Girl, 17 years old. I have always been a very contact person, I have many and really good friends to whom I am so grateful that they are by my side. I'm not spiteful, I rarely get angry and I forgive easily. In general, I have no problems communicating with people and maintaining good relations with them, but here is a similar situation. We train dances (unprofessionally) and he is my partner. Things came together somehow and we have been dancing together for 2 years now. I have never been attracted to it, but it is a fact that it causes quite mixed feelings in me. As a character, he is not my type at all - arrogant, quite tactless and a little arrogant, but as I said, that's how things went. He never treated me badly and we've always been friends, but lately, more and more often I feel easily replaced by him - as if he doesn't care if it's me or someone else in my place I get annoyed when he dances with a certain girl from the group who doesn't respect me at all. I wouldn't say it's jealousy, I just don't like how his attitude towards me can hurt me. It may sound presumptuous and impudent, but it is. I talked to him about the girl in question and told him how I felt, and he made a deep apology to me for the way he made me feel. Everything was fine. BUT lately this is starting to happen again (I had personal problems and I didn't particularly like training) and I have no right to forbid or restrict him, so I just withdrew and it's a fact that things are not going our way and he mentioned to a friend that I distanced myself from, he tried to talk to me, I didn't want to and he gave up. It's hard for me to overcome my pride and think about the most sensible way to act ... a little help? Thanks! ; d
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Well, if his arrogance has taken on the appearance of self-confidence that came from the qualities that you also notice in him, it is no wonder that you have started to like him. However, you are partners and you want him not to be so close to her, precisely because of her attitude towards you.
I understood the whole story well, but I can't figure out exactly what advice you want from the audience. You want the boy to come back to you and not be reflected at all by the one where you are uncomfortable. Meaning I understand you perfectly well, you probably don't like that he pays more attention to the other girl, and yet you are closer to him, because he has been your partner for 2 years. I'm of the opinion that you probably like him, and you're even in love with him, but you don't realize it, I think you're jealous of him, and you're annoyed by the fact that you're nothing more to him than another partner or girl. I am well acquainted with this situation. For a very long time I was interested in a boy who I couldn't even stand because of his character, but later in time I started to realize that this is exactly what attracted me to him, I started to like him. I think I was exactly your age. I'm 20: D now, if it matters. However, my experience boils down to the fact that the one I liked was a complete asshole, a bit of a womanizer, but he definitely had a taste for girls who were worth it, but I never found out who I was for him - never. And he was so very careful, he always apologized especially to the girls. He and I were the complete antithesis of each other, always conflicted personalities. Eventually, he became the boyfriend of a girl who might fit him. She's just like him, cocky and more confident than I am. And so far he is with her. The boy in question was from my class. : d. Well, in my opinion, you did well, I'm still quite proud and I understand you, you didn't get involved in unnecessary intrigues, who danced with whom. You have clearly told him that you do not like to pay too much attention to her, to dance with the girl who does not respect you. It's true that you can't stop him from restricting who he dances with. And I think you did the right thing by pulling away. What else can you do. After he continues to deal with it again, although probably you as his partner should be more interested in him. But it's his choice. Why should he turn you on to his little simpleton and complain to your girlfriends that you are distancing him. You did the right thing. I don't know, this is a typical gender problem: D. Understanding boys and girls about the same thing. It's just that we girls are more sensitive and over-analyze how our actions will be interpreted. While boys are not so obsessed with it. My advice is do not get involved in unnecessary intrigue and nonsense, by not giving it to your partner, he pulls the fuck out of the male and doesn't think so much. : D PS: I don't hope he understands female psychology or understands your pride at all.
Author: Did I mention that I'm really sure I don't feel for him .. let me do it again; dd Regarding the advice I'm looking for - I'm rather wondering if I should permanently withdraw from him or try to talk to him once again on the matter, which may be a small problem for me;