Soulmate - Struggle?

   He lives in another country, there is an age difference, some struggle is needed. I do not understand what kind of relationship there may be in this case. Don't run into some married, old pervert, paralyzed and now you're ready to do anything to get him. Ma, isn't he given without a fight? What a man, 'nachi !?

   Haha, nothing like that! Our difference is eight years. I have not rushed to any radical decisions, I just often think about it lately and I wonder if I could make any decisions in the future so that I can initiate our meeting. - the author

   I had a friend who kept telling me that when two people are kindred spirits, you don't have to fight for the relationship. Of course, I am very stubborn and I always argued with him on the subject, but time passed and I understood the meaning of his words. There is always a struggle - some small, with circumstances, but the idea is that when you are written with someone you always find the way to each other and it happens easily, without scandals, without disputes, without feeling the difficulties, as if you go over them and they do not you weigh not at all. About your questions. I met my partner a little strangely. We were in the same school, he had graduated, I was in my senior year. I knew a lot about him from friends, I saw him and talked to people from his company, not knowing that this was exactly the man. I knew his relatives, I heard from them, but I did not know him. We found ourselves in a social network, in a few days I found out who he really was and we met. Subsequently, it turned out that we missed each other many times. I haven't sacrificed much, or at least I don't feel like a victim. I have changed a little or a lot and fit in with him, and I am a person who is strongly against adjustment. I reduced my stubbornness, stopped being so proud, and began to accept his help. I came to terms with certain circumstances, in another situation with another person I would never come to terms with anything. I realized that he was ready to fight and sacrifice himself through time. He was trying to understand me, holding me tight while I was angry with him. The moment we quarreled, one of us always rooted the problem without grumbling. He didn't kill me with a pillow while he slept, and honestly, if I went with me, I would probably kill myself. He says the same about himself. For the first year, we proved to each other every day that we cared for each other. We are both very difficult characters, so we didn't have a problem with "fighting", the problem was with humility. I want to tell you that when you both care enough about the other, things just happen, there are no questions, you know you will endure everything. You get to know each other, you learn how you react in all kinds of situations and you are not angry that one is not happy, you know why he is not and how it will go. Every relationship has difficulties, one feels things from the very beginning. I had a relationship with a man I adored, I was dying for him, but inwardly I knew she wasn't my partner. We spent years together, I can still say how he feels without even seeing him, but I never felt that he was the person I would spend my life happily with. Listen to yourself,

   Aren't your feelings only for his money?

   My opinion is that there is no such thing as real or real. You can feel strong love for anyone who is related to you in some way, you find yourself close and you enjoy it. There are no kindred spirits who are born to be together, no matter where in the world they are. There are souls who are alike, they are called kindred, kindred as people who are not necessarily partners in life. Your question is, would he feel the same attraction to you if you initiated your meeting? Maybe yes, maybe not at all. It all depends on the attitude of a person and what stage of his life he is in, whether he is a seeker, whether he has found what he wanted, etc. If he is on the same wave as you - there is a dose of probability, but if he is on a radically different wave - he won't even notice you.

   I'm sure he noticed me, for the simple reason that we talked for hours ... like it hadn't happened to both of us. We instantly adjusted, I felt it, so did he. Number 4, don't worry about my feelings, they don't have that essence. He is even a little at the other extreme in terms of financial situation.

   Invite him on a trip or vacation in BG, see yourself and it will become clear if something will happen between you. Or you go on a trip to his country.

   Tragically. Anyway. I met him when my friend wasn't in the country for about a month. We went for a walk, I would not go out with another. I went out with him because he is a decent and smart boy, of course not secretly from his friend. Then we started talking and communicating. It was very nice to talk to him, because he understood me in an amazing way, he made me feel good and we managed to talk to each other from things that were left to us as childhood traumas to business ideas and what not. The night before my birthday, he told me that he had prepared a present for me. I insisted on seeing each other to get it. It was the best gift I ever received - a book. Later I realized that he had bought it for himself, but he thought that I needed this book more, so he decided to give it to me. That night we went to an unusual place to walk at that time - a forest. He kissed me among falling branches and flying bats. My dearest memory. I will not go into details. You fall in love at the wrong time. People with luck will find their soul mate at the right time, and I obviously deserve suffering.

