Hello, I have a friend of 9 years, over the years he has always had an interest in other girls and women. I constantly caught him looking at photos, chatting with others, he found one and it became interesting to him. I have always forgiven. Once we were separated for 6 months because he had totally lost interest in me. He broke his leg during the time we were not together and after a while he sent me a huge bouquet as an apology and I accepted it, we got along and went to live with him. I'm pregnant with him now, but I accidentally found out that he was constantly chatting with his colleague. I no longer know what is right and what is wrong, do you think this is normal, his behavior? Do I have to put up with my boyfriend being constantly interested in others? Now it's different, I'm carrying a child that makes me think, did it seem to commit to this person? P. I came across a chat with his friend some time ago, where he tells him that in 6 months he has not found anything more readable than me, he went out, he lived his life while I cried for our relationship. What advice would you give me?
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Girl, you saw what he was like, why did you get pregnant from him? He is the same as my ex. These people are constantly looking for others, if you ask them why - and they themselves do not know. Such a search usually leads to finding, keep in mind. My ex, as it turned out later, also played a lot with different people, until in the end he fell violently one by one. Which led to a logical end to our relationship. Dual life is not for everyone.
Kick her that male whore. Immediately!
You send him to seek his fortune. Such a man is not made a child, nor is he served. He has reconciled with you, he has passed for these 6 months for sure, you are the fool who accepts him after the other women. I have an ex who thinks that I am the door that will always be open for him when it doesn't work out. But he did not know. Don't be a reserve for anyone. Only then will you be well in life.
It is very foolish of you to get pregnant by such a person. Absolute gambler and miserable, mishkar. It will not change, it will get worse, especially after the birth of the child you will no longer be even a little woman in his eyes. He took you because you're comfortable with him for some reason, but he really wants to play leagues on other women, flirt, and so on. If you can look after the child alone, be sure to dump him. It will ruin your life even more the moment you find someone "more readable". A complete wretch.
What makes you think that after "so much" time a person should change and not deal with others? In general, why do women like you think that a man accustomed to receiving more attention from the opposite sex will change for some reason? Do you also think that when you give birth to a child, something will change? I have no advice, I give you the options that are in front of you - a single mother, a woman with wide eyes or pretend that you do not see the obvious and pray that she still looks at you with your child. The third option is an open relationship, and again you hope that he will not lose his mind in another and then you go to option 1. This is the situation, not thinking before acting ....
The author: He seems to tell me that he loves me, he is happy to have a child. I also have strong feelings for him. But why does this happen, isn't he a commodity and have I been mistaken so far? Should I remove the child, do I still have a chance? How can I escape from it, as my whole life so far has been connected with it, 9 years is really a long time? Should I grab something and give it another chance? Are there any decent men at all who don't throw themselves at anyone else? I am totally confused. Maybe I'm very jealous ... maybe I should be okay, he's interested in other women and I still don't think that's ok. I have to constantly play the role of a fagot who has to stop his desires for others. I'm sick. In the end, I will come out bad, that I looked at his personal space, I am referring to some kind of chat. But why did I look, because I stumbled upon it some time ago.
to 6 of 3 There are faithful men, just not yours. Listen to the rest of the comments, and save yourself the trouble. Such as the one with the shovel to shovel them. The most insulting thing I've heard from this ex is that the other chooses the other in front of me. Fate turned so that she abandoned him, and ran to me again. But those numbers don't work anymore. Never be a backup and second quality woman and man. You deserve to be the only choice of a man.
