn't look at him, but I got to know them. now that I remember once again I liked a very good friend, he was squat. Obviously we come again to the character and value of man. Make your own conclusions .. maybe I'm weird too: D He doesn't know, but he doesn't bother .. it's cliché, but it's really not only the appearance that matters, as I gave you examples I've fallen for weak men and everything it came from the fact that I got to know them ... maybe if I just saw him from the side I wouldn't look at him, but I got to know them.
Skinny better than thick. There is a specific question man, what witty in the comments? F19
If I have to choose between thick and thin - weak. Definitely!
I'm sorry and I know that some people won't like my opinion, but I don't like skinny or fat people! Of course, an athletic physique is preferable, but normal, thin (not skinny) and full (not fat) are also aesthetic. And this is first and foremost taking care of yourself. How can I be with a person who has nothing to do with myself? As for "smartness" - let's stop with clichés, please! Yes, the physical is not enough for a long-term relationship in any case! Perfect physique is only sexual, but for the rest you need much more. And yet - let's be honest! Someone may be a wonderful person, but to physically repel us - well, are we going to have sex with him? So the physical is the first signal and is important, and then we understand if there is a prospect for something more! This is the naked truth for both sexes! G30
When I was 17-20 years old I had the same problem that I am thin and I want to be more, I was 60 kg. (184 tall) and I always wanted to climb, I imagined that I wanted to be 80 kilograms, I was crammed with pizzas and all sorts of things, imagining that I would climb from them, but no ... I was thin, I had natural tiles. When I was 20, I enrolled in a gym with the idea of gaining muscle mass and actually gaining another kilogram .. But a person's life changes with the years before I was a student, I did not realize that I walked up and down every day and I walked at least 12 km and my metabolism was fast .. Now years later I am 37 and I still want to be 80 kg, but not to gain but to lose, because I am 110 kg ... and again I go to the gym and I still learn to walk every day and walk 10-12 km.
Better skinny that fat is a tragedy.
My husband is weak and has shared similar emotions. If you move and exercise, you will have a well-shaped body. I have always liked such men, tough, hardy. A pile of steroid muscles that have no function are just a joke to me. So exercise, eat and don't listen to them. In our latitudes, the bellies are perceived as normal, but it is not.
Number 2, you pretend to be smart (if you're a woman) and say "we prefer you to be smart." (with a small initial letter, which few would find a sign of mind), but the facts are such that it matters what men you choose, not what you say you prefer. :) Let's not pretend to be very baked behind the keyboard, because society sees very clearly what kind of men the majority of women prefer. The mind is third or last in the list of your preferences! There are 2-3% of women who mostly value the man's temperament and mind, but they are just an exception to the general rule.
Athletic men. Well, if they are smart, even better. Let her be young and beautiful, no matter how rich, as they said in a joke.
I'm number one - Let's be honest with both men and women. I know very well what kind of physique women like and I train to have such physique and accordingly it has an effect, thank God. This is not just a personal opinion, I have read research on what type of male body women find irresistible and sexy and it is neither weak nor fat. It is athletic, the most important ratio is between the circumference of the shoulders and that of the waist, meaning broad shoulders and a narrow waist. This subconsciously speaks of good health, strength, athleticism and excellent genes.
Number 19 on whether someone chooses to write "you" - in uppercase or lowercase does not predict whether he is smart. At most to predict whether he is literate. Although I wouldn't judge by that either. This here is an informal conversation, whether we will express ourselves to each other too politely is a matter of choice. And from the fact that you judge a woman's mind by a small letter, I judge how smart you are. I will tell the author, if the man impressed me I would accept it anyway. The skinny one will get stronger, the fat one will lose weight, but the simple one ....
If I have to choose between skinny and thick-skinny. Both are extremes, but being fat is worse. It will be soft and relaxed everywhere, it will hang. Have you seen a man with tits? Disgust! I'm not talking about gynecomastia, it's a disease. Breasts obtained from thickness and stagnant life. It is best with a normal to athletic physique.
Skinny is better (unless it is a sign of anorexia), because any non-functional, excess flesh is a source of toxins, toxins released into the body. And aesthetically skinny is better accepted. At first reading the topic seems a bit vain, but at second reading I approve of it - everyone should take care of themselves, to have some standard or something, to strive for aesthetics, a healthy look for self-confidence both in clothing and in the body. Swimming would be good for you - in general, you develop a harmonious body. Success!
to 2/22 Dear, 19 does not refer to the pronoun, but to the fact that you start the sentence with a small letter. You prefer smart ones, but you will not be an equal partner in this case. And the author asks a specific question, I join the others, skinny is better.