   My story is a bit like the movies. He is from my mother's hometown, but when they married my father they came to Varna. So last summer, when I was visiting my grandfather, on the first day I went out with my best friend from there and at one point she called her friend, with whom she had been dating for less than a week, to come to the park. of the city to see each other and hell as a good friend to judge whether it is suitable for her. However, when he came he was with his best friend and from afar the difference between her friend and my future (I still didn't know) was obvious. Hers was ... well ... a short, full-bodied boy with a football-like hairdo, slightly emaciated, grinning at his ears like a jester, with a suit and his hands in his pockets. And the boy next to him looks like a young man, if we compare them. Tall, slender, well-dressed, straight back, lush dark hair, serious and honest face. A majestic figure with his name - Kaloyan <3. And maybe it would have been love at first sight, if my goal was not to appreciate the other boy ... When they shook hands to meet, first of course I met the other boy - he handed it sluggishly, slightly bent, you grinned again said the name. And my boy - a strong tight hand, shook my hand as it is done, said his name again serious. Again, the difference is obvious. Then he told me how he kept his eyes on me and kept asking his friend when we would see each other again. The next day I went out with Anna again and she offered to meet them and I agreed. There were four of us and at one point we ran out of ideas on what to do, so I offered to watch scary movies (I love them) and they agreed. Then the four of us huddled on the couch for three in a basement and watched the movie, as the only light came from the laptop. My boy was curled up in the corner to be comfortable for me, and because he has a very wide back, at one point he came in more and stretched one arm on the back of the sofa, because he couldn't take it anymore, and then Anna took his hand and my he put it on his shoulder and we looked at each other and smiled. All the time before and after, every time Anna and hers started slapping, we laughed because we were embarrassed and I wanted to hug him all the time, but I was afraid he wouldn't think of something about me, since I wouldn't throw myself at the first one I met.

The next night, Anna had left me alone with them, and he called two more of his friends, and since there was nothing to do again, I deliberately suggested that we play "Challenge or Truth." he deliberately chose a challenge, and his best friend deliberately challenged him to kiss me. I made myself inaccessible, but I couldn't resist. And on the third day after our acquaintance we were already together. The night before my expected return (I had rehearsals with the Opera) I was lying in it, he was hugging me and crying that I was leaving. I was the first girl to cry about. He wanted to stay, I said no way, but the next day I realized I had three more days and when I told him he was the happiest boy in the world. IT HAS BEEN VERY LONG. About the sacrifices I made: I devoted most of my time to him, we talked all the time on the phone and he still didn't have enough; it was my first time with him, after which he was very jealous, because he saw what was happening to the people around him and the girls before me had left irreparable damage to him; I gave up opera for many reasons, we kept arguing because he felt opera was more important than him;

I gave all my money for tickets there to see each other; I saw my friends less often; and in general it is because I am a good girl and I have no bad habits His victims: she refused to go out only with girls; he went to the cafes less and less; he saved all his money for tickets for me, for gifts for him to come, he even stopped buying cigarettes to have more money; stopped going to discos and parties with friends; he generally turned his back on his old way of life, everyone asked him what was wrong with him and told me how much he had changed for me. We got along with each other, we got used to our peculiarities and we have been together for two years and two months now, despite the daily quarrels, the many insults, the piles of problems, which we do ourselves and even his attempts to make me correct myself by interfering with other girls. We have overcome everything together and it seems to be so for a long time, because we have thought about the future thousands of times and hopefully it will not give us any shocking surprises ... We love each other, love each other!