I would very much like to share the problem I have and hear opinions on it, because it has weighed on me for a long time and I have no one to share it with. My husband and I have a private business and, as you can guess, we are constantly together - both at work and at home - 24 hours a day. Apart from that, he is a homemaker and likes to stay at home. And when we go out as a family with someone, he still doesn't go without me. I love him, I'm interested in him, but I need personal space, and he doesn't understand it - if I tell him to go out without me, he doesn't want to. And if I decide to go somewhere for coffee with a friend - no problem, but one thing starts - well, what will I do until you come, what will I eat, etc. and I feel guilty. Don't get me wrong - he's a very strong and independent person, but he just needs to be around him all the time, and I'm suffocating. I will be grateful to all,
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Women really don't know what you want ...
Yes ... he is a very strong and independent person, with the small exception of behaving like a little baby! :) Honestly - I don't see you together. Personally, I can't imagine being with such an obsessive and dependent person around the clock.
You habitually LIE to yourself. The truth is, you don't "like" him, whatever that means. Basically today - men become attached and live with a woman, women have nothing in themselves, they are without a root, where the wind pulls them, they cling to this, then to another ... and you are drawn to the same syndrome. Too bad for your husband. I am a man and if I have a wife and she tells me - I need personal space, I go with "girlfriends", I'm bored, I go my way directly, there is no such benefit ... The common ones are "paid", but not every man falls for such!
Well go out in spite of everything with a girlfriend, you will not die of hunger or boredom. My friend also doesn't like to go out much, two or three times a month he has enough, and I can go out to discos and bars every day. At first I was naughty to tell him that I wanted to go out without him, especially after the arrival of our baby, but gradually I got used to it - I want him to come with me, if he refuses - I go out alone. In your case, tell him that you want to talk to your girlfriend in a feminine way, do not feel guilty, it is quite normal to steal time just for you at least once a week.
Well go out in spite of everything with a girlfriend, you will not die of hunger or boredom. My friend also doesn't like to go out much, two or three times a month he has enough, and I can go out to discos and bars every day. At first I was naughty to tell him that I wanted to go out without him, especially after the arrival of our baby, but gradually I got used to it - I want him to come with me, if he refuses - I go out alone. In your case, tell him that you want to talk to your girlfriend in a feminine way, do not feel guilty, it is quite normal to steal time just for you at least once a week.
Exactly the same thing I thought, 2. "What am I going to do, what am I going to eat?" That he does not know what he will do alone or does not want to prepare food for himself and his wife. he is not a man. If he wants to make millions from his business. And he restricts the man next to him, he wants to fasten it to his pants. I know how rude it sounds, sorry for that. I do not want to offend the author in any way, but inside the situation she clearly does not see what is seen from the side. Advice? When living with someone, there must be an understanding between the two. If you can't tell him anything, because he won't hear and understand you, and accordingly - you him, it doesn't happen ... They need mutual understanding, respect for the person, respect and consideration for the other on both sides. You have to be able to tell him what weighs on you, bothers you, etc ... and let him understand and take it into account ... just as he, in turn, if he says something to you, you must show understanding. Otherwise, cohabitation becomes hell. No sense in telling you now - I don't wanna ruin the suprise. from there.
I think you should talk to him ... and the comment on number 2 seems drastic and too frivolous!
Make time for yourself, because then it will be too late. You're even late. These are sticky people living through the other. At first you may have had fun, but now you understand what it is about. He is not a strong person, on the contrary, he is insecure. He may be strong in pragmatic business decisions, but emotionally he is dependent and weak. I guess he's jealous for no reason. Your only chance is easy - to slowly defend your personal space - time without it. Every normal person needs contact with other people, alone, without a boyfriend, husband, etc. Walks alone - too. The more time passes, the more nervous you will become and the more he will resist the new in your relationship. Just explain to him how you feel that this is important to you and you will do it.
Don't think so. Pay attention to him.