I'm number 19. Number 22, you have a wrong idea about things and in your opinion you confirm this several times. Think open-mindedly! Number 2 wrote a sentence that read, "We prefer you to be smart.", Which I mentioned was "with a small initial letter that few would find a sign of intelligence." Do you know what a lowercase sentence is? One that is incorrectly started with a lowercase letter, in this case the word "we prefer". A smart woman would immediately think of that. And the word "you" is spelled correctly, because it is plural. You should also be aware of this, as it turned out that the conversation was insignificant (formal, English). This is how I judge how smart a woman is - whether after checking this sentence she will be able to find where the mistake was made. And this in opinion 22 clearly shows that it has not been done. In addition, in several places you misspelled words with an incomplete article, although you had to write them with a complete one. He also didn't write a few commas. And I hope you remember in the future that it is not said "overestimates", but "overestimates". From these many things, I judge how smart a woman is. If she is very smart, she will not go so far as to neglect her speech and then justify why she did not write competently. The strangest thing is that you apologize for the mistakes you made, because the conversation was insignificant and because of that it could be illiterate. Do you have a duplicitous way of expressing yourself - one literate when on official occasions, and one illiterate when writing on forums? I will tell you something that is evident from practice: When a person is essentially literate, he does not do it under duress, but because that is how he has learned and it is second nature for him to use correct means of expression. The literate person does not write very illiterately - neither in documents nor in forums. He writes equally well everywhere. And when you claim that you judge a lot (I quote: "And from the fact that you judge a woman's mind by a small letter, I judge how smart you are."), What did you manage to judge for me?
I have never fallen in love with a "normal" looking man: two skinny and one prone to gaining weight, and at certain times frankly fat. None of them play sports. Behavior: strange birds. Only one of them with money above average (because the whole forum is buzzing on this topic). All with enviable intellectual baggage, however :) Alpha, g. 29
Number 27, why aren't all these men with "enviable mental baggage" next to you now? What were the reasons so serious that you even broke up?
I adore skinny men, for which I make a lot of mockery. I guess girls like me are a minority, but you still know we exist. With a normal physique ... if he is a good person: D Fat - no. Big, inflated - not either.
I prefer skinny to fat, but I can be with a full man if it intrigues me in any way. I myself am a few extra pounds (due to illness, otherwise I eat healthy and exercise) and I'm used to being soft :) My only concern would be if the person is frankly not interested in his physique and does not consider it a problem to eat pizza every evening. No matter what body he has, it would be difficult for me to have a deep relationship with such a person, because he openly declares in this way that he is not interested in himself. If he doesn't have the opportunity to look at himself, what can I expect in the future as an attitude towards me? ;-) Those who are breastfed with misconceptions about food and on a psychological level can not give up bad habits, are ok. I get into their situation. In most cases, they still try to change,
The physique is not the most important. Naturally, tall, athletic, muscular, but not a bodybuilder, but a swimmer, is the most attractive to me, but it's only in appearance, without knowing it. In practice, other things prevail - attitude, self-confidence, interests, etc. I liked quite thin and fuller men, I was with someone who looks thin in clothes, but when he undresses, there is a lot of bacon for at the expense of poorly-developed muscles, but he was very smart and funny, and a good, devoted lover. For us women, the body is not a decisive factor, as for men, because we are not so visual. Not that I don't like a tight man with tiles, but if I met a full man who is nice and intriguing to me, I wouldn't even think about it, the same with the too weak one. It is important that we match, be charming and have an attraction. If I have to choose between too thin and too thick, I will probably choose the thick one, as long as it is not 120 kg. If it can move freely and doesn't suffocate when we climb a hill, then it's okay. However, if he is the one who goes to the store by car, if Apollo wants to be, I don't want him. It is important to match the mentality - my ex weighed 5-10 kg, but everywhere he walked by bike or on foot. It's just like that - he likes to eat and move, which is ideal. But there were other flaws ... I'm also a few extra pounds, so I have no claims on the body of the other. But I swim and ride a bike every day and I claim that the person next to me also likes to move regardless of his physique. However, if he is the one who goes to the store by car, if he wants to be Apollo, I don't want him. It is important to match the mentality - my ex weighed 5-10 kg, but everywhere he walked by bike or on foot. It's just like that - he likes to eat and move, which is ideal. But there were other flaws ... I'm also a few extra pounds, so I have no claims on the body of the other. But I swim and ride a bike every day and I claim that the person next to me also likes to move regardless of his physique. However, if he is the one who goes to the store by car, if he wants to be Apollo, I don't want him. It is important to match the mentality - my ex weighed 5-10 kg, but everywhere he walked by bike or on foot. It's just like that - he likes to eat and move, which is ideal. But there were other flaws ... I'm also a few extra pounds, so I have no claims on the body of the other. But I swim and ride a bike every day and I claim that the person next to me also likes to move regardless of his physique. therefore, I have no claims on the body of the other person. But I swim and ride a bike every day and I claim that the person next to me also likes to move regardless of his physique. therefore, I have no claims on the body of the other person. But I swim and ride a bike every day and I claim that the person next to me also likes to move regardless of his physique.
Number 30, I've been coming back to your comment a few times and I can't believe my eyes. You say that it will be difficult for you to have a deep relationship with a person who eats pizza every night, no matter what body he has, I guess regardless of other advantages. Why do you hate pizza so much? !!
Number 32, you ask a very good question to number 30! :) I'm going to run now and then I'll eat pizza! I don't hate her, I adore her!
Oh no, physique is important from many points of view. I will first give an example that trained men are resilient to extreme conditions. The second is that this is a guarantee of a healthy genetic code for their generation. Furthermore, it is inadequate to claim that the visual is not important for the simple reason that instincts turn on just then. Inadequate p and to see a slender chick with a full boy, because for him there are fat girls. The lack of visual completeness is a problem not for the aesthetes, but for nature. And the people who challenge it are either angry and complex, or they are brutal horses with caps. I don't care that some chubby lady will be a nice interlocutor, I want sex. It is also true for women that the vision predisposes to stronger desires. Fact.