Hello I want to share my problem and I really want you to give me some advice on what to do or in some way to motivate me with something, I will really be very grateful to you My problem consists of two things. The first thing is that I can not be myself I'm afraid of exposing myself to others and not being thought of as a fool, in a word it depends on the opinion of others which really strains me a lot, I constantly think that no one likes me, does not respect me, that I behave stupidly, that's why others don't like me, I communicate very hard with some people, and I communicate with someone completely freely. The other problem is that I have some anxiety, for example if I eat in front of other people, if I am close to a boy even if I don't know him, if I see an acquaintance on the street I try to avoid him, if I am among many people I still have this anxiety but for a while ,,
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Do you want to solve the problem of your dependence on the opinion of others by asking for encouragement and compliments here? It won't happen, it won't help. Either talk to a psychologist, or start reading articles and books on the subject. You can't wait for others to solve your problem. It is immature.
First, people (just like you) are much more focused on themselves than on others. In other words, no one is staring at you as much as you think. Second, people like it when someone doesn't care very much. That is, it is not the event itself that exposes you, but your anxiety. When you worry, it arouses other people's worries and becomes uncomfortable for everyone. So, you have nothing to worry about, no one's universe revolves around you and your actions. And if you miss something so much, accept it with a sense of humor and you will even enjoy it.
I think you need to think about the things you love when you're among these people and not fall into other thoughts. Just think about what makes you happy.
The answers and decisions are locked inside you. Get to know yourself better and you will find ways to solve every obstacle in your life. From what you have written, I see that you have low self-esteem. This is improved by setting goals and achieving them. I advise you to come up with things that you can achieve by the end of this year and write them down on a piece of paper. Be specific and your goal should be measurable. For example: "I will start going to the gym and lose 5 kg in 1 month." Another very important thing is the comfort zone. If you do not get out of it - you will not have development. You have the whole internet available, read a little about it and the fears in general. Fear is a very important feeling because it guides you. Find out exactly what you are afraid of and run AGAINST your fear! Not FROM him! There is no way to motivate you and by magic to become the person you want to be. It is a long process filled with many difficulties that make them stronger. In time, you will be grateful for all the difficult moments, because you will realize what they have taught you. If none of this helps, I really advise you to go to a psychologist (there is nothing shameful, it is common for people in the West to have a personal therapist). They are professionals and understand what is happening to you at a given moment. You will talk about your childhood and when you first felt that you were insufficient, for example. I advise you to understand my words and I wish you success! Keep your head up! If none of this helps, I really advise you to go to a psychologist (there is nothing shameful, it is common for people in the West to have a personal therapist). They are professionals and understand what is happening to you at a given moment. You will talk about your childhood and when you first felt that you were insufficient, for example. I advise you to understand my words and I wish you success! Keep your head up! If none of this helps, I really advise you to go to a psychologist (there is nothing shameful, it is common for people in the West to have a personal therapist). They are professionals and understand what is happening to you at a given moment. You will talk about your childhood and when you first felt that you were insufficient, for example. I advise you to understand my words and I wish you success! Keep your head up!
I have accepted for myself that I do not feel good between people. I arranged my life so that I would not have to go out and communicate. In this way I had a natural desire to talk to a stranger about three times a month. Knowing that I do not do it out of duty, I am very calm, I smile, I show a lively interest in the life and personality of the person on the other side. Of course, I communicate with some more freely than with others. There is nothing wrong with choosing your company, it is even desirable. Besides, I already like to eat in a restaurant, and almost every meal is at home. Another thing, in the small settlements people stare a lot. I feel much better in Sofia than in the countryside. Others have told me that they feel bad in Sofia as well, but they have found a city abroad where they feel better.