Girl, 19 years old. I have been working since the 8th grade and for a year now I no longer live with ours, but with my friend, with whom we share the household expenses. Because ours have always been limited, from the moment I started working I developed a shopping obsession. I couldn't believe that I already had my own money with which I could buy whatever I wanted and wear whatever I wanted, not the second-hand clothes. Over time, this became a mania, which in the beginning was expressed in the purchase of makeup and cosmetics, and now in the purchase of clothes! Because my job is such that I rely on tips over BGN 1,000 per month and maybe 40% of them I spend on myself. When I feel bad, some upset me or I have a problem, a new lipstick instantly improves my mood and makes me feel good. Of course, the more expensive I buy, the happier I feel. Right now I'm dreaming of a Pandora's watch and I've only been browsing the internet for a few days ... is this normal ?? My friend says that I am a typical woman and it was normal for such things to make me so happy and I think he is not bothered by my mania. Don't I have complexes or something like that ??
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Poor immature soul ...
Yes, you have complexes. A watch is a bit dumb in my opinion to buy in the 21st century, but that's my opinion, my taste. You should know that most people have hellish complexes for nothing, especially here in Bulgaria. So - CALM. If you pay with your money for your expenses, there is absolutely no problem. Spend and be happy !! Just don't put in any loans for anything.
My friend is exactly the same, as a child theirs did not have the opportunity and is now catching up. We have been together for 3 years, the income started from 600 per month, now it is around 2000 and no matter, in the middle of the month it is always without money, just the purchases become more expensive. Glasses for 400, a coat for 900, shoes for 500 and so on ... At the beginning it didn't bother me, but lately it has started to irritate me at 2000 salary to run out of money and still complain that it doesn't. She spends her money on nonsense for herself, and then I have to pay for vacations, walks, restaurants, etc. When I buy something expensive for my hobbies, I get angry that instead of going somewhere, I gave them for this. It is not normal. In my opinion, he changed his priorities, because in this way you will be without money for the rest of your life, even with a salary of 10,000, I know such people.
It is perfectly normal, given that at some point in your life, you have lived more modestly. I don't see anything wrong with indulging in nice, branded clothes and accessories, with the money you make with honest work. Now is the time to dress, make up and indulge in some pampering. This "shopping mania", as you call it, would be a problem if you buy unnecessary things that would not come into use, just to satisfy the need to buy something. If your purchases work, you use them and they make you feel good in your skin, I don't think there is any problem. Only, I would give you advice that I think you will not need. While you make decent money, try to save a small amount of your salary (BGN 40, 50) every month, in case you find yourself in an unforeseen situation. I do this with every salary and when something goes wrong, I have money available to cover my current expenses. Good day from me! :)
In my opinion, absolutely normal, I'm the same! Or at least I used to make more money. Now I'm both angry that I don't have it anymore, and I'm stupid for what "gas things" I've spent before. The worst thing is that the habit remains and develops and to earn and have, like a drug! Tip, try to keep your salary. Don't become greedy! Many shiny things are useless for a person with an income of about 1000 BGN. and once you buy them, the price usually drops a lot.
You will shop, you will be satisfied and you will realize that the consumer life is empty and it is much more important what we leave behind than what we consume. Congratulations on working so early, but you are still young and you will still realize many things. Imagine that your grandmother is taking stock of her life, she will hardly be aware of how many lipsticks you had and how many clothes you accumulated, and how many people you helped, what you left behind - family, professionally, what You have experienced emotions, what friendships you have made ... It is not a problem to dress well, to feel beautiful, but it is a problem if this is the only thing you strive for and do not develop in other aspects. Go to a theater, an exhibition, read a book, watch a movie, go to the mountains with friends, visit new places, help people in need, develop professionally and when you feel complete in all aspects - you will feel much more confident and you will see what an insignificant part of life it is just to buy something. Life is rich in emotions and opportunities, go beyond this framework of an ordinary consumer and you will feel much better ... At least it is full of such, do not be another, be something more! I believe you will achieve it - you are only 19 years old. Think about what you want to leave behind, how you want to be remembered :) I believe you will achieve it - you are only 19 years old. Think about what you want to leave behind, how you want to be remembered :) I believe you will achieve it - you are only 19 years old. Think about what you want to leave behind, how you want to be remembered :)
Spending out of habit without the need for purchases is harmful in any case. Life can develop in an unpleasant way - you will be overwhelmed with things, clothes, shoes that you do not use; penury (if you get sick, for example, and have no insurance); many bad habits in the future, to continue spending more and more at some point you will get full and wonder why it does not satisfy you by increasing the amount spent on meaningless things. To shake off this, you can try a preliminary budget at the beginning of each month or a salary, allocating how much you will spend in advance. Watch this video as a start and you will come up with ideas. Ignore the ad at the end. https://youtu.be/aFjLhFtRFh8 10 s
I am a 21 year old girl and I know completely how you feel. I'm the same. When I am angry, sad, disappointed, I go and buy some clothes or make-up and I always want them to be expensive, I look at Chanel cosmetics, lipsticks for 80 . Cheap things make me unhappy. The problem is that I don't work and I make my parents give me money, it's sweeter for me to spend other people's money. When I have my own money, I hide it and I don't want to touch it. For me, Pandora is something cheap, I have bracelets and rings from there, but they are very basic for what I want. I still don't carry everything I have from there. I also have rings with diamonds of BGN 3,000 and they are not good for me. Now I am obsessed with having a Rolex watch made of pure gold and the one I liked is 32,000 euros. I will never have it and that makes me angry.
This is an instinct left to us from prehistoric times, when we were hunters and relied on collecting what we could to survive. Since it was very rare in those days to have something in stock, everything that was considered valuable was plundered. Today, we value things most often in terms of money, as well as "how cool something is". A jacket for 1,800 definitely seems much better than this, for BGN 79.99, especially if it looks better. Unfortunately, today you take the jacket, leave it in the "peera" and then see a new one. One process takes place in your head "I need it", and you take it, and your brain says "need satisfied". Think about it, the next time you feel the urge to taste something you don't really need or at least there is a bit of a cheaper alternative.