Author, you are not sick, you are not crazy or too jealous. He is the one who crosses all boundaries. It is not normal to stare non-stop and chat with different colleagues. I fully understand that you are in love and hold on to it, trying to justify it and force yourself to be patient, but the writers here are not emotionally engaged and we can look more sober. Think very carefully about the price you are willing to pay to be with this person. As the saying goes, there is no free lunch - if your relationship is more important to you than the fact that you salivate on every skirt, ok. Somehow you will get used to living with it. But if you can't reconcile, don't force yourself. It is quite possible that he loves you in some way and is happy to start a family with you. Maybe you are good, exemplary, comfortable for your partner and mother. This does not stop him from teasing and wanting other women. Many people care about their family - they take care of their spouse and children, but they look for someone else and manage to draw a clear line between the two. In these cases, one does not interfere with the other. In the end, he said it to himself in that chat - he reads it, obviously about a serious relationship. The women he falls in love with are obviously for fun, sex, fleeting passions. Personally, I find his behavior extremely offensive and humiliating. Moreover, you feel how you have become a powder that just lurks. This is NOT your job, a normal relationship does not go that way. Only you can decide about the child. As I said above, when it starts to show and after you are born, you will completely take on the role of mother and housewife, you will completely become a comfortable and meek friend who suffers from oligophrenia. She will become even more impudent, she will not look at you like a woman at all. I deeply doubt it will change. Think about whether you yourself want to have a child at the moment, only your opinion is important. But please don't think that having a baby will solve your problems. Usually many couples (especially women) are misled that this will strengthen and fix the relationship. In 95% of cases this is not true, things only get more complicated. He may want to play dad while surrounding various babes, but in this case, his opinion has no weight, because his behavior is hellishly unworthy and disgusting. There are decent men, but there are very few. The tables are a kind of middle ground - they like to look at each other, fantasize, discuss, etc., but without who knows what real actions. However, yours does not belong to them, because his behavior is completely whore. Years ago, I went with someone who was tormented by a hole, he offered threesomes in front of me to various girls, told me that nothing could help me (relative to my appearance) and what not. The worst relationship in my life, a complete scumbag. Watch what he does, not what he says. № 4
The author: Thank you very much for all the comments, I started to look at things a little more soberly, I hope I get better somehow.
Много хора ще скочат сега, но ако наистина е достатъчно рано, направи аборт. Ще си почерниш живота с такъв човек. 9 години сте били заедно, не е малко, обаче стотици пъти по-лошия вариант е да те изостави с малко детенце или пък с две.Пак казвам, щом постоянно се оглежда за нещо, в един момент ще намери някоя дето му се струва по-хубава, по-интересна и по-подходяща за него. Очевидно той не държи на собственият си избор на партньорка, защото смята,че си лесно заменяема. Затова търси. Напълно е възможно да има чувства към теб, да вижда положителните ти качества, не бих го нарекла любов, но по някакъв начин държи на теб като човек. Само че отношението му показва повърхностност и несериозност.С една дума - не става.Не се създават деца с такъв човек, а още по-трудно е да се отгледат. Видях и преживях това. Бягай докато е време,момиче! Както са казали и другите по-горе, когато се роди детето той ще стане още по-нагъл. Моят бивш например с ехидна усмивчица казваше "абе къде ще ходиш с две деца", нагъл до безобразие. Е, накрая разбра, че той отива на майната си. Децата пораснаха и се справихме добре и без неговото зловредно присъствие.
What advice do you expect to receive? You know what you have to do, but you didn't do it in time ... I see you as another single mother.
You shouldn't have opened his electronics! These are personal belongings! What is there, you do not care! It's like opening someone's mailbox or entering someone's home without the knowledge of the host! You just don't care, know your limits - what's right and what's not! Is that how you were brought up, I can't understand? Because I'm not brought up like that - I'm already 36 and I haven't even thought of touching something foreign! I don't have a boyfriend, but when I do, if he does that, I'll ask the same question, "Is that how they raised you? You're not ashamed!" Burn your mind and don't make that mistake again! And to write with others, he hasn't abandoned you so far, has he? It's been 9 years - if it was someone else, it would have been your penalty a long time ago!
Another girl deceived by a rascal that she is in love with him or that he clings to her. Girl, burn your brains and have at least a little self-esteem. Then it will become clear to you that you should have dumped him in the first year, let alone became pregnant by him. He will not change and will not magically love you just because you are pregnant, it is even more likely that the opposite will happen.
10, we found out about your bitter experience, but here is another person in whom you recognize the former. Stop for a moment. Aetorke, you are already pregnant and not your first youth. Good bad, a little late you thought to think. Where have you been so far? Hold your baby and move on.
You can't find another fool to tolerate his polygamy, but he wanted a child ... Do you realize how fucked up you are? The bad thing is that you fucked your child.
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I wonder if these men let them mess with people like Mara in common, so they will pass the sexually transmitted diseases only to their wives, it can ignite the world from there, but that's another topic :)
Number 15, I know it's personal space, but sometimes people need information. When you feel threatened, you have the right to know if your fears are justified. The question is fundamental. And a woman whose laundry is always full of coins tells you, because my husband forgets to take them out of his pants pockets, and I'm not comfortable reaching. That's how I was brought up. But! When a lady started asking him for services more and more often, and he answered my direct questions evasively, I opened their chat and read it. Why? Because I have the right to know what is happening to my own life. The result was (I don't want to go into details) that I canceled the wedding. We continue to live together, but I will not legally commit to this man because I do not trust him. He's a good lover and for now this suits me,